Ive said some unreasonable things to the guy that I like...and he says he has feelings for me too.
I accused him of having new friends that he will forget about me...but he says he will do what I say..etc
I say quite a few horrible things and he just takes it and says he wont be nasty back.
Does he love me?
We are both 25
2007-11-03 23:32:42 · 27 answers · asked by Autumn 2012 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
He likes you but I would not. Seems like you have a short leash on him and he is letting you be the master.
Give him some freedom and accept the fact that he will make new friends.
If the relationship is strong, then you will be together.
2007-11-03 23:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shamu the Wise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 25, you really shouldn't behave like this. If he has new friends surely it means that you are also in a position to make new friends with those same people, that doesn't mean he will forget you. If you have said things that are unreasonable then stop it at once - you know they are unreasonable so what makes you think that it's ok to do this. And, if he just 'takes it' surely this is a weakness on his part - you will tire of him when you have knocked him senseless! I feel sorry for the guy, be nice to him or you will lose him!! What you are doing is NOT love - it's sadistic manipulation!
2007-11-04 09:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your the 'treat them mean keep them keen' type, which is fine if your guy is quite prepared to put up with it however, how mean are you going to be before you totally emasculate him? In any relationship there are bound to be differences of opinion yet if you want a yes man for a partner you deserve all you get for being controlling. There is a certain line that women shouldn't cross in any relationship which involves letting him be himself, accepting who he is and what drew you to him in the first place. If you continue to keep him at arms length by being verbally abusive knowing he will not respond makes you a bully or worse a manhater. Learn to like yourself and gain some self respect before you end up a sorry old spinster!
2007-11-04 05:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by moriartee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I always have little goes at each other. She is 11 years younger than me, and often says some things unreasonable to me. I just brush it off, whats the point in arguing? It sounds like you want him to argue back?
Being a little older and wiser, I have learned to think about what I say before I say it. Get into the habit of doing this and you'll reduce the chances of saying something to hurt your loved one.
Everyone has their own threshold of how much is enough, and maybe one day you will step over the line and your boyfriend will have had enough. Better to learn to restrain yourself now than reach his threshold and you regret it. I'm sure there's no doubt he loves you.
2007-11-03 23:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by ADE591 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship you take the good with the bad - nobody's perfect but it's about being able to compromise without compromising on things that are truly important to yourself - so it's no suprise he doesn't mind if you're in a bad mood sometimes.
That said, it's worrying if you feel like his friends are trying to take him away - i'm sure you don't want to turn him into some hermit. You need to think about why you feel that way - and usually it turns out it's a rather silly fear.
2007-11-03 23:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Silver Prodigy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am tolerant of women I have feelings for, but only to a certain point. If you truly love this man, be more considerate of what you say to him. Men have feelings too, and he may soon tire of the insults. Think before you speak! I am 50 yrs. old, and have some experience in this area.lol...
2007-11-03 23:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by roninelwood 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a guy can take your taunts and accusations and still say that he wont be nasty back, he does *more* than like you :)
Just ask him, why he said so and Im sure you will like what he will reply.
2007-11-03 23:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by MintChoc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to be like this,insults etc are often clear signals that you like someone its primary/ school pull pigtail behaviour. Perhaps he couldnt be bothered arguring with you,i would say his indifference is indicative of him not liking you in a romantic way,he takes no offence - if he cared about your opinion of him he'd argue back.
As they say the opposite of love isn't hate its indifference.
2007-11-04 01:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by rusalka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same with my GF in the beginning. Now i dont know why i put up with her BS. After a while you get sick and tired of complaining and accusations.
So he does love yo but watch out in the future.
Now that i look back why in the world didnt i just tell her to F off and leave her???
2007-11-03 23:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This guy talks too sweet to be true.... beware..... the test for love is not tolerance, it is actions that are directed towards the wellbeing of the beloved..... words mean little, especially in today;s world!
2007-11-04 01:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋