well i guess im goint to be a young mum but please i really dont need any criticism right now..im 3 months pregnant and my boyfriend is one of those guysyou just cant get away from we have had slot of bad times in the past like having trouble with trust and still now he tells me new things about him and what he does at home i really think he doesnt feel for me anymore he constantly looks at other women and is always lying to me im just really unsure of this pregnancy coming into an unhappy relationship i really dont know what to do but i need him for the support if anyone could give me any advice i would be very grateful thankyou..
2007-11-03 21:41:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Been there...done that... I was afraid of becoming a single mom but I did it for my baby. The truth is that you really don't need his support. You think you do, but once all is said & done it's not so bad. I really wanted him to be there during labor cuz I thought I needed him there. Well he couldn't be there (rent, bills, $ issues) & I realized that I DIDN'T need him there. (awesome labor :) ) Esp if your baby's dad drinks or whatever. Well anywayz, his dad wasn't really in the pic. Babies pic of bad vibes too. So if you feel angry, your baby will sense that & cry. Don't be afraid to try to be a single mom. You'lll be ok ! :) When it comes to bad relationships & trust issues, drinking, smoking, etc... it's better that the mom be single w/o the dad there. Stay strong ! Good luck ! Peace.
2007-11-03 22:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to have this baby and your boyfriend isnt treating you well you must leave him. There is nothing wrong with being a young mum, Im sure you will do a great job. You need to think about you and your baby and not worry about him. He is very selfish and doesnt deserve you. It doesnt sound like he is giving you much support so I doubt you will miss him very much. As long as u have the support of your family and friends you will be better off without him.
My mum was a single mum of 4 and our household was much happier without my dad. My mum had me at 17 and Im now 27, 3 months pregnant with my first child and happily married.
You only have one life dont waste it with him. I know its easy for me to say but I know what its like being a child in a very unhappy environment.
2007-11-03 23:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by betty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your talking about, i went through almost the same thing, my ex hated me lying. As to your question, Do i really need to say as you said, " This baby would be coming into an unhappy relationship" I guess what im saying is that you should dump this guy and have the support of your friends and family they are what matter the most....... I had two pregnancies, which i got aborted. as i was only 21 and 23 for the other. my boyfriend at the time was 18 and 21.
Good luck with whatever you choose......
Congrats on you bubs
2007-11-03 21:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Tigers_Forever29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a huge issue in a relationship. Without that what else is there. Think long and hard about what you want for yourself and your unborn child and think about where you see him in the future and what part he will play in your lives. It's easy to say leave him, but, there is some reason you fell pregnant to him in the first place and that you are still with him. If you live with or near your parents I am sure they will help you, don't worry about being a single mum, you will be fine without him if that is what you choose. Just don't make the same mistake again. Every one deserves to be happy especially an innocent child. Good luck with your decision.
2007-11-04 00:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jasper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the only advice I can give you is to leave him. If he is going to be like this it is going to stress you out more and that is not good for you or the health of your unborn child. Is there anyone else like your parents a close friend or relative that will be there for you for support. By the sounds of it he won't be that much of a support to you anyway. Good luck I hope everything works out : - )
2007-11-03 21:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by banditqueen1980 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you say you want support from him .. do you really think he is going to give you that? your priority is your baby, if he wants to toe the line then great, if not you will be ok anyway, just make sure the baby is in a happy and loving environment and you will be doing a great job.
2007-11-04 00:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by welshwonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋