''hot'', we are kind of soulmate. and my husband and i are dying out after 6 years even though we still love each other but we aren't in love. Why do i feel so wrong but also feel so right when im with the fireman? is it how people divorce?
2007-11-04 03:27:10 · 13 answers · asked by Top Contributor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you think??
Dear, guilt is starting to eat at you, because you know damn well that what you're doing is not right. It's called cheating and you'd be the first to ask for a divorce should you be the one being deceived.
So, you need to be honest with yourself for a start.
You're asking us if someone can love two peopel at the same time, but you say that you don't love your husband anymore. Then, there's no point in asking.
You sound like the type of person who likes novelty, and once he wears off, you fancy a change.
In that case, I'd suggest that you ditch your lover, and replace him as often as necessary since your hubby is the safe value.
That is, if you can live with yourself, gor being so deceitful and if your hubby doesn't find out and kick you out.
It's very simple in fact, just ask yourself what you'd like your hubby to do if he were in your shoes. Then, don't think further and do just that. At least that way, you'd be honest with yourself and could enjoy your life, whichever way you decide to without feeling bad about it.
2007-11-04 04:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always one that you love more. The hot fireman is probably filling needs that you're not getting from your hubby. An affair is always thrilling and exciting because thats all it is. Its not everyday living, the bills, the mess, the chores. Its just the "fun" part of any relationship. .. sex. Not sure why you feel hes your soulmate, but its probably a good idea to have a good conversation with your husband and see where hes at with the relationship. It could be hes tired of it too. At that time, you should separate and then take time off without fireman and decide what you want out of life.
2007-11-04 04:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cafe au lait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you can be attracted to a person but i don't think you can love two people at the same time. you have been married for six years to your husband and your love life is dying. So now your with the hot fire man well . you still love each other you and your husband , you feel that what your doing isn't right because it isn't right you have made a commitment to your husband and now have committed adultery. You need to sit down with your husband and find out what is going wrong in your own marriage instead of hopping in bed with the fireman. This is how and why people wind up divorce. Hope this wasent toheavy for you but it is what it is.
best of luck
2007-11-04 03:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that is is possible to love two people at once but a crappy situation to be in. I wonder if you love the fireman or your husband. I say this not to be disrespectful...but my question is this...are you seeking in the fireman what you are lacking in your marriage? It could be sex, intimacy, companionship or anything else. I understand that you love your husband but you are not "in love" with him...so by definition are you "in love" with two people at the same time? You have to ask yourself what you really want in any relationship and can you get back what is missing in your marriage. Once you can be open and honest with yourself about how you really and truly feel, the rest will unfold for you naturally. Fireman will be there if it is a true soul mate situation..your current husband will be there if you discover that he is in fact your soul mate. Do some soul searching and you will find the answer you are so desperately seeking! Hang in there!
2007-11-04 06:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by jjm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I thought this was suppose to be a safe place to talk, not a place to come and be attacked for being open minded. Give the gal a break, she is in a bad spot what she doesn't need is a bunch of self righteous people talking to her like she is an idiot. What she feels is real and I hope none of you ever have to go through what she is.
Divorce is difficult and painful, but when it's over, it's over and there is no use in beating a dead horse, yes, I am married...11 years now, but if it was over, I would not ask my husband to suffer with me....sometimes you have to know when to let go and start over.
2007-11-04 04:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Patti N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a complicated aspect to wrap your head round because our American subculture would not condone dissimilar relationships. yet in case you seem at heritage and different cultures or maybe branches of the Mormon church, then convinced, that's obtainable for someone to love many persons in a romantic vogue. merely as mum and dad love all their little ones, they love all and multiple otherwise in spite of the indisputable fact that the love all of them an analogous. I really have had to attend to my significant different having thoughts for yet another woman. We explored a plural relationship for more advantageous or less per week and that i got here across i could not take care of it for numerous motives. Married human beings do not quit having crushes and infatuations because they're married. the problem accessible the following is this guy's significant different knows of no longer something about the affair and he did make a promise to his significant different. you should seem into lots of the web pages that take care of affairs, fairly the psychological variations that ensue interior the mind at the same time as all of us is in deep infatuation to really understand why human beings succumb to affairs and experience that they could't stay with out their fanatics.
2016-10-23 09:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes this is the reason some people divorce and some have other reasons. But as long as you say you love your husband just as long as yoru discreet about your affair hey just go for it. But when your concosious appear then you will ahve to deal with it
2007-11-04 03:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You definitely have given your husband a reason for divorce. You have no idea when it comes to marriage. Both should love respect ,TRUST, one another. Hope your house burns down.....
2007-11-04 20:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beuase you have no moral fiber and you would rather destroy your life and that of your husbands then to chose to save your marriage. You are a heartless whore and i hope they both figure out that you are a shallow woman that has a ice cold personality.
2007-11-04 03:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course this is how people divorce. Just tell your husband and you will probably find out for yourself.
2007-11-04 03:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋