Unselfish love..........? Is it possible?

Answer 1

Of course it is possible. Look at the faces of parents that hold a new born baby. Most of us with children know what unselfish love is.

Sometimes you find it between people. Husband and wife (particularly in the later years of life) or even friends often share moments of unselfish love. Real love takes a lifetime to prove.

Among those attained to enlightenment, it is a universal characteristic. The enlightened see the unity of all things, thus they realize that living the "golden rule" is the path of fulfillment and joy. The path of being selfish to the detriment of our fellow man ultimately leads to want and need for both of us. Love all, Serve all.

Love is a verb that means "to give all". So yes, unselfish love exist. It is in fact the only love. Think about it, all that we have and experience is of God and from God. His love towards us is the perfect example of love.

Have you ever heard the story about the hairbrush and the pocket watch?

There was once a young couple that just got married and their first religious holiday was approaching. Traditionally gifts are exchanged on this holiday. Now, the love for each other was great but they were very, very poor. Hardly enough money to eat, let alone buy nice gifts for each other.

The young wife was pleasant and kind, with the most beautiful hair. She loved taking care of her hair as it was her glory.

The young man was hard working, clean cut. His family had been poor but he was orphaned as a child. His prize possession was his gold pocket watch. It had been passed down in his family and was all that he had left from them.

Often as they strolled together downtown and window shopped, she admired a particular comb that was beautiful and well suited to her type of hair. He often stopped to admire a gold watch chain that matched his watched perfectly. But they were way too expensive to even consider as a possibility, considering their current financial state. They often giggled and laughed about how one day they each would own the objects of their desire.

As the holiday approached the young man decided to look into how he may purchase the comb for his wife but it was just way out of reach. Then he had an idea! He went to the store where the watch chain was and traded his prize watch in on a regular pocket watch and received exactly enough money to by the comb for his wife. This was the day before the traditional day of gift giving.

The next day upon arising the young wife covered her hair in a scarf and left saying she was going to pick up her husbands gift. After a while she returned with a wrapped box and both were so happy and excited to begin opening the gifts.

She insisted that he open his first. She was almost bursting with joy! When he opened his gift there he found the gold watch chain that he had so admired. He was overjoyed but asked her how she could afford such a thing? She told him she would tell him later in the day.

Excitedly the husband told her to open her gift. There she found the beautiful brush she so admired but she began to cry softly, tears of love and joy mind you. Her husband reached up and removed her scarf so she could brush her long beautiful hair only to find that all of her hair was cut off into a short bob.

She told her husband that she had arranged to sell her hair to the wig maker for exactly the amount of money to buy the watch chain. Excitedly she begged him to attach it to his watch. Whereupon he pulled out the plain watch he received in trade for his gold watch. He explained that he traded down to get the money to buy her the brush.

Both held each other and wept tears of joy…. How wonderful it felt to be loved so!

Now.... tell me.... what better gifts could they have given that first holy holiday together? They gave each other the gift of unselfish love.

Love is always unselfish....

Blessings and peace to all,
All in all,
B

Answer 2

It's possible, there are people who love each other with un uncondicional loveand are not selfish, i love my husband dearly and i also love my kids, families, and friends, we all share a special bond and yet we all have our space time and free osity we are generous kind and very, understanding and know and accept that in order for a relationship to work every=one has to do their part, that means sharing caring, respecting and trusting and above all keep love in the air, and keep showing, that you appreciate each others, I believe that if you love and care about some one you should tell them, some times you just can't read others love ones mind and why not let them know how you feel about them now that we are still alive and don;t wait for tomorrow , because it;s not a promise to the living. Altruistic is a pre t ty good feeling and i think we all should feel that way all of the time I h'v been married for a very long time and our love for each other are the same as the first day we meet unselfish love keept us together and the love of God, who is the Head of our, Life we couldn't have made it with out God. Be bless in His Name.

Answer 3

Yes , its possible but most of the time the person for u r having that unselfish love may not beleive u for that...thats tragic of unselfish love.

Answer 4

We are all somewhat selfish. We learn, early on, to protect our interests. It's just the nature of being alive. Survival!

People who dive into a frozen pond to save a total stranger or rush into a burning building, etc., are acts of unselfishness. Also, a mother who stays up, night after night, nursing a sick child is a wonder, as well.

Some might say that we ultimately do these amazing things out of some form of selfishness, but I think we have the 'miraculous' working in us. We can forget # 1 and reach out beyond our selfish tendencies. :)

Like everything else in life there are differences in behavior. There are grossly selfish people and others' who seem to deeply care for and, quietly, extend themselves in helping.

Most of us know when we could have 'been there' for somebody. That's why 'guilt' was invented! lol

Answer 5

hello anil

yes, its possible to have unselfish love, if it is the best thing I'm not so sure it would depend on the loved one. sometimes the loved one can take advantage of it, unselfish love must be mutual...


all the best *=)

Answer 6

The exact meaning of Love is A strong positive emotion of regard and affection. Any sort of Love can grow only on reciprocation from the Loved one (including God) whom you loved. If there is not reciprocation you will stop loving. So it is Selfish only and there is no unselfish love..-

Answer 7

Hanji sambhaw a but par sade lai aukha a! Pura Guru apne shish nu unselfish love karda a!

Answer 8

Unselfish love is possible. I have been married for 25 years and we are not selfish at all. I have my friends, and he has his, and we have ours. We can be with our friends without the other one being jealous or resentful. The trick is to have quality time for yourselves, and not make them feel unwanted, or unloved. My husband does little things for me that make me feel special, and vice versa.

It can't be true love if you have to keep a person on a leash, or if they have to constantly be at your side telling you all the time that they love you, and need you.

We are very comfortable in our relationship, and enjoy a great monogamous marriage.

Answer 9

Unconditional love is possible.
In fact loving someone is unselfish, coz we don't ask anything in return.

Answer 10

Yes. But, disinterested altruism - whatever the application - is 'active' in the same way loving another selflessly is always an active, focused state of mind. There is no higher level of consciousness. The other's needs and fulfillment are held in the same regard as your own, but in a detached state of mind.

This is ultimately what we are capable of extending to every human we encounter.