Do you think that a man and a woman can still be "friends" after they've made the decision to end the relationship "officially" (eg, divorce)?
What exactly is the point in keeping the friendship? Do you think that ppl who do this expect themselves to be able to get back together again? But whats the point?
Your thoughts?
2007-11-03 19:06:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
the lioness ~ i knew you would show some interest in a question like this ~ hehe....
2007-11-03 19:18:11 · update #1
some men & women would argue that they do this because of the 'kids'.
But i feel what they are really concerned about is to see their ex-partners having a great time in his/her new relationship.
2007-11-03 19:27:21 · update #2
Lioness - i was a little busy okay let me check them out now.
2007-11-03 20:01:13 · update #3
Lioness - oh too late now. sorry but i wouldn't have sufficient knowledge to answer them anyway.
2007-11-03 20:04:23 · update #4
Depends on the persons, but I can see how there would be value in their friendship. My ex husband and I were friends for five years before we were anything else. Our marriage didn't work out, but we didn't see a reason to not go back to the way we were pre-marriage. This only works when both people have no intentions of getting back together and have moved on. We're grateful for each other's friendship, and my family still treats him as family....Why lose a best friend just because we couldn't work it out in the romance department?
His girlfriends initially have a problem with me, but then they usually get over it, knowing we have no intentions of getting back together.
EDIT: Why didn't answer my question earlier?
EDIT II: The question was why did you say I sounded like someone else on here on a different post?
2007-11-03 19:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lioness 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm naive, but isn't friendship a part of what attracts a couple in the first place, besides sexual attraction?
I think that it is possible, as long as each person respects any other new relationships with ex-partners. That means taking a back-seat and not allowing friendship to get in the way of a new relationship.
2007-11-04 01:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Shivers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I have become good friends - more so than we ever were when married. We encourage the friendship because we can be there for each other without any of the negativity that permeated our marriage. If we disagree, we get up and go to our respective homes - without having any hurt feelings. It just seems less stressful - no expectations and it really works for us.
btw, this friendship is with my second ex-husband - it would never nor will develop with my first.
2007-11-03 19:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes with some qualifiers.
If the divorce or breakup is fueled with anger or hurt, no.
If the break up is because of other things such as boredom, growing apart, just can't find enough to stick together, yes. Whatever you first respected in your partner is still there.
Young women who say let's be friends aren't brave enough to say I'm sorry this hurts, but I'm done, go away. They think that by lying they are making it less complicated.
Also just because a couple breaks up doesn't mean that sex always stops. Sometimes the comfort of a familiar body is easy to snuggle back up to.
2007-11-03 19:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by greybeads 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am on good terms with both my ex husbands. We don't hang out or anything, but I don't like to burn bridges in general. It's not so much that I want to get back with either because I do not; it's just that both were my friends before we started dating, so why through that away? Once I couldn't find my taxes and I really needed them. I called my ex and he gladly gave me a copy. My other ex had problems with his credit because our names are so similar and we shared the same birthday (weird, I know) and because he's been civil to me, I helped him. His credit report basically showed that he owned my house - which he did not... I had to write a letter to let them know that he is not me and he does not own my house... He was able to get the loan immediately as his credit is great...
2007-11-04 12:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Fex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the ones that do are in the minority. There is usually much animosity between the two divorced people which kills the possibility of a friendly relationship.
Think about it. If they were true friends during their marriage, it would not have ended in divorce.
2007-11-04 00:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Marguerite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not married/divorced but if I was then, good riddance, sucka!out of sight, out of mind.people that expect to rekindle the flame might be officially divorced, but they're still not completely over their ex or for the sake of their kids to have a 'complete' family, they feel that they owe it to their kids to make their relationship work.for the sake of your own sanity should come first.it really depends on individual situations.
2007-11-03 20:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by polly-pocket 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how amicable the divorce/break-up was. You might enjoy each other's company, but only in certain doses. And, sure, the sex might not be great. But it requires a certain level of maturity for both.
2007-11-04 01:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've made a deep emotional connection with someone why wouldn't you want to keep that person in your life?
I don't understand why you would want to let that person drop out of your life... in fact, I think THAT is the better question: Why would you let them go?
And of course you can be friends.
2007-11-03 19:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bye for now... 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts are there is no point; once ended it stays ended.
However, I will go on to say both owe it to the other to be cordial and, or close to it, at all times.
2007-11-03 20:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋