Is it wrong that I am married and in love with another person?

Question

married almost three years in Jan..he's abusive and very controlling..I have known the other guy since him and I were kids and I didn't know my husband very long before we got married..

Answer 1

Yes.

Answer 2

I think you know the answer to this one. You are probably feeling a bit guilty too. But I can understand how that can happen. Sometimes, the relationship can take a turn where you are no longer feeling what you need from it. Try to make things work at home and figure out what it is that you're not getting out of your relationship, then talk to your spouse about it. Don't look outside the marriage for a solution to whatever may be wrong in it.

Answer 3

Yes--it is VERY wrong. Turn your attention to your spouse, and concentrate on that relationship.
The "love" you feel is probably more like "lust".


If your husband is abusive & controlling, LEAVE. File for divorce, and when it is final, only THEN should you pursue anything with the other man.

The longer you wait to get out of an abusive situation, the harder it is. If you have no family or friends to help you, seek out a woman's shelter---that's what they are THERE for.
And HURRY!

Answer 4

depending on how long youv'e been married, this is normal.but you must understand that what your feeling probably isnt love its more like lust.When you think of marrige and spending the rest of your life with that one person it may seem scary but focus on what made you fall in love with your spouse and re-kindle that flame. i can guarentee that if you weighed the two against each other your spouse will be the one who knows you better, would stand by you no matter what,and do anything for you, your most probably experiencing the end of the "honeymoon season" find something new and exiting to share with your spouse to put some fire back into your relation ship. good luck

Answer 5

Yes

Answer 6

all depends on the circumstances - how long you've been married and why you've fallen out of love with your husband, and feel the need to seek that emotional and physical closeness with someone else. there is nothing wrong in realising that your marriage isn't working - people fall in love with other people for all sorts of reasons - a violent partner, differing interests and priorities, apathy, loss of sex life and/or affection, laziness, lack of respect, humiliation, drug/alcohol addiction, posessiveness etc etc. the moral dilemma lies in how you choose to deal with that.

if you feel you can resolve the problems with your marriage, then you need to do so, and steer clear of this other person. otherwise, you need to confront your partner and explain the situation. it will hurt; it's bad enough knowing your spouse has met someone else, but it's far far worse finding out that they've been cheating on you.

i know one person who had an affair - but once we'd found out what her husband was like, no one could blame her. he was out most of the time, and communication had broken down - one night when she'd cooked dinner with the plan of them having a night in (she'd told him that morning), his mates turned up at their house, and with them as an audience, he made it fairly clear that he'd rather go out, watch the footie and get pissed, than spend an evening in with her. she was in an affair for a few months, and things carried with them for a few weeks after she left her husband, but they didn't work out. she's now seeing someone completely new; he's lovely and has been really supportive through her divorce proceedings.

Answer 7

Yes. Don't dabble in an emotional affair. Get some distance from that relationship and begin again with your spouse. Look for ways you can rebuild love and trust in your own marriage.

Answer 8

Yes! Why do you have ask a silly question like that.. If your married your married.. If you love another man get UN married... Then what will you find another to love and do them same/\?" come on be married.....

Answer 9

I am going to buck the trend in the other answers and say:

No, it is not wrong.
However: acting on that WOULD be wrong, barring some very unusual circumstances. Circumstances like you might find in a novel.

Answer 10

Yes, especially if you betray your spouse by acting upon those feelings. You need to speak with your spouse and seek counseling, if your mind and heart are straying from your marriage, something is missing in your relationship.