It is TOTALLY wrong! I hate the feeling!
to make it worse there is a guy who wants to have sex with me (he is 13 though he looks like he is 16). He told his best friend who told me. no its not a rumor because his best friend happens to be my best friend and he has never lied to me about anything that serious.
Is this wrong? Am I sick? What is wrong with me?!?
2007-11-03 19:38:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It's totally normal to feel that way, but don't act on it. You are not ready.
2007-11-03 19:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body is changing, as are your hormones... as well as your curiousity. It also doesnt help when other girls your age are 'doing it' and everything on tv is about sex.
What I can tell you is that at 13 you arent ready for it. Besides, you should be with someone for a long, long time before you even think of it.
Take the time to be 13, 14, 15 etc. Trust me when I say it goes by fast... and teen years always have the most regrets in them. You have a whole lifetime to have sex, so dont rush out now to have it.
2007-11-04 01:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Paramedic Girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're very smart to recognize that just because you WANT to do something it doesn't necessarily mean you should do it. I'd bet everyone remembers being 13 and so curious about sex. But if there's a boy that wants to do it with you and you're interested, I suggest you simply stay away from him - not because he's a bad person, but because the temptation is so high. Take care of yourself and don't be alone with him. And tell your best friend to tell him you don't want to go out with him. And give yourself some credit - you're not sick and there's nothing wrong with you. :-)
2007-11-04 02:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by RG 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to get the urge but it can be very ready in many ways to act on it. If you want the feelings then do it yourself. I advise against having actual sex with another 13 year old, if you were thinking of it, because many people despite their best efforts do have something go wrong and end up with babies/STDs, also they often get sadder if they break up with a person after sex or regret it later or get rumours said about them.
2007-11-04 01:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girls hit puberty faster than guys so even though you are 13 you are a mature 13. Everyone gets sexual urges. Some earlier and more often than others. Although you could be mistaking your "urges" for curosity. Just make sure you think through all your actions. Even though you are a mature 13 dosent mean you should have sex!
2007-11-04 01:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by //*Sequins*\\ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not sick or weird...but you're way too young to have sex at 13. What would you do if you got pregnant? Or an STD? You just don't need adult responsibilities right now...and having sex, believe it or not, is a responsibility. Just be a kid while you can and don't try to grow up so fast, because...trust me...life is so much harder when you're an adult.
2007-11-04 01:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Luv My Babies 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to feel sexual motivated. However you need to take steps to get ready for such an event. You need to learn the ends and outs of STD's. Then you need to figure out what kind of birth control methods you would like to use. Then you need to make sure you are ready and that he is as well. You need to worry about your body first and foremost. Treat it like a queen because it needs to last you your whole life. Sex is a big responsibility and you need to make sure you ae ready for any actions or consequences of having sex. I think you should wait but make sure you make the right choices for YOU.
Good luck!
2007-11-04 02:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by brandy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not sick...Having these types of feelings are all a part of the raging hormones that you are having because of puberty. BUT...You need to also realize that having sex could be a majorly bad decision for you. I really hope that you realize that before you go any further with this.
There are going to be tons of boys that are going to want to have sex with you, but are you going to do it with all of them? (I hope not!!) Please realize that sex is not something that you should just do...You should have feelings or even love someone before you consider doing this...I know that sounds old fashioned to people these days. But please just take advice from someone that is older than you...
Good Luck!
2007-11-04 01:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not sick it is perfectly normal ; but please wait a few years . Don't do it with a 13year old boy , who wants to do it with you . You will regret it !!! Wait till you are older and really in love .
If you want relief from these desires , masturbate ; use your fingers between your legs till you come . Sex at 13 can be very disappointing and painful ; an experience you may deeply regret . Don't do it !!!
2007-11-04 04:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by kitiyapron 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. You are producing the hormones that make those feelings happen. Now it's up to YOU to control those urges and feelings. Everyone biologically can start to have children at this age, but you just need to make sure to keep it safe, and think about your future and stuff. But wanting to have sex at that age is absolutely normal.
2007-11-04 01:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by krivera_fierro 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird to want sex when you're 13. That's what puberty is all about, getting your body and mind ready to have sex. Please, wait until you're older though. I'm telling you from experience, sex without love causes a LOT of trouble and hurt feelings.
2007-11-04 02:04:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋