My husband and I have a two year old daughter that was a preemie. I had every complication that you can think of during my pregnancy and can't even fathom having another NICU baby (plus the cost has put us in a real financial strain) and due to my age (I'm 32) and my blood pressure, I'm at high risk for a heart attack or stroke while on the pill, so my husband has been scheduled for a vasectomy, which he's fully willing to do, on Nov. 16th. Now I'm having second thoughts. I've been thinking about what if something happens, God forbid, that our daughter would die and then we can't have more children. I'd rather take the chance of accidentally getting pregnant again than not being able to conceive at all. What are my best options? I can't use condoms due to laytex allergy and I don't beleive in the IUD. Any serious input would be appreciated. Thanks!
2007-11-03 22:46:56 · 9 answers · asked by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You may think i am out of my mind but my husband and i only use the pull out method. Have been for 6 years now. (We only have one child whom is 6 years old)
The pull out method has worked for us but the one time we did not use it i got pregnant which was in 2005 but i miscarried.
We have used it even since then and i have not gotten pregnant or even thought i was pregnant.
I believe he must be a master at it at knowing exactly when to pull out and i am telling you i have been thrown off of him a couple of times (lol) but see we don't know for sure if we want anymore kids or not.
Before i had my son i was on the depo shot which i loved. It worked so good and i never had my period which was something i did not miss.
I am almost 28 years old and i have one child, i am sure i would have more if we were not careful.
People claim that the withdrawl method doesn't work but it does for us. I also keep track of my ovulation dates (which i know can be guessing) on http://www.mymonthlycycles.com
Don't they make latex free condoms? You could use spermicide everytime.
You know all of the birth control out there and you know what it may do to you, this is something you will have to decide.
I am scared to have another baby also cause my pregnancy was horrible. I had pre-eclampsia, threw up from 2 months until i had my son at 35 weeks which he was healthy and did not require special medical attention in the hospital (He got out the same day as me -had a c-section)
I only gained 11 pounds during my pregnancy.
I got my medical records not long ago about the birth and found out i have a uterine septum that can cause miscarriages and pre-term labor.
It is scary thinking if you get pregnant again it will be like the last time but it may not be but i sit and think what if though, you know?
Sorry so long, got me thinking... Hope you decide. Good luck!
2007-11-03 23:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first baby was a premi baby, emergency C-section due to waters breaking early, and my second baby was full term not planned as we weren't using any protection. We tried using condoms but we lost the moment. My partner was also going to have a vasectomy, I am sure you have read up on it but I will give you a warning. First off you have to be certain that you want no more children as there is only a 75 or so % chance of reversal, Secondly you must not have unprotected sex for about three months after surgery as the sperm is still in the scrotal sac and that is how long it will take for it to die so you can get pregnant if you don't use protection within that period. Thirdly in rare case it can heal itself back to normal.
You might want to talk to your doctor about other forms of contraception as he will know you allergies and blood pressure. You can get an implant in your arm which last for three months or the Diphra (not sure of spelling) needle which last for the same amount of time but that is basically the pill an may play with your blood pressure. Consult your Doctor before trying anything.
2007-11-03 22:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you pretty much ruled out most types of birth control so maybe you should consider NFP (Natural Family Planning). It has a 99% effectiveness rate at avoiding pregnancy. That's EQUAL to the birth control pill and better than all the barrier methods! I realize its a natural method but with that kind of percentage I don't get why more people don't use this!! Some people like to falsely associate this with the rhythm method but that is nonsense. There are 3 different scientific methods to this type of birth control. If one is consistent and uses them correctly you can have a drug free, symptom free form of birth control that works, seriously! No need to worry about your health.
http://www.prolife.org.ph/page/fertility_awareness2
P.S.- I'd like to add that even though vasectomies are reversible, not all men become fertile again. The future is never what you expect and you may decide to have more kids despite how you feel about it now. The birth control pill already has negative side effects even if it didn't pose a higher risk for you. In addition some say it causes mini-abortions... but thats a whole other topic. Maybe you can find some non-latex condoms? Whatever you end up deciding I wish you good health and good luck!
2007-11-03 23:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im not sure if its true, but ive heard there are special non laytex prescriptions condoms, which you could ask your GP about, but im not sure if that is actually true, but worth a go.
Also if you have no other option but to go through with the vesectimy, then before it happens, you could store some of your husbands sperm in a sperm bank, and if you do need to use them, you can use IVF to have the sperm inserted directly into your eggs, and fertilied that way, This of course depends on any religious beliefs you have. But i hope this helps, and gl
2007-11-03 22:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate where you are coming from and the complications that you face and faced are no laughing matter. If you are not comfortable with the V then don't go thru with it. I think that you need to realize that things happen in life and you can only do your best and trust God for the rest. As for your daughter I suggest that you put her protection and safety in God's hands and don't live in fear of something happening to her. When my girls were little I was afraid of everything until I learned about God's protection, now I just trust Him even when fear tries to rear its ugly head. They are now 20 &22. You also need to recognize that if you did conceive again and your life was in jeopardy, where would that leave your little girl and husband? For me I would wait until I had peace about the V surgery and then go for it with no regrets.
2007-11-03 22:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Free Thinker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vasectomies can be reversed easily. My husbands friend had his reversed after 10 years and now has 2 more children.
2007-11-04 00:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by CK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vasectomies are great- and reversable. it sounds like its coming up soon?! it only takes like an hour or so, hell be back up and running same day. low low risk of getting pregnant again, unless the thing is surgically reversed deliberately. sounds like you have already picked a pretty darn reliable option.
2007-11-03 22:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by studio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try researching the shot... Depo Provera. Some people have side effects, but I had none. It's administered every 3 months, and its pretty painless. Talk to your gyno, she/he can let you know if you are a good candidate for the shot.
2007-11-03 22:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Falconer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The V is reversible.
And how about having him pull out at the moment.
2007-11-03 22:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋