Pregnant lay asked me to move?

Question

The other day, i was in a coffee shop with my friend and we sat on a sofa near the window and a pregnant woman came over to me with a bottle of water and said in a rude way "Im pregnant so can you move" We did in the end and I know it was right for her to sit down and if she asked politely i woulnt have minded. It just really annoyed me that becuase she was pregnant, she thought she had the right to tell someone to move. Anyone agree?

Answer 1

Having been pregnant with my first somewhat recently, I would still have to agree with you.

I was quite uncomfortable, but I just kinda dealt with things if people weren't accommodating. Not that I think everyone should just bend over backwards for someone that's pregnant. It depends on the situation.

She had every right to ask if she could sit down, but not in the way that she did. She should've said something like..."I apologize, but I'm very uncomfortable, could I please sit down here and rest for a minute?" or something like that.

I would much rather do something for someone who approaches me in a nice an adult-like manner.

Answer 2

I was the pregnant woman who never got offered a seat anywhere, even at 38 weeks pregnant but like with all situations, some people are just rude and i think that was rude...She just fancied sitting in the sofa and had the cheek to go get it...i would have just gone to another cafee or asked if there was room for another one...So yes, i agree!

Answer 3

That was very rude. If she were feeling ill or ready to fall down, then I could excuse being blunt---but be nice about it "Excuse me, I'm feeling a bit faint, could I please...."

"I'm pregnant so can you move" is waaay out of line. If she is up and walking around and going to coffee shops she should be hardy enough to wait for a seat or find someplace else---not bump someone who is already there.

Being pregnant does not give you leave to treat other people badly. I've had a few kids and I would never have done something like that unless ready to toss my cookies or something...

Answer 4

i agree she should have asked nicely.

but to those of you who are rude enough to say "so it is not my fault" etc to me that is more rude.

you have no idea what she is going through. speaking from experience i am extremely anemic when pregnant and have passed out from standin too long. i also get dislocated hips and it is very painful starting at around 16 weeks (before showing)

so yes she could be polite, but people could also be polite by just letting her sit down, perhaps she was in horrid pain or had asked someone to move earlier and was treated rudely? you just don't know!!!!

another thing, at least she was up and out of the house, had she been at home laying around some of you would probably think she was just being lazy as well!

Answer 5

am pregnant at the moment and i would never dare use my baby as a reason to get a seat i quick often have to stand on the bus on the way home after work and am normal tried and ratty but i would never demend a seat off anyone infact the other day i give my seat up for lady with a toddler

it really annoyes me when people think that being pregnant gives them the right to boss the world around

Answer 6

I am pregnant and i would never expect someone 2 let me sit in their seat its nice when people are willing 2 give up their seat but i don't think they should r have2. i don't feel right taking someones seat no matter what like if theres no where 2 sit i go somewhere else its that simple. But don't get me wrong before i was pregnant i always offered my seat to pregnant woman and old woman but they shouldn't ask like thats just out of order!!

Answer 7

When I was pregnant with my 1st (I'm pregnant now but not showing enough for others to notice), I never asked for special treatment. I always accepted it when given and appreciated it. I was at a funeral burial with very few seats and I took turns with my great aunt who is 86. I was almost nine months pregnant. I never asked people to move but would look around with a concerned look on my face if I really felt I needed to sit and usually someone would recognize my intention and help me out. Just because I was pregnant, I didn't need special treatment since even when you close to your due date you should be walking and continuing to stay mobile for easy delivery. You were kind to move, but I probably would have still moved but told the pregnant lady she could have asked nicer.

Answer 8

Being pregnant, it annoys me that people are purposefully rude me sometimes. She may have over reacted. It also could have been her hormones. You do have a right to be angry though since that was not the right way to go about it. She could have asked nicely if she couldn't bare it anymore. It does not sound like you were intentionally being mean.

Answer 9

Well, I am pregnant and while sometime people are rude to me when it comes to rushing me in the store, or cutting in front of me when in line, I would never use my pregnancy to get what I want. So, do I think she had that right? No, she could have asked you in a kind manner, but we as pregnant women do have wild hormones and sometime we just act before we think. Just relax and tell yourself you did a "good deed" for someone even though you don't feel appreciated.

Answer 10

No one should ever be rude or demanding, regardless if they are pregnant. If she would have asked in a polite way, then it would have been mature and her part. You did good by moving, but next time you get some demanding woman, tell her "You get more with sugar, than you do with vinegar."