I trust my wife but i know how guys are, she thinks its cute that im jealous about that. She says to trust her and its that my son really likes to play with this boy and he does. This is there 3 play date. I dont like that he texts and calls my wife(not frequeltly) I know how gus are i guess you could say. She has ask if i wanted to go so i know shes not trying to hide anything. My son has other friends he could play with, i just feel bad because they both get along. Im i being paranoid?
2007-11-04 10:08:54 · 18 answers · asked by Mickey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, things like this are just an affair waiting to happen. It is only natural that if people are in the right situation and are attracted to each other, something might happen. I am not saying that it always happens, but why put yourself in a position, if you're married that might harm your marriage?
You don't feel good about it. Tell her this and stop the "game" she's playing about trusting her. Even saints have sinned. It's not about trust, it's about taking yourself out of a potentially dangerous situation so there won't have to be a trust issue.
2007-11-04 11:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by latebreakfast 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being paranoid! Where there are 2 people who have fun together and have alot in common, there is potential for an affair. And these "play dates" would be the perfect cover if they eventually wanted that to happen. There's no reason they shouldn't include YOU when they have these get togethers. You ARE the father afterall! If your son likes playing w/ this guy's boy so much, then I would invite the boy over to play at your house!
2007-11-04 10:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a 42 year old man who is worried about what his mother thinks. To some extent that should be thought about, however this is not one of those times. Very strange to me. Also, if you have been with him for over a year I also don't understand why you haven't taken him out with you and your children to do something together. If you are going to be serious with this man, he has to know this part of you as well. If you are going to keep it casual, then this is what you have. I know that no matter what my husbands mother thought of me he would love me and be with me, also we met each others children as soon as we realized that we were stepping up our relationship a notch.....it was very important to know that dynamic in our lives. It sounds to me like this gentleman is comfortable with things the way that they are. Ask him about it. Tell him how you feel, I would. Make him think more along those lines and tell you what he wants. Don't let fear of learning what you don't want to hear hold you back. Fear of the unknown is always worse than knowing.
2016-05-27 08:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be wary. Even with the best intentions, your wife and the other dad spending a lot of time together greatly increases their risk of becoming romantically involved. Talk with your wife about it. Let her know how much she means to you and ask her to help you out by trusting your judgment and letting the friendship go. The loss of friendship for your son is not as a great of a loss as would be losing his parents' marriage.
2007-11-04 10:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by lorelei 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are being jealous. I think your wife should let you take your son on the play dates with the older married man. If the guy wants to text or call, have him text or call you. That will solve the problems.
2007-11-04 10:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean, "should I LET"............?
Do you really have that much say so in your marriage that you can LET her do something?
Don't word it like that if you want to stop her from going?.....just some friendly advice from a WIFE.
If you have no reason to NOT trust her, then what is the big deal? The kids are going to play together. Go with them if you feel that there is a problem and perhaps you will make another friend.
2007-11-04 10:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself this, would she want you going on a play date with a young single mom? I wouldn't allow it. Maybe you trust her, but the thing is she's then putting herself in a place where something...could... occur. I wouldn't allow myself to do that, i just don't think it's right nor would i want my husband to be alone with another woman like that while the children go off and play. It's not a jealousy thing, it's a protection. why introduce yourself to a possible problem if you don't have to.
2007-11-04 10:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Karen J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being paranoid. She is being very inappropriate and immature. You need to go along if you can't put your foot down and end the whole deal. This is not a proper way for a married woman to act.
Kent in SD
2007-11-04 11:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go on the play date with her. You should get a feel for what this guy is up to and he can see that you are an involved husband and dad. I can only suspect that your wife has offered to take you to reassure you that HER intentions are good, but you don't know his. So go to reassure yourself. Who knows, you may discover this man is 5 feet tall, 250 lbs : )
2007-11-04 10:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually think you should go along one day and meet the guy. You will then have a better feel of the situation. Plus, it lets the guy know you're in the picture ;)
But yeah, I think it's hard to judge the situation until you meet the guy yourself and suss it out. Good luck. I don't think you have much to worry about though :)
2007-11-04 10:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋