was i stupid not to notice,or was she so smart to hide it?
do i contact the man's wife and let her know as i suspect he/they may harm the woman to shack-up with my so-called wife.
2007-11-04 11:40:33 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. Contact the man's wife on the way to your lawyer's office. Move out while she prepares for her big departure. Nuff said.
2007-11-04 11:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Kalyfran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hunny I am a psychologist as well & yes a lot of people blame the other person of cheating when in fact they have cheated but blame their partner because they feel guilty and become suspicious of nothing. On the other hand your wife depending on her age can be going through menopause this is known to cause very erratic behavior and is very hard on women. Another possibility is that she is suffering front anxiety &/or depresion this explains the drugs & sleeping so often, no matter what it is she should stop taking any & all medications that do not have significant benefits. You should try couples therapy & find someone who you have common thoughts goals and you feel comfortable being honest with. If you would like to talk more please email me @ LYNDSEYLD @ gmail . Com
2016-05-27 09:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rough! It will probably take a fair amount of time and reflection to understand what exactly went wrong (and how and why this went undiscovered). Don't contact the man's wife, it's just not your place. It may seem like a tempting thing to do, but it could create more problems and hurt feelings. You might also feel like exacting some kind of revenge, but it won't change what happened. You need to take care of yourself, now it's time to move on with your own life.
2007-11-04 11:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, women are the best cheaters. They can smile, and grin in your face and all along they are sleeping with Tom, Dick, and Harry. 30 yrs married and cheating ? You didnt have any intuition at all? Well, she is genius. Some times behavior changes, attitude changes, and even emotional changes show cheating ways. I guess you never actually sat down and paid attention to what was going on all that time. You arent stupid, I would say leave it all alone, get a divorce, and focus on you. As far as calling the mans wife, dont you think thats a tad bit out of line ? Now its starting to sound like a Jerry vs Maury show.
Good Luck
2007-11-04 11:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are definately not stupid, and she was slick about it-NOT smart. This is exactly why I don't believe in marriage. I wish I could and its sad that I don't.
I think you need to approach your wife and let her know that you know (if you haven't already) and I would inform the man's wife. She deserves to know.....but be careful, sometimes when you try to fix things, more conflict is the only result you get.
Im sorry about your situation, and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-11-04 11:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should let the mans wife know; it is time both your wife and he dealt with their indescretions, lies and deceit.
You are not stupid; you are trusting and it makes you feel stupid and foolish to have believed in her. She is the one who is the stupid, foolish one. And yes, she was a great deceiver for a long time, as was her lover.
Why do you feel they may harm this mans wife if it is found out? If so, you better let her know about it all as she needs to get away from him, and fast.
2007-11-04 11:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should divorce this lady now!! She is not a good wife if she is cheating on you. You need to call this man's wife and tell her that your wife is having a secret relationship with her husband. Or you could have a one on one talk with his wife privately. This is serious. I suggest you should find a new wife. These cheaters are lowlife and pathetic.
2007-11-04 11:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man that's just awful. I'm very sorry to hear this. The best thing you can do is move on. Don't try and start drama by letting the lover's wife know unless of course you think you might have contracted an STD.
I say seek counseling. It's the best way to heal this wound.
2007-11-04 11:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Call the wife and warn her, call these cheaters out on their deeds, dump the floozy and get you a good lawyer. It does not matter if you were smart then or not be smart now and wake up and smell the infidelity
2007-11-04 11:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have been a little naive. She probably had help cheating by a friend or that man giving her advise. I would tell the mans wife. Tell her to check his cell phone records for proof. And, just for spite tell her your wife has "Herpes"
2007-11-04 12:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by south of france 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋