I need help please?Please noone yell at me im sad enought already?

Question

My parents caught me and my girlfriend doing it. Im scared they might not let me c her anymore. Were both 14 i know were young u dont need 2 tell me. What should i say 2 them?What should i do?I love my gf and we agreed not 2 do it again for awile. Please help me?if uve had the same experience plz tell me about. Plz dont yell at me or give me crap.Im so sad i love my gf plz help?I really need it.

Thanks
Brandon

Answer 1

i thought she was pregnant anyway

Answer 2

Dear Brandon : I feel for you i really do. just be truthful with your parents. I am parent to five children all though most are grown up i have a 14 year old daughter and she has a boy friend. all though it disturbs me to know end that one day she and he will be intimate, I am not close minded to the fact of the reality of sex at a young age Protect yourself use condoms , you do not want an unwanted pregnancy at 14 for ether one of you. who can you be more at ease with mom or dad maybe both express your feelings. if you are going to have sex than you must be willing to act like an adult. sex is so much more than the actual act its self. If you are going to be sexually active then please ask your parents to take you to plan parenthood and go threw all the info . if you are going to do it anyway then please arm yourself with knowledge. if your parents wont help then you must find resources to help your situation, it was a very mature thing to do by putting your business out there and asking for help good luck sweetie pie. and remember every time not just on occasion every time were a condom. God bless your 14 year old heart

Answer 3

Hey there how I may I help. Let me see,, Hmm, Oh yes. I knkow here is a bit of helpful understanding. I know that when you love someone that you want to give her all that you have and more. It is way to bad that you got caught doing the naughty in your home ,by your parents. At least they know that you are now sexually active. Did you try to explain to your parents about the way you feel about her? Did you tell them that you would not do it again,or until you get married to her, If your parents won't let you see her again. I personally would see her behind their backs,but not let them know about it. Like by going to school games or school dances. You will not be young forever. When you get to a certain age I think the age is 17 you can move out of your parents home and start your own life that way you can do what you want to do.

Answer 4

wait until eventually your achieving 25 its even scarier!!!!!!! i'm 23 this three hundred and sixty 5 days and it nonetheless hasn't dawned on me that i'm 'grown up'!! Wait until eventually your pals initiate settling down and having infants!!!! I learnt tocontinual whilst i became 21 yet thats because of the fact i finished uni and lived contained in direction of nowhere so extremely needed a automobile if i needed a respectable interest! So do no longer hardship approximately having tocontinual, only evaluate the liberty it would desire to provide you and no remember in case you sense you % that yet? additionally a huge ingredient for me became that i'd desire to stay at residing house and pay for making use of training, which i does no longer have been able to have the money for if I had to pay lease.

Answer 5

ok, dude im reli sori u got caught! that sucks..and im glad u no u werent meant to be doin it in the first place.! if you love ure gf and she loves u equally u will respect ureselves and come to a desicion as to why u are actually goin out..is it based purely on looks? if not then se shouldnt plahy a big part in ure relationship!

ive had many relationships since i was 11! lol
my mum read one of my messages about me and my gf at the time..she was very upset but it eventually blew over!
ures will be the same! if u jus say to your mum, imm very sorry! and as much as it hurts you, ompromise and say i wont see GIRL for a week until things settle down. even suggest inviting her round for dinner so your mum can see for herself how sweet and wonderful she is for herself! and that shes not jus a whore hu sleeps around

hope i helped!

Answer 6

Brandon,

hey kiddo , love knows no age, no color , no gender, no limit! I do feel that you are still very young to be engaging in such levels of intimacy, but i believe that people have to explore in order to learn about themselves. Life is all about making booboos and fixing them, but never neglect the lesson at hand, it is very important that we learn from them. Brandon, you sound very upset about this , i truely believe you will have the best luck, by sitting down with your parents and explaining your side , but remember to be respectful. Remember this my friend, be honest with words and feelings to you, your gf, your parents, and you will always be in integrity.live from your heart, and you will always be home!!
good luck to you..

Answer 7

sex isnt love ..........14 ...............what is love .....can u answer that? I'm sorry, but I bet this isnt the first time you thought you were in love and honey it wont be the last. Life doesnt start nor end at 14 listen to your parents and try to really listen they helped you walk they will help you through life and they know what they are talking about, they were 14 once too.

Answer 8

That's a tough one. If you see her only when they are present maybe that would be OK with that.

Answer 9

let your parents know that you know that you are young to be having sex, but that you and your gf talked about it and wanted to try it. tell them you both love each other very much and that nothing could ever change that and that your relationship has never been better.
tell them that you were using protection and you know how important it is to take extra precautions.
let them know that you are embarassed that they found out this way, but let them know that youre glad they know now. let them think you were planning on sharing it with them sometime in the near future but you didnt know how to bring it up - - now it may be easier for you to direct all of this to your father and just sympathize with your mother.

whatever you do, dont get defensive, raise your voice. listen to what they have to say and seriously, think about it before you respond.
if they are being irrational and say you cant see your gf anymore, tell them that youve already decided after being caught like this that you two were not going to be having sex for a very long time- tell them its not worth it to either of you. tell your parents that you love your gf and this was only another way to express it- sounds corny but try it.
and finally- let them know that you wont feel comfortable really talking to them about anything if they are going to make you stop seeing your gf. let them know that you dont want it to end like this and you dont want to end at all. ask them to honestly think about their decision after they've calmed down.
ask them not to talk to your gf's parents, that you two have talked about it and she wants and needs to tell her parents on her own, on her own time. its very personal and if your parents try to take action and tattletale, if you will, on her then they really are getting into something that will only make everyone feel ucomfortable and possibly ruin a very good relationship that you have going on with this girl.
let them know that she plans on telling her mom or whatever soon, but she is just waiting for a good moment. tell your parents that you are willing to suffer the consequences of your actions, but that you hope the punishment matches the extent of the crime done.
tell them that they can ground you/restrict you. offer to have all of your dates with your gf to be at your house, never behind closed doors- like if youre in your bedroom, let them be able to walk by and see for themselves you two are not doing anything naughty.
offer to let them know everything from now on. tell your dad that you would love to be open with him about your relationship with your gf. getting advice from him would be great-


if anything let this strengthen your relationship with your parents in the end.
and dont lie to them anymore- be responsible and let them know things that youve 'explored', and run things by them in an off-hand kind of way hinting you may be thinking about doing/trying something. ask for advice from your dad- your parents may accept this, i have no idea, and i guess neither do you, but if they decided that they cant do much about it, dont be grateful or anything, but take this opportunity to talk to your father about it all. ask him if he is comfortable talking about sex and stuff like that with you.
hes been there, done that, obviously and personally i wish i had that kind of a relationship with my mother.
if he gets angry or irrational, let him know that you were only wondering, and that you thought itd be okay to ask him instead of asking people on yahooansers or somewhere else online, lol. tell him that you value his opinion and you love getting advice from him and that you would love for this to strengthen your relationship with him, when you get a chance, maybe ask your dad to go on a fishing trip with you so you can talk, or go somewhere for a football game or something maybe- that will be a long car ride- if you are one of those people who can have deep discussions in a car, etc.

use your resources- and not the resources online like wikipedia, myspace or yahoo. use the resources you have right under your nose, your parents. the more open with them, the more they will trust you and the more mature you will appear to them.
im sure right now they dont have any idea what to do either.


i do have to say though that if you were a girl it would be much worse (which is why your gf needs to watch her back, lol. esp if your parents know her parents at all)

my little sister got caught- my mom saw her text messages to some guy and she was fifteen at the time. there were tears and there wasa screaming and shouting- to the point where it just exhausted everybody! but in the end, my mom and my sister hugged and laughed about it, my sister used that opportunity to come clean completely and my mom was so overwhelmed with it all, and after it all settled in, she felt a bit confused on what she should do.
all she could do was just keep my sister under close watch for a while and after that month or so of being grounded, my sister got back all of her privileges and the only thing that changed was that my mom and her have never been closer. they can talk about anything. my sister got on the pill, she lets my mom know - sometimes not all the time- but sometimes after she has had sex- well my sister doesnt come right out with it, my mom may ask her and my sister wont lie.
i honestly wish i had been caught- after all the fireworks, it opens up a lot of doors, i know its scary and uncertain now but if all else fails, keep in touch with your gf through email/online/phone, and maybe you see her at school. dont really sneak, but just give it time- and in the future, ask your parents if you can see her again. i mean obviously- it doesnt matter who it is, your gf represents all of the 14yo girls out there that you want to get in bed with- lol. i mean if they say you cant see her- that means you cant see any girl (and if they are letting you go out with other girls, thats also a problem, tell them that your gf isnt the only girl you can have sex with- that it should matter which girlk youre out with- it makes no sense to just separate the two of you- no sense at all - ask them to rethink that one) so anyways- if they do keep you from going out with girls, sit it out, the storm will blow over- focus on your studies, bring home good grades. continue to talk with your parents like ive advised you to do- and after about a month or two of it, as long as nothing huge has gone on and youve acted like a perfect teenage son, mature and proved to them that you are okay with the decisions that they make, then you can bring it up to one of them. run it by them. say, i know that you dont want me seeing her, but since it has been some time now, is there any possibility that i can go out with her sometime to a movie or something. i miss her so much.

i mean i dont know what parents would still be saying no after all that time to think about everything.

well anyways good luck!
and hang in there. it will all work out in the end.