I asked to see his passport and there was a gun in his safe and i don't like guns, would it be wrong to ask him to sell it?
2007-11-03 20:19:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Whats the problem?
The gun was safely and properly stored.
It's his right to possess it.
Is there anything about him that makes you believe
her can't be trusted with it?
Maybe you should learn to shoot?
Then you might even like guns.
2007-11-03 21:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Irv S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't ask him to sell it but you should talk to him about it. You'll learn something about him and can decide from there how comfortable you feel with him. Ask him why he has it, what he knows about gun safety, how often does he use it, does he carry it around, ever use it when he's been drinking, etc. These are all important things for you to know. You might decide that being with a mature, responsible gun owner who is ready to protect himself -- and you -- isn't bad at all. Or you might decide that he's a yahoo and leave him.
If you ask him to sell it, one of four things will happen.
1.) He'll do what you say and sell it, which will prove him to be a spineless wimp. You may think it would be noble of him to do that for you but you don't want to be with a spineless wimp, whether you know it or not.
2.) He'll say no and leave you because you're too controlling.
3.) He'll say no and not leave you. In this case, the decision of what to do will be yours.
4.) He'll lie, say that he sold it but will keep it.
2007-11-04 02:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by Barrabas_6025 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you uncomfortable, then you should definitely tell him how you feel. The fact that he seems to be responsible with his gun by locking it away should put you at ease, though. It's not as though he's keeping it loaded on his coffee table.
I'm in law enforcement, so I'm required to have a gun. I live alone and leave my gun out, but when my girlfriend visits, I lock it up so she doesn't feel uncomfortable. I've also taken the time to show her how to tell when a gun is safe (unloaded) or not, and have taken her to the range a few times to make her feel more at ease around guns.
It sounds as though your boyfriend isn't being careless with his firearm. I urge you to carefully check your feelings to decide if you are reacting the way you are because you genuinely feel unsafe, or because you've been conditioned to feel that all guns are dangerous, and since you may/may not know how to operate one they scare you.
2007-11-04 02:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by johnnydaring 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you to get a boob job, would that be wrong? It might be that he doesn't like small (or big) boobs....
It depends a lot on your reasons for not liking guns, girl. Just remember: A gun does not kill unless the person holding it pulls the trigger.
And since he keeps it in the safe, it shows that he is a RESPONSIBLE gun owner who would not leave it out for a child to play with.
2007-11-04 02:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by archerdude 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wrong to ask? no its not wrong to ask. To expect him to sell it on the other hand is probably too much to ask. I think the real question is why don't you like guns, specially one that is locked up? If you have a good reason maybe you and him can work something out so he doesn't have to sell it and you don't worry about it being around.
2007-11-04 02:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by dark hawk 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
depends, He might feel very strongly in the 2nd amendment. as long as he isn't some criminal no, but if he is I wouldn't say 'get rid of it' I would just break up with him and get away from him asap.
There is nothing wrong with guns, guns don't kill, people do. You're probably uncomfortable because you've never shot a gun, its really not all that scary once you've done it a couple of times.
but if you really think this is your future husband you and him are going to have to work thing out. He should understand but by no means will he get rid of it trust me...well he might if you really insist but it won't be quick i can tell you that.
2007-11-04 02:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by CheeyoDeeyo 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Going to jail just for haveing a gun? He's being responsible and keeping it in a safe!!! When some crackhead breaks into your place not careing if you die in his means of attaining a fix would you wanna defend yourself? Becouse if he has a gun ain't nobody going to convince him to get rid of it.
2007-11-04 02:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by beakersafreak 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't breaking any laws, and legally owns it, no.
He has it in a safe, this suggests that he might be a responsible gun owner.
This is a crazy world, that weapon just might save your life someday.
I grew up with guns, and I own a firearm...I am not a violent man.
I am a peaceful man that will defend himself, or someone that I love.
2007-11-04 02:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation as you. I didn't see the gun but my boyfriend had one. He was a manager that carried a lot of money so that is why he had one. It really bothered me because I have a daughter. I thought she would find it and GOD knows what would of happened. I told him how I felt and he got rid of it. All you can do is be open and honset with him and tell him how you feel and see what happens.
2007-11-04 02:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by lessia1212 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
No, don't ask him to do anything, that would be controlling. But you should definitely ask him about it. You may not like the answer you hear and decide to go boyfriend-shopping again.
2007-11-04 02:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by neoplop 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋