He said that I can't put it up this year because he thinks our son will pull it over. I think that if we pay close enough attention it should be fine. I don't want to fight about it, but I do think that we should have a tree, especially with a little boy..my sister already has hers up and he loves it! I'm just aggravated because when I mention lights or anything about our tree to someone he says, "I already said we're not putting the tree up this year" like I have no say whatsoever. Should I just put it up anyway?
2007-11-03 17:17:13 · 17 answers · asked by ... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
well depends on the baby. for safety you should put like a small fence or something around the tree so the kid cant get near it and end up injured. the key is to be safe.
2007-11-03 17:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cristina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Like you said, if you're cautious there should be no problem. My son was about 10 months his first real Christmas, I made sure to put all the ornaments on the wires and tied them around the branches about three times so they cant fall off or be pulled off easily and keep a close eyes. Besides, what is Christmas if it isn't through the eyes of a child, especially a baby? He'll LOVE the lights and the ornaments, thats a big part of Christmas. Tell your hubby it isn't 1955 and if you want you'll put the tree up because that's part of Christmas!
2007-11-04 00:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Fashionista85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He certainly has a bad attitude about it, and I think you should discuss it with him. Tell him it's a decision that you two need to make together, and you think it'll be okay. Tell him you'll take responsibility for any mess. Don't let him treat you that way, but undermining him is not the answer either. You two are adults, you can work it out.
My experience is that you'll have more problems with the ornaments than the tree itself. Put only either unbreakable (wood) or very cheap ornaments that you won't miss on the lower part of the tree. Be prepared to lose a few.
The biggest problem we ever had was the sugar water spilling in the base the first year- pain in the carpet. But since then we've had a plastic tree so that's not an issue.
Good luck
2007-11-04 00:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you put a small one on a table? Do you have a porch or side room where you can close the door whenever you are not 100% paying attention? How about wall decorations instead of a tree. The child will enjoy the lights and won't know the difference between a tree and a wall display. I would not do anything without agreement between the two of you. Surely there is an idea for compromise....
2007-11-04 00:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Will you not be going anywhere there will be a tree? And is he going to insist they not have a tree either?I think he is acting too juvenile.Yes you should discuss it but you can always comprise and put the tree on a table where it will not be pulled over.And no do not take any abuse for anything that should go wrong things do happen and where is he?I have three dogs and a cat so yes its about the same safety wise.Hope you will be able to work this out and not ruin your holiday,Merry Christmas to you.!
2007-11-04 17:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by peppersham 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest using a baby/pet gate around the tree. They sell pretty cheap ones at pet shops. Just stick the tree in a corner of the room and set up the gate about 2 feet from the edge of the tree. Babies love to look at Christmas trees. I know tons of people whose children took their first steps/learned to crawl/etc because they were fascinated by the sparkling lights on the tree.
2007-11-04 01:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call - I don't know how big and/or stable your tree would be. And I don't know how much of a "muncher" your little guy is.
Your husband is thinking safety first, which is great, so don't get mad at him for it. If anything, be greatful that he's at least showing a sign of great care for the child.
But if you still insist on putting it up, maybe discuss preventative plans to keep the child away from the tree and/or the decorations you may plan to put on it.
I would NOT just "put it up anyway" though...if you were to put it up, it would have to be after a verbal agreement with your husband. Doing womething "behind his back" would be a direct insult/assault to him. It may start bigger arguments than you'd imagine.
2007-11-04 00:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by suezzle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you NEED to have a tree because you have a baby!! :d family tradition an all that. he said what? oh hell no! guess i been single to long..what are you a dog? a child? i'd simply wait till he was out and put a small one up somewhere out of reach of the baby, but still in PLAIN view of the man.
:d now ya know why i am still single.. oh wait.. i LIKE being able to do what i want. when i want.
"i already said we're not putting up a tree this year."
hmm..i'd put one up anyway ...but thats just me. :D
2007-11-04 00:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by skittle_goddess_2525 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put the tree up and just make sure you keep an eye on your kid and all should be fine people do it all the time tell him it is not a big deal good luck
2007-11-04 01:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Angela V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about putting wire around the tree and putting towards the ceiling to secure it. We had to do that with my cat. He had climbed up the tree and knocked it down but after that it was ok. Good luck there. I truely hope there is a compromise. All the luck to you guys.
2007-11-04 07:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Evey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋