I have been with this guy for 2 years. We both agree that it was a serious relationship. We met each other parent and thinking about getting marry. I found out 2 months ago that he's have been cheating on me. I gave him chances to work things out even though he lied and continue to have relationships with her behind my back.
Yesterday, I found out there is another girl that he have been with only 1 months after he started a relationship with me. I also found that he would go online and have sexual encounters with girls over webcam. He called to explain and cried for forgiveness he said he loves me so much. I know its over but I know he will continue to call and i know i will give me more chances. I have already changed my number but he would call my family members and leave them messages for me. I don't know who he is any more. I am afraid.
2007-11-04 08:46:55 · 14 answers · asked by tvpham1984 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stay away from him.
That's something guys will always do, beg for forgiveness and they expect to be forgiven.
It sucks when they do get forgiven.
No one deserves what happened to you, try to move on.
Seek counseling if you need to, It really helps.
Just tell yourself you don't need him, because you don't.
Good luck,hun.<3
2007-11-04 08:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by ツ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep strong. I'm not going to say I know what your going through because that phrase alone is a lie. but i've been in a simlilar position. Dont worry! Think of it this way... how many chances have you given him? 2-3 he's in over his head with the calls. 5-6 he's done. Ok dont let him psych you out. Think calmly and clearly and dont let him get inside your head. 2 years is along time to be together, and the strongest basis for a relationship is honesty, truth, and trust. He broke the truth (honesty) and the trust, so I would say that there is no basis for a good relationship. But believe me, he will keep trying. Dont let him get to you. Advise your family to block his number, and do as much as you can to avoid him. Give it a few months for the pain to dull, because believe me, it hurts to ignor somebody you loved for so long. But it has to be done. If he cheated on you with 1 girl that's bad, but 2 sealed his cofin. Don't worry though, you'll get through it. Just stand strong and tell yourself you deserve better than him. It'll be hard but the outcome will feel great, when you get a great guy who's faithfull and true to you. If you need any help at all, email me. kittykatkrazy@fuse.net
2007-11-04 16:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kaiti C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't worth your time you should have never taken him back in first place once u found out he had another relationship behind your back this guy obviously has no respect for you, I understand why you took him back but he clearly see's you as weak which is why he continued to have affairs and encounters with females on-line, I would advise you to stay away from him and try to stay focused on you, and how happy you'll be either being single and not having to worry about if your getting cheated on or not then being in a nightmare relationship with a jerk. If he doesn't get the message get a restraining order so he understands your not just going to give in. Goodluck.
2007-11-04 16:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by xArmaniCodex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have endured the same experience. If this guy really loved you in the way you should be loved then he would not hurt you by selfishly tormenting into taking him back when he knows full well he has an infidelity problem like an addiction somewhat. If he loves you hel let you go and set you free from the misery he is putting you through.Why should the man have his cake and eat it. You deserve so so much better.Feel the gift that you are.I know its hard but you really are better off without all that grief.Dont be afraid to feel the feelings of letting him go if you fear the feelings they will only imprison you..set your own heart free.life is too precious.never forget.
2007-11-04 16:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl im so so sorry, i know how u feel, because right now, i am going through the same thing. my boyfriend and i were together for a year and a 1/2 and he to was cheating on me... i dont know all the details because i dont know what is the truth from him, and what is not... it is so so hard. i didnt change my number although i tried to... He keeps textin me and all calling... its hard because i love him so much... but i know that when it is all said and done he will treat me the same if i forgive him. I try my best to ignore him he keeps wanting to hang out all the time... but thats not a good idea, it just weakens me and gives him a chance to woo me back... he to tells me how much he loves me... and i believe that he does, he is just imature.... and cant commit to me... it hurts horribly because i have never betrayed him.. and i love him so... but all i can do is cry and not talk to him... i took him off my myspace so i wont be tempted to look on his to see what he is up 2, and be hurt. i did today and it was a mistake... he has started talkin to an ex friend of mine that he knows i hate, and he helped me thro that relationship. This is so hard, but i want someone to love me like i love them... faithfully, and wholeheartedly... Good Luck girl... i know its hard... but one day i promise we will both find true happiness..
2007-11-04 16:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy loved you, he wouldn't put you through this pain. You deserve better, and there is better out there! Don't despair, take your love and time with him as a learning experience and move on... You will find someone who you will be able to trust whole heartedly and someone who will not lust for anyone but you.
You grieve for the love you once had, but with actions like that, it is obvious he doesn't have those feelings for you anymore.
Please let him go, and find someone who will show you the affection you deserve.
Please take care of yourself
2007-11-04 16:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by Paul M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might love you but serial killers often say they loved their victims. Just because someone loves you doesn't mean you are obligated to keep them in your life. Just ignore the messages make sure your family knows whats going on. If he gets much pushier than that get a restraining order.
be true to yourself and move on. most importantly Pray to God in the name of Jesus for help, you don't need to be to specific God knows best how to help you.
2007-11-04 16:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give him a chance anymore just ignore him...the more you listen or thnk about him would make u wanna go back with him...so take your mind off of him....watch t.v listen tot he radio,shopping,,,hang out with friends and all of those good things just keep your mind off of him....just pretend he doesnt exisit coz what he did to u is the worst...no one just be treated that way.....its best to forget him
ONE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER remebr that
im sorry for what happend
2007-11-04 16:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Zahera♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either take your dignity and walk away, or you throw your self-respect in the trash and stay with the low life.
2007-11-04 16:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave you alone or you will get a restraining order.
2007-11-04 16:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋