Homosexuality a sin???

Question

My mother has told me homosexuality is a sin she said "it was adam and eve"...not "adam and steve". Although I cannot help I am lesbian it was not a choice. I've tried to change myself to make her happy so she won't think she did wrong with raising me. Which I really disagree ..I'm graduating this year the first out of my two oldest brothers dropping out. Do you think my mother is right I do need to change?? Please help!

Thanks for your time and advice

I really appreciate all the answers and support!

Answer 1

Your first question: Is homosexuality a sin?
Answer: I don't think anyone in all of the yahoo answer boards can answer this correctly, because this is all opinionated. You have to look at the facts and what you believe in. As for me, I actually still do not know.

Second question: Is your mother right?
Answer: Many will agree with her and many won't. This relates back with answer1 where you have to decide what you believe in.

Third question: Do you need to change?
Answer: You don't need to change as long as your mother doesn't send you to an "ex-gay" camp. (You may research that up if you don't know what it is.) As long as you feel happy, everything is okay right? You are at the prime of your life, your mother isn't. Worry about yourself.

My advice: Concentrate on your studies. I'm positive your mother and I would agree that trying to further your education is more important than most things right now. (and if you meant, graduate from college, then you should concentrate on job hunting). You can come back to these problems with your mother once you buy her a nice condo in Florida. :]

Answer 2

Not to sound like a broken record or anything, but: Sexual preferences are EXTREMELY hard to do away with. They don't tend to be innate, but rather the evidence about them shows that when we are born: We are blank slates when it comes to things like this, and we sometimes have "Propensities" to certain sexual traits.
This is why you being a lesbian would be near impossible to change. It's not likely to be a choice: It's a natural occurence, and the only time a sexual preference can be virtually "Chosen" is if one conditions themself to react a certain way towards something, and even that has to have some sort of propensity to have a lasting effect.

I'm not disrespecting your mother, but since you are all christian: It's contradictory that she would be so rude to you about this, because in context she believes (Like you do) that we're all products of god. Are we going to start calling god out on the this thing he made such as this? Does he make mistakes? How can one hate something they think is made by their creator, especially a trait that isn't free will?

There's also beliefs that the words about it were taken out of context, but one doesn't even need that to know that it really shouldn't be wrong if you believe in the comment above to some extent.

This is the question I asked myself when it came to homosexuality. Because I haven't gotten an answer, and I've realized from psychology that sexual preferences are rarely choices: I accept gay and lesbians as equals. I'm christian too. See how that works? ^_^

I would like to say congrats on your graduation as well. Do you have college in mind? The minds there tend to be more open-minded.

Enjoy life, and love whomever you wish. You have a bright future ahead of you.

Answer 3

Some people believe that homosexuality is a sin. Some people do not. There are quotes in the Bible about homosexuality being wrong, but most of them are actually about other things (like hospitality) and not a single one of them mentions lesbianism directly.

Also things mentioned as sins in the bible:
Allowing a witch to live.
Eating shrimp (pork, lobster, cheeseburgers)
Women showing their hair.
Touching a woman who's menstruating.
Wearing clothes made of mixed fibers.

Things mentioned as A-Ok in the bible:
Keeping slaves.
Beating slaves.
Killing children for calling a man 'baldie'.
Attacking other people because you want their land.

So, take things that are a 'sin' with a grain of salt. A lot of people call things that make them uncomfortable a sin, and pick and choose what they want to believe in the Bible. It's sad that your mother feels the way she does about who you are. Hopefully someday she can see that you are still the wonderful daughter that she raised and that you are just fine the way you are.

Answer 4

Here are a few websites that might help you out here:

http://godmademegay.com/

and

http://whosoever.org/bible/

I'll tell you now, the second one takes some time to read through, but it's totally worth it.

Also, just remember, if your mother believes God created everyone, then not only was it Adam and Eve, but also Jill, Don, Martha, Jared, Connie, Paula, Alvin...etc.

Also, there are a couple of stories in the Bible where God actually blessed same-sex unions. The story of Johnathan and David, and the story of Ruth and Naomi.
Although I believe the story of Ruth and Naomi isn't actually in the cannonized Bible, but rather from the Torah.

You can't change your sexuality, you already know you didn't choose it. Attempting to change it will only leave you disheartened and depressed.
Trust me, many of us here have already tried and we've learned, it just can't be done.

Answer 5

Homosexuality and bi-sexuality are are merely 2 comparable varieties of fornication, additionally such as adultery. they're all sins of the flesh and that they are an abomination to God. it is not suitable what you like to call it or what word dancing you love to do around it. i'm hoping you recognize that this isn't any longer the only verse interior the Bible that warns of the hazards of homosexuality. Leviticus 18:22, and one million Corinthians - 6-19 additionally talk of this sin. by the way, you are able to mock Christians in case you like, this is your determination. despite if, I worry no guy for any reason; yet I do worry for the souls of many for many motives, their mocking being one.

Answer 6

Well, homosexuality is a sin to Jews,Muslims and Christians.
Im not sure about Buddhists views of homosexuality but i know that Buddhists love everyone and they dont label and judge the gays. hat is why i am following Buddhism.I am a born Catholic.
My mom hates me if i am a lesbian but i cant help it though, we're in the same situation here.Dont worry,she will try to accept you slowly if she really understands and love you. She will get hurt and you will to,so be prepared.

Good luck mate!

Answer 7

When is it ok to tell your children to change who they really are. I'm sure she loves you but, wow. No, you do what makes you happy. You can't change anyway. What do you think will happen if you do and live a life in shame? Be happy with yourself. Your perfect just the way you are. I'm sorry I had to tell you instead of you mom. She's being selfish.

Answer 8

No, it is not a sin.You won't be able to change if you tried. Just learn to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are. Homosexuality is a natural phenomena, and occurs throughout the animal world, not just in human beings. It is nothing to be ashamed of, and certainly it is not a sin.

Answer 9

because homosexuality is not a choice you cant change and you shouldnt. God loves you. that fact that you're graduating means that your mother did a great job raising you. dont change be who you are. and if you do that in the end everyone will be happy

Answer 10

It's just a belief or a myth. Relax. Homosexuality is not a sin at all. It's just a human characteristic. The Bible taught people to love all humans, regardless of sexual orientation.