How Do I Overcome My (Spiritual Q)?

Question

hate for men?
Not to go in details here--had abusive father, and nearly raped by a date I just met. No good male role models in life. I know it's no excuse, but how do I overcome this hate for men. I trust in God and know He can help me.

I've already went to counseling and wrote a journal, but it hasn't helped much.
Anyone out there who is in similar situation or suggestions needed.

Answer 1

You could try picking your own male role model. Or you could try picking a good female role model and copy her. A woman you respect how she handles herself with men. Who she dates or who she is married to. The woman would have to be everything you want to be and do.

Just a thought.

Answer 2

You would not believe how many different men there are out there... I have a man and he sounds so gruff. But take him behind closed doors and he is a whole different sort of guy. He wants my fantisys to come true.
Bring him back out into the open and he is just a med. kind of guy. He will dance in the mornings to the juke box and be a glued fan to his sports. He grumbles and hollers at us. but no name calling and I do not care what he says he is not forceful. He just says stuff and i think I had better jump. hes hungry. But before I know it he is right beside me making breakfast.
what a great guy I have found. You know why because I thought earlier
Oh gosh I love this man ( i mean another when we were young.) Then I would think what does he have to offer me. Well he was cute....He had no steady job but one day he mentioned he had 10 dollars if I was ready to get married.
I said no lets wait. I had met him at junour achievement so I thought he would do some kind of work. On our 4 th year of dating I told Him I am going away and I went. By the time I got from Michigan to California that sucker was already there. I rejected him for a second time. He showed up at our apartment one more time and my girlfriend said lets just talk with him today. So we did he and his friend agreed that they would stay and would love to make us a spaghetti dinner so we said ahhh okay thats more like it. So they did. It smelled so good. Then I saw my x b/f friend begin to add hot sauce to the meal which made it impossible to eat. I served it to them and they said they had to go and wash up. Impressive again....Well both guys came out at the same time and they were totally nude.........We ran for the neighbors house. Persian men lived there We were in LA. We called the cops.
stayed with our friends and my b/f split with his friend. They come back and tell the cops that I am being held against my will up stairs. So the cops come up and say are you linda ***** I say yes and It was me that called you originally about my b/f. They swept inside of the house and beat the hell out of the three males inside that were helping me. I begged them to stop and said the bad guys were down stairs. They began to apologize and captured my x b/f and his friend. I found out later that my b/fs friend was a make nurse and and bought the faggity looking clothes that my b/f was wearing complete with an orange hippie headband. Similar to what his buddy was wearing... They had met when my b/f went in to the marines. in cal. I was thinking all that time that my b/f and I were just
a good nice couple. We never got sexually involved and I always thought it was a matter of respect.... HOw could I have ever known this nice guy was a villian or gay even......

but finally I met and man and when he said lets get married I said no thanks but I got ahold of him the next day and said yes this is what I would like..He had proven to me so many times that he would be good to me. so best wishes and you are the judge of what is good and bad. I knew there was a reason I should not marry the first guy but I just couldn't figure out why he should not be trusted......

Answer 3

i have never been through what you've described, but here is some advice and i hope it helps.

I have to wonder if you are comfortable with yourself. Because people tend to attract others who are like them (i am speaking of your date). Maybe if you took some time (it will take time) to soul search and then tried to meet a guy. Guys that hang out at the library or book shops tend to be good. then once you see that there are good guys out there, you'll stop hating them.