hi, I'm alexia... I'm 23. The thing is that like 6 months ago I met this guy, he's 33... I met him at work, and we becamen close. We had lunch together, talked on the phone almost all day, we talked a lot abput our lives... we were really good friends. Well... he has a wife, and three children. His wife is like... well... a model I think, she is so beautiful, and his kids are really cute too.
We just hang out a lot, and talked a lot, but I started to feel like his mistress you know... we weren't doing anything, but still, his wife obviously doesn't know of my existence ...
And well... like a month ago, we were talking about our situation, and he told me he was in love with me... and well I am in love with him too... but... he told me also that he is in love with his wife too!! excellent... i tried to avoid him for a while but it was impossible, and 2 weeks ago we kissed and ... I don't feel bad about it...
2007-11-04 10:28:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, he's still with his wife and in love with her. Back off and find love that is all your own. You deserve someone 100% - not some older, married guy.
2007-11-04 10:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jem 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are committing adultery and you should feel bad about it. His head must be so big, he can hardly get through the revolving door between you and his wife. You are being used cheap. Of course he's in love with you both, he's getting his cake and eating it too. He vowed before God to be faithful to his wife. He has broken his wedding vows.
He is totally disrespecting his wife and you. Don't be so shallow as to think he wants anything from you, other than free sex, get away from him. Adultery is a sin with dire consequences. You have free will to commit this sin, but you can not decide the consequences and you will pay them. Run far and fast. Get another job some where else. Find some one single. Adultery can be fatal. Wait until his wife finds out about you. You may not live long after she does.
2007-11-04 18:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is possible... But the love he feels is different for each of you.. If he doesn't change his life and pick one of you over the other and continues to see both of you than this is not fair to any of you: Him, you and his wife......I have had friends that have been on both sides of this situation, male and female...Most of my friends in this situation have either gotten caught or ended up heartbroken because the Guy or woman ended up choosing their spouses.... However there were 2 couples I knew (guy married and woman married) where they divorced their spouses and ended up with their mistress/mister!..... so either way someone ends up getting hurt...hope this helps a bit...
2007-11-04 19:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by cinnamon dolce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible to love 2 women at the same time. but honestly i dont think its the case here. i'm not sure if he will leave his wife and kids for you....i think he only said he loves you just to keep you around. basically, that's what you are....his mistress. there is no future for you two. you should leave him before things get to complicated with you guys. what if his wife finds out? do you really want to get involved with someone who cant really be with you? has to sneak around to spend time with you. and when he goes home to his wife...who he loves....how will you feel?..jealous?
again, it would be the right thing for you to leave him and forget about him. he is cheating on his wife...that right there should be a red light that he's not a good person. how can he cheat and hurt his wife if he loves her?
2007-11-04 19:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful here. He probably does have feelings for you both. But the reality is he will most likely not leave his wife, and she and the kids will ALWAYS come before you.
You don't want to be the one to shatter this marriage, and I'm sure he doesn't even consider leaving, it will cost him everything. You won't mean much to him when he is done playing with you. Tough situation, but you need to look for someone who is really available. Tell him if it's meant to be, it will happen in the future, but not now. You will end up being the one hurt here.
2007-11-04 18:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might be possible for a man to want to have two women, but very few societies will accept it. Don't be a part of this. RUN away. If he truly loves his wife... he needs to work out the problems they have. I really doubt she would want to share him with you. Think of the pain the betrayal will cause her and what people will think of you. Do, you want this? Stay away from married men. I beg you.
2007-11-04 19:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to love more than one person, sure. But to truly love is to give your all and you can't give your all to two people. One of you will get the short end of the stick, as it were. Why take a chance on it being you? You love who you love but think if you were his wife and he was your husband. How would you feel then?
2007-11-04 18:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you feel like his MISTRESS because you ARE just that. that man is running game on you and you are too young to know the game. leave this man alone he is out for your innocence and youth. he is not leaving his wife and kids. and you should not get yourself involved in such a mess. this is a no win situation for YOU all the way around. because he is not going to leave her and she is not going to leave him once she finds out about you. sweetie please do yourself a life favor CUT all ties with this man he means you no good. he will only bring you pain, and confusion. life is too short to be playing games. find you a single an available man. and move on with your life. GodBless
2007-11-04 19:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to avoid him isn't enough alone; have you thought about getting a transfer? Do all you can to cut off contact. Respect yourself and don't let him use you. Even if he loves you, he'll never be able to give you the exclusive love and friendship that you deserve; and there are other guys out there who will.
2007-11-04 18:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by lorelei 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like someone either running from his responsibilities or a player. Either way you get the short end of the stick. You need a real man not a emotional dumping ground.
2007-11-04 18:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Martha S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋