Please include wheather you are male or female and your age I am doing this as sort of a survey
2007-11-04 06:32:54 · 35 answers · asked by RoME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd stay. An old woman told me once. "If your man cheats on you make him pay for it but don't leave him. Why should you do all the work and train him for the next woman?" My love runs too deep to just let some tramp step in and take what we've built. Female 36.
2007-11-04 07:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Betrayal is betrayal and it hurts like hell no matter when it happens. If it's someone you love then the pain can be unbearable. However, marriage, children, finances, etc. make the issue much more complicated when you are married. It often means there is a lot more to fight for because there is so much to lose. Leaving or staying is painful in different ways. It's not uncommon for couples to stay and try and work it out to have it end after a few years because it's just too hard. Often the betrayed is so raw and so fearful that any decision at all is hard to make. It takes time to get their thoughts straightened out and their pride back. I can say that no matter how hard you try no relationship will ever be the same after a betrayal. The betrayer pays for that indiscretion for years, and the betrayed feels like they are walking on ice listening for the cracking with every step. I don't think there is an easy answer to this nor do I think anyone can answer this who hasn't been there. What you think you will do and what you will do are often not one in the same.
2016-05-27 08:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has cheating on me and I'm still here but I feel I have no choice. We have kids and I can't support them on my own If a women can leave she should becasue once that trust is broken its hard to get back. Its been over 4 years now since my husband affair and I still don't trust him and probably never will. Some day I hope to be able to leave but for now i've chosen to stay probably not the best thing but its what I need to do for now so I really do think it depends on the situation and how much courage you have as a women.
2007-11-04 11:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We could say anything, but at the end of the day, until it happens to you, and you are facing the reality of things, everything else is just words.
I used to think that should such a thing ever happened to me, It'd be a complete deal breaker and that would be it.
Now, after having divorced for complete different reasons, and lived on my own for a few years, I have a different perspective on life, and things don't appear all black and white any more to me.
As far as cheating is concerned, having heard of people's experience, I realized that some things are worth fighting for.
I'd like to think that should this ever happen to me, I could look a the circumstances and listen to both my heart and my head.
So, just like that, I haven't got a close answer.
It'd depend.
Ps: I'm a 34 year old female, mother of two.
2007-11-04 07:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Male-40
I would most definitely leave. My wife and I had the agreement that if we ever got to a point in our lives that one was not happy with the other, we would talk about ending everything. If you cheat once, you will do it again. Proven point! Besides, you would always have it in the back of your mind that if your spouse was late getting home one night or left for work a little early or had to go on a business trip, that there was something going on. You just don't need that kind of stress in your life. President Bush does enough of that for all of us. ha ha
2007-11-04 07:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by kevykev2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a female/28. married almost a year. For now, i would leave my husband. If he choose someone else during our marriage, then what's the point of being married? Divorce and he can have 2 or more girls if he wants. I came from a pretty dramatic family. Just want to keep my life as simple as possible... but life seems to get more complicated
2007-11-04 06:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Female, age 46.
If God forbid my husband cheated, he would be kicked to the curb as soon as possible. I would never forgive him and never try to work nothing out. All cheating means is the cheater doesn't love and respect the spouse. Well, no marriage can work without true love and respect.
I have seen it so many times. Cheating ruins all marriages regardless of whether the cheater stays and they try to work it out. It's going to still end, sometime in the future.
2007-11-04 06:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a definite deal breaker in our marriage...and we have talked extensively on the matter....I would like to believe that we could overcome anything....but in all honesty when emotions take over...it really is hard to predict with 100% assurance what anyone would do in any given situation....I most likely would leave.....but I can't say for sure...I am a female at the young age of 41...
2007-11-04 06:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a 28 year old woman. And if my husband cheated on me, I would leave. You can't love me and sleep with another woman, it doesn't work that way for me. Cheating is very, very bad. There is no way that I could live in the same house with someone who cheated on me. You want to fool around, make sure I am totally out of the picture. I can not stand cheating, it makes my blood boil.
2007-11-04 06:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I think it would be very hard to stay, and I doubt things could ever return to normal. I believe the point of a spouse it to have an anchor in the world--this is the one person you KNOW would never in a zillion years do anything to hurt you. I think I'd try to stay if it was a 1 night stand and we had children, but if no kids or if it was a longer term or love relationship, I wouldn't stay. I am 38.
2007-11-04 06:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋