Do you think it's bad that I prefer to be involved with men who have money and are older than me?

Question

I'm 26. older like 34 and up (preferable up to about 42 or so).

I'm single and looking towards the future.

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with being a superficial gold digger if you are open and honest about it and the men you get involved with are aware of that from the beginning.

Answer 2

Money is a reality these days, as long as your thinking of it in the right way. Ill give you an example. Right now im not looking to get married because im looking to egt my business in order with some online projects. everything i do is geared to try to get me to that point. Now if ur looking to get married or get involved with a man because u want beautiful gifts or to be spoiled this isnt love and u will be happy on the outside but never on the inside and eventually this relationship will end up like over 70% of marriages in america, IN DIVORCE!!!!!

Not only that but ur kids will grow up in single parent unloved homes. Like i said every decision u make now has positive or negative repurcussions on your future and the future of your future family and future kids. Thinking about money is ok but it has to be for a legitimate reason and your intentions have to be geared towards finding love and family. Can u compare money to the love of 2 parents that really love each other?

Answer 3

I don't think it is bad at all...Its about you being happy...and if money is what makes you happy, go for it..I believe it is nice to have financial security but without true love, it means nothing..at least thats the way I feel.. Just remember,, when you are 46, he will be 62 and when you are 56, he will be 72..I know you would more compatible with someone your own age but if this is what you want, nothing no one could say would change your mind. I really think you would be with someone older, more for the money, than love...that wouldn't be a marriage, that would be more like you are looking for someone to take care of you...kinda like a father... But do whatever floats your boat, I'm sure there are alot of other money minded women out there just like you...

Answer 4

This is a common practice around the world. Women in a lot of countries will give up a hot body for financial security. Older men are more established in their careers and possessions. Just make sure you are involved because you get along with him and are compatable with him. There are a lot of available and established older men that would love to meet someone like you. Good Hunting.

Answer 5

It's not wrong if you want to date a more established man. I know I prefer men at least 3 years my senior, because I feel they are on my level of emotional maturity. I also like the fact that older men know what they want from life - where they are headed in their careers, and most importantly, what they want from a partner and what they expect from a relationship. This means I know where I stand in their lives, and if the relationship is going to last. They also tend to not play head games like younger men do. Being financially secure also helps, but it isn't the most important factor for me. Having said that, it definitely works in a man's favour if he is financially secure. If you know what you want, go and get, as long as it is for all the right reasons. Don't let other people judge you - if this is what is right for you, don't hesitate to pursue it.

Answer 6

Do I think it is bad - No - Only if you are doing it for the wrong reasons - People have preferences - you can' change that - it is no different than someone liking blondes over brunettes - it is just a like or dislike - You like older men - so if you see and older man that makes you feel goos and you the same for him and you can love that person unconditionaly -than go for it - Love is Love! There are no age limitations!

Answer 7

It's fine with me honey. That way there are plenty of lonely young men who grateful and happy to form a relationship with a woman who is older than them (like 10-15 years or so) even if she DOESN'T have money -- or at least is smart enough not to spend it on them. We just LOVE that 10 minute recovery time, if you know what I mean.

Answer 8

No. But I understand that would be a very convenient way to get cash. However, the complications and unhappiness make it "not worth it". One more point. You'll only find very controlling and tyrannical men who'll expect you to obey their every whim...I know what you're thinking..."All men are like that"...It's just that men with lots of money have actual leverage over you...I wouldn't do it. Have your own leverage going into a relationship.

Answer 9

i think age has nothing to do with it, but money will, remember as a rule of thumb the one with the money makes the rules so if you don't mind being told what to do all the time then try it out, as for age older men may give you more insight to daily life or just a different view on things..!

Answer 10

If you are looking for the future, then, YES. Money is good but, not a substitute for love. You will regret it at age 35. At that point, you will be divorced and won't have as much of your looks to rely on. Get involved for love.

Answer 11

Well its really up to you. A secure man is preferable. I think we can all agree to that one. But there is such a thing as love and if you just go for someone because they are older and have money then you are selling yourself short. The man will feel he owns you, and you will feel you are owned. And as they say,,"if you marry for money you will earn every last cent" That alone doesnt give me much comfort