If you are married, what age did you marry and do you think it was too early/late or the right time?
2007-11-04 01:56:51 · 26 answers · asked by Honey 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well little Honey, I was married twice.....the first time I was 33, yes that's right, I was that old the first time I married, and my husband was 28, and the love of my life, and I waited that long, because I was waiting for the perfect man,,,,,,and I found him.....but I lost him, but we had ten wonderful years together, then I married again, to a man I dated in 1976, when I dated him he wasn't the right man for me, he was boring, and didn't thrill me.....but I gave him a second chance five years after I lost my first husband, I called him up to see if he was single, and he was,,,,,well we lived in different states, but he said he was going to come and spend the weekend, well he never left, so I married him.....and he is a kind and sweet man, and treats me so good,,,,we got married when I was 49 yes, I know I was old both times I got marred, i am now 58, and will stay married to George......but he is still boring, but so sweet.....I guess the second time I married, it was to early, because even though I was old I didn't wait until I found a man that I was totally in love with, like I was with my first husband,,,,,I hope I am making since, I just woke up..haven't had my tea yet......
2007-11-04 01:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a broad question. I don't think it is a matter of age, but maturity. I married at 20 (but felt 30), my husband was 25 and I don't think waiting would have changed a thing - we are now together 10 years. There are some who married around the same age or younger or older that said it was too young and some that feel the same way I do. However, if you marry young and things don't work out it's a convenient excuse. On the other hand you can use the excuse you waited too long and were too set in your ways. If you want an excuse you will find it - if you are willing to work at things and accept responsibility then you reap the rewards (even if things fail you learned a valuable lesson).
2007-11-04 10:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 24 and my husband was 21. That was the right time for US. The right time is different for each individual. My parents got married when my mom was just 18 and my dad was 21, but they didn't know eachother well enough and ended up divorced. My husband and I knew eachother for 6 years as friends and 2 years as a couple that lived together before we married. When it's the right time, it will just make sense TO YOU. You shouldn't have to debate it with yourself. Neither one of us proposed to the other, we just talked about when we should go get a marriage license. It was a natural choice. You shouldn't force it.
2007-11-04 09:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by LuLu4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's not really a limit that is too old or too young, when you feel you are in love and can handle all of the problems of marriage than thats the age you should get married. I have not been married yet but I intend to get married at a young age about 21 so that I don't end up having kids wen im like 50 years old. haha hope this helped :]
2007-11-04 09:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by kmh2179 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, I'm only 20 but my boyfriend has been talking about getting married since I turned 18. Right now I think marriage would not be a good idea because he has so many things going on with him right now and is not at a stable place in his life right now. And I'm in school doing grunt work until I get my degrees so I can find a better job that makes me good enough money that I can help support a household with.
2007-11-04 09:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by mellowyellow311727 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wel have you ever watched that show on MTV called 'Engaged and Underage' ? Those kids are around 18-19 years and they are happy with their decisions. Some people wait til later in life because they want to feel like they had a full life without someone tagging along. It's based on you and what you feel with the person. How in love you are and how soon you want to take the commitment to someone for the rest of your life. Best of luck to you but, in all reality there is no right and wrong on when to decide to get married it's when you're ready and your partner is as well.
2007-11-04 09:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Honestly believe if you are ready you are ready. I was married at 1 month after my 19 Birthday. We were together since we were 16. Our marriage lasted 12 years and we have 3 kids together. We remain great friends till this day. Only you can decide when it is right. It might work out for the rest of your life or not . I have always said follow your heart.
2007-11-04 09:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 30 and it was just right, I could not have seen myself married before. Choosing to be married is personal and it is different for every couple, I just think there is no rush and people need to live life independently for a time.
2007-11-04 09:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by SimplyHappy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 22, my husband was 21; we've been happily married for almost 5 years. I know another couple that married at 33 and divorced after a year. Age is relative...it's all about maturity.
2007-11-04 09:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at the age of 26. I think that it was the right time. But it truly depends on the individual. If the individual is mature enough to understand the full ramifications of being legally bound to wake up next to one specific person for the rest of their life, then they are probably ready; no matter what their age.
2007-11-04 09:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by lphusa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋