my husband was inloved with another woman but he said he want to change and be with me and my son again. he regret that but do i need to forgive him? or do i have to leave him? he's been irresponsible and insensitive. and this is not the first time he had relationship with other woman while we were married.but i still love him. and i still want to be with him. its just that sometimes i'm feeling tired and want to let go already. what do i do?
2007-11-04 03:00:18 · 23 answers · asked by hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well for this one I am going to have to go with my saying "once a cheater always a cheater" and thats only because I been in your shoes before. I was completely in love with my e of 5 years and he always cheated on me but I always overlooked it with his apologies that he never meant to hurt me and he regreted everything. Well time after time he did it again and he was so insensitive. I loved him with all my heart. And one day I just couldnt take it anymore. I was wasting my life away letting him cheat on me over and over again It was completely unfair to me for I could have been with someone who was faithul and only wanted to be with me. You need to let him go dear. He is not being fair to you or your son. It's not the first time and I am sure to promise you it is not the last time. These types of men never change it is sad but true. I know you will experience alot of heartache and sorrow but you will get over it hunny. It may take awhile but just think you will soon find a man that loves you and only you and only wants to wake up to your beautiful face every morning for the rest of your lives. Its best this way I promise you!
2007-11-04 03:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by ~*Erin*~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U said it ur self "he's been irresponsible and insensitive. and this is not the first time he had relationship with other woman" what proof is there that he wont cheat again he may say that he wont cheat but he might go back into his old cheating,irresponsible things......ur son dosnt deserve a irresponsible and insensitive and cheating father and u dont deserve this guy u deserve a better guy wholl love u not other woman wholl love ur son like its his own son............itll hurt to leave ur husband but itll hurt more if u stay with ur husband
you need to move on leave him
Take Care and hope everything works out for u
Good Luck
2007-11-04 13:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by efriendtou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a player always a player. If you want to keep playing games with your child's life and yours then go ahead and keep playing the game with him ,He Will never change, He thinks that since you have taken him and know about this that it doesn't matter how many times he does it he can keep it up and you will always be there for him when He wants to come back. You and your child need and deserve someone who wil be there for you ,and not cheat on you, There are men out there that will treat you a lot better than this guy
2007-11-04 11:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to deal with him wondering off again? This wasn't the first time he's wondered and it's probably not going to be his last!! Think about how you felt when he left. Were you the same happy "mommy" your son knew prior to his father leaving? How did this make your son feel? Was he able to express his feelings? Who was there to support (whether it be financially, emotionally) you and your son. Was it your ex? My guess is no, he was probably doting on the "other" women. I'm assuming your support system probably consisted family, co-worker, friends, neighbors, etc. They may not be there next time ... people get alittle tired of helping a person who doesn't help themselves. Your son needs stability. Please try to give him a secure and happy home.
2007-11-04 11:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by itzjustannie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are drained because of your conflicting emotions. Give it some time. In a year if you still "love" him, consider the reunion. In the meantime, put it out of your mind and use your new energy to making your own life better, alone. You'll be surprised at how much your "love" is a habit and not a real event.
Good luck.
Peace.
2007-11-04 11:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
RUN, do not walk, away from that man. He will not change. Start a new life. Date other men. Go out with friends and have a good time. The sooner you do this, the better. You deserve to be happy.
2007-11-04 11:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by CarolSandyToes1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know deep down what you need to do. Don't let low self esteem keep you from moving on. Dump his butt and start going to the gym. When you work out it not only lifts your view of yourself but also gets you out to meet new people. Oh, and if he has done it before he will do it again. People that cheat can NEVER be trusted again.
2007-11-04 11:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_sensation775 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive him because it's better for your own mental health, but as for re-involving yourself with this guy, it's obvious that he doesn't understand the full significance of marriage so don't expect miracles from him on that front; you may always love him to some degree, but maybe it's best to let him go.
2007-11-04 11:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he really marry another woman or did he have an outside relationship If you really love him, Show it by letting him go. That way you get over it and hell move on. If it was one time, i can see but not several times.
good luck and choose right.
2007-11-04 11:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could tell you what to do but what do you want to do? what is that voice telling you to do. ive been thru everything you can imagine w/ my husband also. you have a son becareful your son will learn the behaviors of his father. would you want him to hurt a woman like you have been hurt. stay and pray or seperate to sort the problems out & figure out what is important. never compromise your happiness for anyone.
2007-11-04 11:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by true blue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋