well me and my husband has problems he has cheated on me twice and we fight of financial things all the time i have a son and baby on the way with him so if any one knows what to do plz tell me.
2007-11-04 10:15:40 · 12 answers · asked by maggie_roberts16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get marriage counseling.
2007-11-04 10:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I went through this when I was pregnant with our 2nd baby (not the cheating part - just the financial pressures and fighting about it). Not easy as when you're pregnant your hormones are all over the place anyway!
I sympathise with your situation, and if you need to, feel free to message me on here... there's not a lot I can do to help except to say keep the lines of communication open. You both need to stop fighting (it does you or the baby no good), and you need to come together and work solutions out on all the problems. It's hard, and I'm sure it won't get easier too quickly... but stick with it. You need him (and he does need you)... you both will realise that. Getting over this hurdle will make you a lot stronger in the long run.
The main concern I have for you is his cheating. If that is happening then maybe staying together is not an option. You both need to sit down and communicate. You don't deserve to be betrayed like that - not even once.
Good luck :)
2007-11-04 18:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a place to go? Can your family help you? You are the one who has to determine how many times you will tolerate his cheating. My heart goes out to you. Anyone here can say why this or why that but you need real help. Do you have a church family? Maybe you can go to a church that will help with food or utilities if you are tight financially. It is time for your husband to make some decisions. What kind of role model does he want to be for his children. I would like you to see if this marriage can be saved. Your husband needs to Man-Up.
2007-11-04 18:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Proverbs twenty7 7teen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to know what WE think you should do - Leave him.... Now. If you are willing to put up with his cheating and are happy with the life you are living - then stay - But don't think that you should stay with him ... because of the children. They will grow up in a home that is full of bitterness and unhappiness... You and I both know that - If you need to talk about what you should do - please feel free to email me directly... I have been there - and trust me - it hurts and I cried and I made sacrifices for the sake of the kids. But, I am HAPPILY married to the best man now... He loves my kids so much that hee treats them Like they are his own flesh and blood. This didn't hapen overnight - It was a long time coming and I had to learn to love myself first - before things started to change for the better in my life. I can be a sounding board if you need one. Don't let this hurt continue too long... It never goes away... But, you can learn to file it under mistakes made and move on. I will pray for you and keep you in my prayers... Be well - All of you (baby on board) as well...
2007-11-04 18:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there are children involved you and your husband owe it to them to do all you can to try to make your marriage work. Get some marriage counseling and individual counseling for yourself if he refuses to go to therapy. If money is tight you could look into what kind of counseling services the state you live in provides. If nothing else, there may be some self help books for people who are experiencing the problems you face.
Whatever you do don't ignore the problems, they won't just go away.
Best of luck to you dear.
2007-11-04 18:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by grtchi09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up for one thing, he cheated on your twice, how many more times does he have to before you get the idea.
2007-11-04 18:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol that snot an yes or no question. If he cheats on you over and over again then he dosent respect you in the less and is not worthy of ur love do you want ur baby to learn that it's ok to lie and chet ? if so then stay with the A**
2007-11-04 18:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by xbashop23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You created the situation, now you have to deal with it. Strangers on the internet cannot fix your life, only you can do that. Why did you sleep with and get knocked up by him if life is so bad with him? That was your choice and you made it. You need to compromise on financial things. Seek counseling.
2007-11-04 18:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
perhaps try and cool things down a little and perhaps begin to maybe even love him again, not for you, not for him but for your heavenly child, it so difficult for children to be brought up in the cruel world, especially with divorced/ 1 parent
good luk, i know u'll find way :)
2007-11-04 18:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Crunkd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get out if you can,he's never gonna change, thats too bad,but you deserve to be with someone who's not gonna put you in harms way, too many disease's out there. move on
2007-11-04 18:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by poopsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋