we have been together 5 years and in the very begining we were at it all the time. now its like we have duty sex i still like to get down and try new things and he is into get it go to sleep. if he showed as much passion with sex as he does playing madden 08 online with that damn head set i would be a happy bi#*h.
2007-11-04 01:31:34 · 16 answers · asked by supermommie07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Familiarity often breeds boredom with some things. I've been married to the same woman for over 22 years and she's as hot as ever to me. But, as you live together other things come into play; responsibilities, work, children, finances, friends, hobbies, time limits, etc. These can all interfere with your sex life. If you want to spark it up and get his juices flowing again, I'd like to suggest that first you get yourself a copy of the book The Senuous Woman and practice what you read. If you do you'll be the best sex partner he's ever had. Next, do things "outside" of the bedroom that turn him on and give promises of what lies in the future. For example: tell him at the movies that you're not wearing any panties. Go braless. Fondle him as he drives the car. Wear low tops that show off your boobs. Instigate sex in unusual places, like on a golf course in the middle of the night, etc., etc. Use your imagination, and the sky's the limit. Have fun and good luck.
2007-11-04 01:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by BWANA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, realize this is quite normal in relationships areoung the 5 year mark. Comfort has set in. Try new positions, toys, places. When he is playing turn on some music with a sexy beat and start dancing naked. Not in front of him but in his line of vision so he will notice you. (make sure kids are out of house if you have them) Sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling about the situation. Leave him sexy notes in his lunch when he goes to work, or send his sexy text messages or pictures telling him your desire of what you want him to do to you. If you into it, role play, go to a strip club with him (not recommended if you're a jealous person) show him you are a wild sex kitten needing to be tamed.
2007-11-04 02:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by BreakingHeart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first a question for you: is your screen name supposed to be supermommie instead of suppermommie or was the supper intentional?
anyway, so my hub and i go through cycles of hot sex and other times when our lives/schedules are too demanding/distracting. but, in our marriage, whether we are consistently having sex or not we always snuggle, hold hands, and kiss. if you feel that madden is getting in the way of your sex life, try to talk to your hub when he's not playing the game. tell him how hot you are for him and how much you love him. ask if he will agree to a limit on the number of hours he can play madden per day. or, if that's unacceptable, if he is willing to agree to only play madden on weekends with unlimited play time. that way, your weeknights will be free for a little lovin'.
2007-11-04 01:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's particularly regular. perhaps if it variety of feels to be a subject matter you would pick to come across different options and such. A relationship isn't equipped on sex in spite of the indisputable fact that it does grow to be disconcerting at the same time as the rigidity wanes particularly. perhaps operating to make it more advantageous particular each and every time you "do it" moreso than stressful about the quantity wuld help.
2016-10-23 09:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by azucena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey - I know exactly how you feel about the "duty sex" haha. I literally have to beg sometimes.
I do try to keep things interesting and wear sexy undergarments, or plan a weekend getaway...maybe i should take him to a strip club or something hhaha
2007-11-04 01:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sad story -- feeling sorry for you. It seems that your partner takes you for granted. Perhaps you could find out what kind of porn he likes or what fantasies he has (if he is willling to speak about those - you might have to start with telling him yours), and then take it from there. You are way too young to give up on hot sex!
2007-11-04 01:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is tough ..becuz it takes two. however.. you can encourage.. some new techniques.. and enticements. you can tolerate.. or you can move on. not much more you can do. i would start off with the new techniques... sprucing myself up... trying something new.. do it while he is playin madden 08... say do not let me interrupt... and start..your play. if after that ..he does not change..then the talk comes...next/ after that you have a decision to make..tolerate..or move on. cheating is never answer.
2007-11-04 01:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the library and check out Joy of Sex or Karma Sutra. P.S. It looks like you have a beard in your pic.
2007-11-04 01:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the novelty of new sex wears off, Then you to deal with compatibility and other things you have in common. If you don't have anything other than sex in common. you will be destine for a break up...
2007-11-04 01:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by silsa1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a fresh injection in your blood stream...
once he gets the idea that theres some competition, and maybe the galdiators put a smile on your face he will wake up and smell the coffee...
but then it maybe too damn late.. if you try, you like, and think oh... well actually he is rubbish...
have a little fun... next time he wants some tell him you would rather DIY in the shoer, see how he likes that...
hohoho... my number is.........
2007-11-04 01:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by Maximus_Decimus_Meridius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋