Why is it socially and legally frowned upon?

Question

for men to display any kind of anger? They are either called a..holes, accused of being an abuser, and have the police called on them. Women are encouraged to be aggressive and assertive yet men are denied this. Your opinions please.

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A lot of angry women answering this question it seems.

Answer 1

Women are not encourged to be aggressive. All people are encouraged to be assertive. Anger is not productive, and usually leads to actions that are dangerous. You need to reexamine your base premise, as it is totally misguided.

Answer 2

Where I live, in the South, it's the opposite. If a woman expresses anger, she's immediately labeled a 'biotch' Women are not encouraged to be aggressive or assertive, and it angers me to no end that a lot of times I don't get an 'issue' resolved with a supplier or vendor UNLESS I get all bitchy and whiney. When I'm polite and gracious, people IGNORE my issues. When I get angry and mean, they suddenly do what they should have been from the start.

So unfair. I see no such issues with Men. Men don't even have to express anger and people pay attention to their issues and complaints.

Answer 3

You must be confusing anger with aggression. I think it is socially frowned upon if the anger is not controlled and aggressive behavior occurs which can then lead to legal issues. This pertains to any person male or female. I think you are just trying to get others to side with you in your attempt say that society and the legal system has failed you when it has made you accountable for when you get bent out of shape and feel like giving some female the one two.

Answer 4

I never understood why women are sympathised with when they're angry, while men are locked up (for looking at someone too long or whatever - especially if the recipient of the look is female).

I don't get how feminists can pretend that men are encouraged to be angry... it makes NO sense at all.

Answer 5

Anger is a normal human emotion. Hitting others or degrading others is not okay-be it from men or women.

Abusers can be both male and female.

Believe it or not, there is a psychological researcher named Nikki Crick who argues that both men and women are aggressive, but just in different ways.

Answer 6

Ignorance, bigotry, jealousy. Different people have different biases and prejudices and try to impose those on other people. There's nothing wrong with experimenting with, dating, or even marrying a cousin. There are some countries and a little over half of US states where the bigotry against marriage equality extends to preventing first cousins from marrying, but there are many places where marrying a first cousin is legal and common. There is no rational moral reason for keeping laws or taboos against consanguineous sex or marriage. Personal disgust or religion is only a reason why one person would not want to marry their cousin, not why someone else shouldn't do it. An adult should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with ANY consenting adults. Youthful experimentation between close relatives close in age is not uncommon, and there are more people than you'd think out there who are in lifelong healthy, happy relationships with a close relative. It isn't for everyone, but we're not all going to want to have each other's love lives, now are we? Some people try to justify their prejudice against consanguineous sex and marriage by being part-time eugenicists and saying that such relationships inevitably lead to “mutant” or “deformed” babies. This argument can be refuted on several fronts. 1. Some consanguineous relationships involve only people of the same gender. 2. Not all mixed-gender relationships birth biological children. 3. Most births to consanguineous parents do not produce children with significant birth defects or other genetic problems; while births to other parents do sometimes have birth defects. 4. We don’t prevent other people from marrying or deny them their reproductive rights based on increased odds of passing along a genetic problem or inherited disease. It is true that in general, children born to consanguineous parents have an increased chance of these problems than those born to nonconsanguineous parents, but the odds are still minimal. Unless someone is willing to deny reproductive rights and medical privacy to others and force everyone to take genetic tests and bar carriers and the congenitally disabled and women over 35 from having children, then equal protection principles prevent this from being a justification to bar this freedom of association and freedom to marry. Some say "Your cousin should not be your lover." That is not a reason. It begs the question. Many people have many relationships that have more than one aspect. Some women say their sister is their best friend. Why can’t their cousin be a wife, too? Some say “There are so many people outside of your family." There are plenty of people within one’s own race, too, but that is no reason to ban interracial marriage. So, this isn't a good reason either. Some people who say it is wrong seem to have no problem with complete strangers having sex. So get over it, all of you who want your personal disgust to dictate the lives of others. (There's nothing wrong with anyone being gay, by the way.)

Answer 7

You are speaking of two different situations. Yes, men are arrested if they abuse others, as are women. Women are encouraged to become more aggressive...like men...in the work place to achieve higher status and success in their careers. But no one is encouraged to be aggressive outside of the work place.

Answer 8

*laughing * I just answered a question that was exactly the same, only reversed.
In my life I see men getting angry as more accepted. But when women get angry they're seen as unbalanced, nuts, ect.
A big generalization, and maybe more in the older generations.

Answer 9

It seems to me that, generally speaking, men are both more aggressive, as well as more capable of doing damage (intimidation, assault, abuse, etc.) with that aggression. I don't really see a double standard.

In fact, I don't really agree that men are denied anything in terms of anger. I think the emotion is disliked, independent of gender, because it is frequently associated with a loss of control. Emotional and mental instability is much feared in an anxious society like the U.S.

Answer 10

well im guessing because its seen that if a man cannot control his anger he may do something abusive? im not saying he actually will..but if he did and he was stronger then he may hurt someone really bad..

where as if women get angry ppl do not see them as threats because they are supposed to be weaker so they couldnt possibly do much damage..

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