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Hello Yahoo community,
Here is my dilemna. I have been married a long time with my husband and we have 2 teenagers and a 2 year old. I discovered my husband was cheating in 2005, but I had forgiven him and tried to move on with life. Here it is 2007, and I have found out that he is still sleeping with this same woman. He says that I am his queen and that she means nothing to him, so why is he still messing with her if this is the case. I have never cheated. I am in Nursing School and I am almost ready to graduate so I am not working and do not have any income. Basically I am trapped here. Any good advice out there? I feel so trapped, stupid for forgiving him, and hurt all at the same time.

2007-11-04 06:10:58 · 16 answers · asked by Kesha 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

He also says that he messes with this woman because she is a whore and she lets him choke her out and beat her and that she is easily persuaded. This really scares me because he has NEVER been violent around me. I don't know where this pent up aggression toward certain women is stemming from.

2007-11-04 06:29:41 · update #1

16 answers

What a jackass your husband is. Stay with him until you graduate, then LEAVE HIM. He doesn't respect you. You could even leave him now and make him pay child support. That will keep you afloat.

Don't feel stupid, you aren't responsible for someone else's bad behavior. He's an ***, he wants to degrad women. How are you suppose to control that. So, you gave him another chance, does that make you dumb? No, just kind and caring and wanting to keep your family together and respect your vows.

Remember, the ball is now in your court, do what makes you happy. If you think it'll be easier on your to stay until you finish school, do that. If you want to leave now, do that.

2007-11-04 08:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 2 0

If you believe a word he says about you being a queen, then something is wrong with you. He has been playing you for a fool for many years and you've been letting him.

If you had some self respect, pride and dignity, then you would file for divorce immediately and take him to court to own the house, the children and all his money. He's the one that truly disrespected you and ruined the marriage, not you!

Threaten him saying "you will pay for this & payback is gonna be a b i t c h!" Good Luck

2007-11-04 06:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 2 0

wait it out till u fiinish school, ur going to be a nurse so you will be able to support urself very comfortably! when u pack up your kids and hit the road he won't know what hit him! sure would like to see that! Be smart this time, graduate and move on with ur life, u obviously have a good head on your shoulders, ur just not thinking straight! oh and don't have sex with him either! u don't want any STD's. just think u'll be rid of him soon enough, and u'll find someone to respect you! Good luck and congrats!

2007-11-04 09:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by gurlynmgurl 4 · 0 0

There is no great advice I could give you because of the simple fact that nothing good could possibly come out of it. If it doesnt stop I would just leave him. I know it is hard when you have kids, but are you happy?And if he really cared about you two being together would he keep cheating on you?

2007-11-04 06:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Men like that dont deserve a women like you .. i think you should get a job and save money keep on with ur studies and u and ur kids move .. its hurtfull but u dont want things to be more hurtful well wish u the best in luck and email me if anything

2007-11-04 06:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you can tolerate the situation for a while longer, wait until you graduate and find a job, then work on saving money,hiring a lawyer and divorce his this cheater. If you own your property you will get a nice cash settlement to start your future with. Good luck.

2007-11-04 06:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Go to a battered womens shelter this is mental abuse!They will help you to get on your feet and you can get a job even if you only have a room in someone's home or a studio at least its yours and you wont have to put up with a cheating spouse

2007-11-04 06:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

BE STILL,, AND ROLL QUIETLY ,, but make your plans NOW and keep moving forward in your studies,, put some money together,, a place to reside,, and then and only then get the kids and move,, in the meantime,, hook up and get you some from someone else,, you'll feel better,, or maybe not,, "_)

2007-11-04 06:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by tommy C 1 · 1 0

you ARE in control..... even if it does not seem like it right now.

FINISH nursing school, and get employed.

As soon as you are employed........ have the local legal services guide you through having him removed from the house, and get a restraining order on him.
Divorce him and take hime for everything possible.... EVERYTHING!!!!!!!
You have a very strong case against him, and might as well take full advantage.

in the mean time, insist he start using condoms, if you choose to have any sexual relations with him.

2007-11-04 06:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rudy J 4 · 2 0

Divorce.

2007-11-04 06:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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