Men, what are you thinking if and when......?

Question

You hold a door open for a woman or help her if she falls or drops something.....That's if you do help a woman.
When you're helping a woman, do you automatically think that the woman is weak and therefore needs help, do you look down on her?
Or are you the kind of man who just likes to be helpful and not discriminate? You just want to be nice to another person and would also help another man if required?

Answer 1

No I don't discriminate, I would ask anyone male or female if the were OK if I thought they had hurt themselves in a fall. And as for the open door thing if someone is walking behind me going through a door I would hold it open for them, just common courtesy.

Answer 2

"When you're helping a woman, do you automatically think that the woman is weak and therefore needs help, do you look down on her?"

No! I would help the person becasue i respect him/her as a human being not because the person is a man or a woman. Women who don't respect me don't deserve my respect in return.

"Or are you the kind of man who just likes to be helpful and not discriminate? You just want to be nice to another person and would also help another man if required?""

Yup.

Answer 3

Not likely to help a man in most circumstances unless its clearly needed to avoid injury or damage, though would definatly assist a Women in anything. Women generally are attractive which gives pleasure to a man, and having them do physical things deters from that attractive feminity - also by providing assistance you increase the chance of having a direct interaction which equates to a more pleasurible experiance for the man. So its all selfish really, for our own pleasure.... but done with proper limits it does provide a useful help to the Women too.

Answer 4

For me, I consider the woman the fairer sex. Many men "show off" or perform "hero" acts to gain favortism.

I simply prefer to respect the fairer sex with the respect she deserves. If it scores me points, that's fine. If not, that's fine also.

And, if a woman opens a door for me, I smile and say "thank you"....the only reply required.

PS. If a man is going through a door and another man is behind him, he usually holds it open for the other guy also, he just plays it down.

I think most people are helpful to others regardless of the reason and I personally don't look at it as a sexist thing. But, I also don't smile at a guy when I hold the door open for him.

Answer 5

A couple of nights ago I went to a party with a guy friend of mine. We decided for him to drive, not because I don't have a car or don't know how to drive, but I was wearing heels and felt more comfortable just sitting in the passenger seat. He didn't mind, he actually told me he likes driving at night....

We got to the party and the host told us to help ourselves and get food. I was already feeling like we're at the party together and he has taken care of my wish by driving and even opening the door, so I asked him what he wanted me to get him... and brought him a plate back. Not because he didn't have the ability to get up and get food or that he saw it as my obligation to feed him due to the historical oppression of women, but because I was making the trip, he was good to me and I felt good letting him sit while I did something nice for him.

We both enjoyed the food, the party and when we were going home, I was happy to, once again, not having to drive.

Some would have called this sexist. I called it equality. We both felt good and taken care of by the end of the night.

Answer 6

When I help someone up, I near always think "age..." rather than gender.
There is NO way on Earth I would leave an old man fallen in favour of a younger woman. The age sets the standard for me, not the gender.

Answer 7

I usually do it because I'm nice, but sometimes because I'm chivalrous. I have zero problem with chivalry, as long as it's acknowledged as such and there's an understanding that an expectation of chivalry negates certain aspects of feminism. A woman shouldn't expect guys to take care of her (even in little ways) and then complain she doesn't have as many opportunities.

Answer 8

Pay it forward...great movie, but I guess you could question someones motives if he holds the door open for a beautiful woman, but not for someone else...each person is unique, just like everyone else, your mileage may vary.

Answer 9

You know, chivalry is nice. I know a lot of women have a problem with it, but I think it's them that have the problem, not the chivalrous man. I had problems with it for ages, I was certainly not used to seeing my dad treat my mum that way, so it made me hugely uncomfortable to be treated that way myself. Eventually through careful pummelling by a couple of good men, I can accept it politely and graciously. I consider this a personal improvement. I think I'm entitled to be treated with a certain amount of chivalry, but I also think the men who treat me that way are entitled to be thanked nicely, put on my list of people to be particularly nice to if the opportunity arises and recommended to my single friends :)
Having had this sort of conversation with guys in the past, I've arrived at the conclusion that most want to be moderately chivalrous most of the time and want to be treated like nice fellas because of it. They don't think women are weak, they just like it when women like them and know chivalry is a good way to be liked. Except by those women who throw it back in their face. After that, those women get treated like bad mannered people; which is to be expected really. Guys like to be thanked and smiled at, so I don't know why it can be so difficult for women to do that.
One of our friends was brought by his mum to be chivalrous as she thinks it's the best way to get girls. She was single, so I guess she didn't meet any suitably chivalrous men. He turned out gay, so it hasn't helped him get girls, but I'm told it's helped him get guys. And yes, he is still chivalrous towards girls :)

Answer 10

no..id laugh and then kick them in the butt..

ok ok..im joking! hopefully ppl will read past that first sentence.

anyhow i am in fact very polite so no matter who it is i would actually help.

im sure if do this if i was a man too...but im not...

i think..( looks down pants...) nope nothing sticking out down there!