Well, my best friend (Tina) is dating a boy, which i have no problem with at all. But it seems everything we do revolves around him. All the conversations end up about him. Im sick to death of it. My other best friend who is also best friends with Tina has stopped talking to her completely cause Tina talks about her boyfriend so much. It annoys both of us.
On halloween we ended up standing outside his house for 20 mins watching him in the window. I was bored and that was the final straw.
So just now on MSN i said "I'd rather not see you while your dating this guy." and shes meant to be my best friend and she just said "o ok." My other best friend told her to choose her or to stick with her boyfriend. And she chose her boyfriend..
I dunno if I did the right thing, but I just need some advice to point me into the right direction cause i just dunno at the mo. Im feeling slightly used :S But shes still my best friend and i'll miss her alot not hangin out with her for a while..
2007-11-04 06:31:03 · 6 answers · asked by Kay 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So just now on msn, she asked me if i was coming out tmorrow nd i said "No." and all I got was "ok" :S
2007-11-04 06:38:42 · update #1
Tina is excited about her new boyfriend, and the newness will probably wear off soon. I understand that you get tired of hearing about him, I would too. I would also never ask my friends to stand outside my boyfriend's house for 20 minutes.
You and Tina BOTH need to be better friends for each other. Boys will come and go, but your friends will be around much longer. Tina needs to hear from you (in a gentle and caring way) that you miss the way things used to be with her. Saying something like, "You are my best friend and I love spending time with you...but Tommy (or whatever his name is) is YOUR boyfriend, not mine. It seems like it's all we ever talk about. Can we talk a little less about him, and a little more about things we used to?"
Then you should back up what you say. Allow her to talk some about him, you'll be in her shoes some day and want to go on and on about your new boyfriend (yes, you will!). Let her have some of that. Be happy and excited for her. That's what friends do. Plan some activities that include more than talking...movies, etc. After you've heard enough about him, steer the conversation away to other subjects.
This is a common problem for young people. It's kind of "practice" for being adults. Tina will need to learn that there is more to life than a boyfriend. And you will need to learn that friends "give of themselves" and allow each other to be be self-indulgant sometimes. If Tina is a true friend, she'll realize what she's doing, and cut back on the boy-talk. If you are a true friend, you'll stick with her as she cuts back.
I hope I've helped.
2007-11-04 06:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she isnt taking you seriously when she asked if you were coming out after you said no more i would put her so she cant see when your online ( appear off line in yahoo im i dunno about msn) or stay invisible and maybe she will breakup but if she has another b/f then this may happen all over again so when making decisions keep this in mind
2007-11-04 14:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing if all she talked about was her boyfriend and she was just like o ok when your other bestfriend told her not to talk to her or if she had to choose then she wasnt a good friend
2007-11-04 14:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by nette b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant believe she made u guise wait 4 20 min ur right u should wait till their over or just stop mtalking to her and shel realize u guise are more important then her boyfriend
2007-11-04 14:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just hang out with your other friend for a while and then she will realize what is more important.
2007-11-04 14:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is acting that stuck up abt. her boyfriend, you did the right thing, girl!
2007-11-04 14:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋