do women agree that its ok for men to leave their spouse because of a sudden flat chest due to medical removal

Question

This applies to women who has a spouse for at least five years although anyone can answer that is 18 and above..
Some women say they are mature about it and know that they are biologically stronger than men so thy say to the weak spouse go .if you cant take the process.
some women say you married me for richer or poor and in sickness and in health. I agree with this statement
Some men say the women are no longer beautiful once the chest becomes flat so they leave in a hurry. What do you say?

Some men thank their wives profusely for letting them go and for being so understanding. They say their wives really love them for letting them go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Please note that in all my statements i said some men not one man. Also note that said i beleive in sickness and health, I personally feel that these men are wrong, I beleive in standing by the woman no matter what because marriage mean in sickness and in health . Some men would disagrree with me when i say a man should stay even if she says go.

Answer 1

No. Your leaving out what most women do, reconstructive surgery. You married this person supposedly because you love her, how has that changed. Obviously, if you come to realize that your not capable of true unconditional love, yes then leave, because who wants to deal with that too.

Answer 2

Seeing that you are asking questions based on something you've experienced from a friend, an associate, maybe something you read or saw on television, I will answer this accordingly.

First there are way too many words that you put in your comments that probably should not have needed to be said, except that someone mis-read your original thoughts.

I think that any man who would leave his wife after a medically necessary breast removal is the worst kind of person. He was married for better or worse, in sickness and health, right? Her getting rid of something that was making her sick is a good thing, and he was not very considerate nor loving if the only reason he was with her was because of her breasts.

Kate

Answer 3

Wow - very emotional question - My first husband left me when he found out that I was pregnant - he went back to his moms house - He wasn't ready to be a father - If you ask me - he still isn't. That being said - Some men (using the term loosly) are just unworthy of anything valuable in life. If this man was marrying for the "fun" of it - He did it for the wrong reasons - You have to look at somebody and say that the air you breath is a little bit sweeter when you are around.... You have to feel like you just can't wait to talk to them at the end of hte day - You just don't buy the person a ring and have a party and say okay we're married - now what? Oh I'm bored with you ... Next. How awful for the poor woman to have someine like that in her life. But in my case - what didn't kill me - Made me a Hell of a lot stronger... Life goes on!!!

Answer 4

If someone leaves you after a life-threatening illness that leaves you both physically and emotionally scarred, then that person really never loved you in the first place. They are being shallow and thinking only of appearances.

Women can also have reconstructive surgery, so they don't necessarily need to remain flat-chested. Could their man be supportive and work through the process with them? That shows love. I personally would go for reconstruction.

What if she has been through too much trauma and wants to remain flat-chested?

What if the roles were reversed and a woman's man had his testicles removed? Again, they can put prostheses in that can "re-fill" the testicles. But, if he had cancer and she now thinks of him as "less of a man" should she leave??? Again, it all boils down to love and committment.

If someone did that to me I would be utterly devastated. It would add to the already horrible medical trauma.

But this is a choice. If you can't look at your spouse in the same way anymore and it leads to cheating...do her a favor and leave. I think that cheating or putting up with looks of horror and disgust from someone that used to "love" me would be even worse than the removal of my breasts.

Answer 5

Having a mastectomy is devastating to a woman. If her spouse cannot be supportive of her during her recovery and beyond, the woman's self-esteem deteriorates until she has no self-esteem at all.

To have had a double mastectomy is worse. She has enough problems to combat during her recovery and does not need a spouse who is such a cur that he would inflict her with more pain and stress.

Obviously she had no choice in the matter but to have the operation, and if her looks are the only thing that matters in her marriage, then she is the one who should leave him. And I wouldn't do it with a kiss and a good luck either.

Answer 6

No it's not okay. Would you want her to leave you if the situation was reversed? Women are strong because they can give birth, but nobody's saying men can't be emotionally strong...you know like the "strong, silent type".

However, I think this situation calls for lots of communication. You're both going thru a loss & grief.

Maybe a support group could help. You & spouse would be with others going thru same thing.

Running away is cowardly.

Answer 7

A woman is beautiful no matter wwhat happens to her breasts... she may feel unfeminine and ugly but she is in truth to me more beautiful because she has faced soemthing so terrorfying and is still here and keeping moving forward.
A real relationship is not built on breasts. A man should be in love with the woman, not just parts of her. If your love can fall apart because one single detail of your body changed, then it is no love at all.
I believe in being with someone totally. Not half in, not being there so long as everything is nice. But really being there, even when it gets hard because this person is your world and you love and admire them regardless of what happens. In fact, if you love someone you should want to be with them even more when they are sick or falling on hard times.
And if some guy leaves his partner because she had the devastating experience of having a breast removed, he is not much of a man.

Answer 8

I think you would be a heartless fool to leave. When a woman no longer feels beautiful because of having that done, they need your support and your help to get through such a hard time. Also, unless you only married her becuase she had nice breasts and you could care less about her, there would be no reason to care any less about her.
You marry for love, not for breasts, and even women with small or no breasts need love. I really do hope you are just asking to ask and your not an insensitive chauvenist that doesn't care about others at all.

Answer 9

if two people vow to stick it out, through thick and through thin, then they should. especially during times of a crisis, when a woman may or may not be as physically or emotionally strong as she could be. it's very upsetting to hear. the current debate right now is whether or not we should allow gay marriage to be validated. but the real question is, if a man divorces a woman simply because she has to undergo surgery removal of her breasts, isn't that worse than if two homosexual men -or two lesbian women- for that matter, getting married?

Answer 10

You don't just marry the chest. You are supposed to marry the person as a whole. Knowing that as age sets in things change, those should be accepted. I wonder if it's true that a woman runs when a man's penis shrinks up or he gets ED..

Answer 11

The marriage in the first place shouldn't have depended soley on looks alone... If you're going to get married to someone you should ATLEAST like their personality and being around them. If a guy is going to leave a wife because of her flat chest, than he is a shallow SOB and the wife doesn't deserve him.. and shouldn't have married him in the first place.