My husband says that if i think about making a baby sooo much that usually stuff doesn't work out when you think about it too much. We already have a 15 month old and we'll be starting to try for baby #2 at the end of next month! We've been planning on it for the past few months now and i'm so excited to start trying. He is excited as well but is worried that I won't be able to get pregnant for some reason. I chart my temps and mucus so I know exactly when I ovulate so how could I not get pregnant if we try on the days I know i'm fertile? I know it isn't always for sure to get pregnant for the first few months of trying but all the woman in my family have gotten pregnant right away with all their babies and so did I with our first which wasn't really planned since I was on birth control pills.
2007-11-04 06:53:57 · 5 answers · asked by blank 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
i was on birth control pills and took them every day at the exact same time. they aren't 100% effective and my son is living proof!
2007-11-04 07:03:40 · update #1
If you where on birth control pills and missed a pill etc then it messes your body clock up, you dont ovulate regularaly on birth control, it messes it up.
Charting and chcking cm is fine, just dont involve him in that part, its unecessary for him to know what your cm is like!!! lol!
Men just wanna know when your pregnant, not the in's and out's of charting etc!!
2007-11-04 07:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm also TTC, and have been for a few months (and also have a 15-month-old!) When we started, I was convinced it would happen right away, since last time only took six weeks off birth control, and I'm pretty scientific about it myself, tracking ovulation, etc. Well, you must remember that no matter what you do, your natural chance of fertilization every ovulation is only 25%. So sit back and relax. You can't change those odds (without drugs), so do what you must to feel in control, and then wait it out. the more you convince yourself that you've beaten the odds, the more you are going to feel like you are losing a baby every time you start your period. Which sucks. Good luck. Happy baby making!
2007-11-04 15:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by lilM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your husband about not thinking about it too much. But I, like you, don't see why you wouldn't get pregnant shortly.
I think he's just trying to prepare you in case it doesn't happen immediately so that you don't feel disappointed and down.
Just keep in mind that if it doesn't happen instantly, that it's okay and that it really doesn't mean that something is wrong with you... that's all... other than that, enjoy sex and it'll happen - if not the first month, then soon afterwords.
2007-11-04 15:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when you want to try for a baby, it is really hard not to think about. Alot of men start feeling "used" when they are ttc. My advice is to not constantly talk about it, and even though you are ovulating and going to try, still make it sexy and romantic. Obviously you don't want to drink as you ttc, so that part is out, but you can still seduce your man. TTC can still be sexy. Just don't make hubby feel like to you ttc is a chore. Good luck! Hopefully I'll be in your shoes in a few months!
2007-11-04 15:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by serenityw2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband just wants things to happen naturally. Stop turning this into a science project and just let Mother Nature do her thing.
2007-11-04 14:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋