how do you make a marriage last?

Question

Do u believe you really have to be good friends or bestfriends for that matter to make it work. Or do u have to romanticly really like that person.

Answer 1

one day at a time, with open and honest communication

Answer 2

There are quite a few things that are important to make a marriage last. The first is actually liking the person you're marrying--making sure it actually works long term. There is a difference between being in love with someone and truly loving someone ( ie. puppy love which is just short term (sometimes can last some years) and real love.
Other things you need to learn to use is patience, compromise, forgiveness, and the ability to just blow some things off once in awhile--even when you feel like your head is going to explode because you're so angry after 5 times of asking for the trash to be taken out.
I've also learned it's important not to be around each other 24/7. Sometimes it can be fun, but each person needs some alone time to either be by themselves or do something with their friends. It's therapeutic and helps you appreciate your family all the more when you get these mini vacations. And don't forget the alone time for the two of you either--send the kiddies with Grandparents and run away for a day..or two.

Answer 3

When a relationship starts off with anyone you are usually friends to began with unless you take it to another level. Your taking a risk with this person because you were friends and if you don't get along in relationship or marriage this person may not want to be your friend again. Some people can remain friends after marriage and divorce and some cant. so this can be tricky for some. I think i would rather keep my friend than to lose them in relationship this way you will always have them to talk with when things go bad.
That's when those feelings may arise and you start thinking of this person as your mate it gets a little complicated after that.
You have to have some kind of physical attraction or some kind of connection that you and this person can relate to each other. There is always trust in relationship and communication and if this stops all the rest will vanish as well.
All that i have mention in this happen to me.

Wishing you the best

Answer 4

1. Be honest. Sometimes it may be hard, but in the long run it always works out for the better.
2. Be understanding. Try real hard to put yourself in your partner's shoes, and remember, no one is perfect.
3. As alluded to in #2, no one is perfect. Don't make the mistake in thinking you can make them that way. You married your partner the way they are, don't try to change them.
4. Give each other space. Being around each other all the time is usually nice in the early stages, but as time goes on you will each need your own space.
5. Don't have just one common account for all your money. Make sure you each have an account of your own to spend on whatever you want. At my house, I make around 60% of the household income, so when we pay bills I pay at least that much of the bills. Anything after that we have our separate accounts for.
6. Marraige is give and take. 66% give, and 34% take. No matter if you are the wife or husband. I know the math doesn't make sense here, but if you both look at it that way, it works better.
7. Most important. You married for better or worse. You will more than likely have considerably more "better" than "worse", but don't let the worse get to you too bad. Forgive, forget, and move forward.
Good Luck

Answer 5

Marriage is about love and most important respect for each other. If you don't have both of those there are going to be problems. Being best friends is a blessing if you can have that but you have to be attracted to them as well. Getting to know each other sometimes doesn't turn out the way you'd hope but trying to feel what that person feels or at least respecting their feelings will take you a long way in your marriage.

Answer 6

Either or both of those things can be helpful, but even marriages that are arranged in some countries where the bride and groom never meet before the wedding can be successful.

The secret to success in marriage is both husband and wife giving 100% to the marriage. It's not a 50/50 thing as some might say, it's 100/100.

Another important thing is for each to make every effort to afford their marriage mate the respect, dignity, consideration and loving compassion that they deserve.

Finally, remember that in a marriage there is no such thing as "woman's work" and "mens work". there is only "work". It's perfectly OK for a wife to mow the lawn, and it is also OK for the husband to do laundry, shop for groceries, cook (if he can) and clean up the kitchen.

If each one tries their hardest to keep the other happy, how can you lose?

Answer 7

I think you have to have both chemistry and friendship. When you find the person you believe is the one you should have emotional as well as physical attraction towards them. The one you marry should become your best friend since you are to spend the rest of your lives together it is best you get along
like good friends.

Really though to answer your question live one day at a time,
never fight over dumb crap, love each other, respect each other, never cheat on your mate, compliment each other daily, be romantic once in awhile, have an enjoyable sex life,
Never rush into parenthood, and lastly always keep communication open and honest.

Have God in your life and prayer.


Hope this helps out! God Bless and Best Wishes

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Because marriage isn't always romantic...it does help a lot if the two are very good friends. I don't care what marriage we are talking about..it isn't 24-7 romance. There will be problems and it sure pays to have your best friend right beside you through the thick and thin of it all.

Answer 10

This is what has worked for us for 16 years of marriage and almost 20 years together:

Work together as a team
Value each others aspirations and opinions
Laugh......at everything!
Enjoy the amazing moments when they come along
Get through the not so amazing moments by working out issues
See him/her as your biggest teacher in life and LEARN
Accept him/her for who they are, not who you want them to be
Imagine the both of you old and wrinkly and still laughing!

Good luck :)

Answer 11

I believe that you at least need to be friends to make a marriage work out. When you love some it will be better, You can create your own kind of romance with anyone.