I have been friends with this guy for a little over 7 months. He has so many gay tentatives, and he does so many things to me that everyone at our office thinks he is gay. I have asked him flat out if he was gay and he told me no. So we began hanging out more, and so I wrote him this long letter expressing my feelings for him, and then he stopped talking to me for almost 3 weeks. Now things are back to the way they were but the jokes and hanging out more are getting more occasional and closer. Examples of things he does:
He doesn't smoke, and I do. He comes in and takes a lit cigarette out of my mouth and puts it into his?
He used to not do anyhting with me alone, now he asks me to lunch, and out.
He comes to my house, and we talk without the TV on, and sometimes he talks a lot about the male anatomy.
He even uses like 5 haircare products for his hair and dresses a little metro (so-to-speak).
Should I tell him how I feel or should I just go with it and see what happens?
2007-11-04 07:03:27 · 25 answers · asked by Just Tony 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think this guy is gay, but he's afraid to come out of the closet. He's just realizing that he is gay and got scared when you expressed your feelings to him because maybe he feels the same way. He wants to believe he is straight, but that does not seem to be the case. He panicked, began to realize who he actually is, and now he's coming around to it. I'm straight, so I have an outsider's perspective. This is going to sound insensitive, but does he have the stereotypical "gay lisp?" That is a HUGE clue. If he does, he's probably gay.
2007-11-04 07:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by FSM Raguru AM™ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just kind of let things go, but he did say he wasn't gay. He may have said since it was work, and sexuality really doesn't need to be discussed in the workplace, probably just trying to avoid any problems. So, yeah, he sounds metro, but that really doesn't mean anything. Nothing does, not the way he walks, talks, dresses, and so on...
2007-11-04 07:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already expressed your feeling for him once and he reacted in a negative way, then I would have to say he probably isn't in to you. He could just me metro or you just aren't his type, being good friends isn't enough to call it gay. If he like tries to make out with you or touches you in suggestive ways, then maybe yeah, there could be a small possibility. But otherwise don't push it, just hold on to a good friend.
2007-11-04 07:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by ViumoriO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted you, you would know it by now.
I have known straight guys who claim to be gay because they weren't into some girl and wanted her off their backs. I am guessing it works the other way as well, a gay claims to be straight to eliminate "that kind" of attention from someone he just likes as a friend.
2007-11-04 07:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by greengo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already wrote him a letter you can assume he knows.... Some guys just like people with no sexaul overtones implied... I think the issue here is yours. you have a crush on him so you are reading into all the little things he does and trying to make them all point to YOU..
its not always about YOU.
2007-11-04 07:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by howie r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is a potential lesbian or gay, but you can't tell it easier if you haven't seem him dating with other men. I can tell the scenario you describe is confusing, but one man can dress like a woman and not be gay, if you get my point.
Go ahead and see what happens
2007-11-04 07:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by sitram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay open minded,, I hear tons of gals love gay guys because they are so much not at all attracted to females what so ever and have no wishes to look down your blouses at your pink flowers in your bra or your nipples, or your thongs,, and go see if he has gay clothes,, and see how he acts towards other males,,,
your own common instincts will pick it up,,,,,, sorry I answered this I love women,,, and am just to straight,, good luck.
2007-11-04 07:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy doesn't know what he want himself, it could head in any direction. I'd say go with it and see what happen.
I think it is the most enjoyable part in the game anyway, the tension, the anticipation...
But don't forget to help things along, you could try being more physically demonstrative (little 'accidental' touches, innuendos - not too tacky please - 'meaningful looks', etc.)
2007-11-04 07:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by cixi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not any longer consistently actual yet next time you watch some gay porn and the actor is listed as at as quickly as (gay for pay) they regularly won't kiss yet another guy and could probable be the appropriate and prefer to be sucked. otherwise who're they kidding...in the event that they like all of it! in basic terms themselves.
2016-10-15 00:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you already told him how you felt - and he didnt talk to you for 3 weeks!! He isnt interested in you like that - whether he is gay or straight!!
2007-11-04 07:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by momentary997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋