Is it better to keep elderly at home (clode to home) or you think that they belong in old age homes and why?

Answer 1

it depends on your culture.. I would rather have my parents at home. Not only elderly are physical handicapped. My mom is a good example.. She is 84 and yet she still goes to office. Her mind is sharp in investing in stock market. Even though she suffered mild stroke, she recovered fast and it was not a burden for us to serve her.

Answer 2

There can be NO one, pat answer to this delema...it depends upon the amount of care required and the strenght/health of the caregiver. To take on the task of caring for an infirm elderly person requires serious dedication, strength, and stamina..usually those who are closest to the elderly are least able to do this. AND it is a lifetime sentence, no matter how you look at it. Qualified homes have the ability to give the best care, but if the elderly is continent, has full mental capacity, and is mobile, there is no reason to do anything other than to open your home to them..for they will be a contributor, not a burden. WE seem to have some kind of built in guilt complex about when to release our loved ones to those better able to handel the extreme care needs...and we should not. IT is often far worse to try to keep them with us out of selfishness than to let others do what is necessary. I have seen far too many families destroyed out of a false sense of guilt when trying to care for altzheimer patients, patients who are not aware of what is going on around them, etc. AND, an elderly person who is immoblie is at danger in a home where real care and knowledge are not present. A simple fall in ones home can be a death sentence. love and peace, Goldwing

Answer 3

I believe with all my heart, that our elderly parents should be able to remain at home until they can no longer maintain, on thier own.

Personally and frankly, my dad died when I was 16. I was with him every step of his illness! Then, some 22 yrs, later, my Mom passed away. I was an adult, then and I brought my Mom to my home so that she would not die with strangers. She did not! She died with all three of her children standing at her bed!

Now, I feel the same way about others as well. It is cruel the way some older people get dropped off, at a facility and never have visitors! That is not living! They have stripped them of all they knew, placed them in someone elses care and walked away. To me, this can be one of the most cruel acts a person can do.

I do understand that many need these facilities for health reasons. These are not the ones I am speaking about. Even so, all human beings deserve the right to die with dignity!

Answer 4

BITE YOUR TONGUE!! Ha Ha..as long as we "Elderly" can do our own thing and not hurt ourselves let us do it...when we get to where we can't..then do what you have to depending on your financial situation (or ours) and do it in good conscience. There are so many things to consider,,financial being one thing and your ability to be a caregiver. Some people can handle it..some can't.Some have a good family support system..some don't. Nobody "belongs" in a Nursing home..but sometifmes that has to be based on all of the above..and the medicat attention needed by the older person. If you find you have to do this..then just don't forget they are there...I'm not ranting..I've just been thru this with my Mother..and I know how it hurts.

Answer 5

The answer to this depends on the situation, the illness, the financial stability. For some, family members do not want to be held responsible for the daily routines, cleanups, feeding, medications which the elder person needs. Others will bring the member into their home, but eventually someone will find him/herself caring for the elder. This is a difficult question to answer.

Answer 6

I think they are better off in personal care homes or nursing homes from a safety issue. In this day and age where everyone has to work, there is rarely someone who can afford to stay home with a senior family member. Wandering, falling, and medication issues become a problem. I have no desire to live with my children or place that burden upon them. I am sure there are others who feel differently.

Answer 7

It depends ont he health of the elder, and it depends too on the MENTAL State of the elder and it even depends a LOT on the relationship between parent and child. Remember now, the roles are reversed once the elder needs care and an ELDER doesn't LIKE that reversal one bit. My grandmother moved in with my mom---BOTH were hard-headed, stubborn and independent women... always got along but NOT if they stayed together for too long. A couple of weeks at a time was about it. Well, my mother and grandmother faught like cats and dogs... one was always crying and I felt like I was the referee in a prize fight most of the time... I used to come over once in a while and they'd both be at each other... I'd split em up---talk to each one of them and I'd end up being the adult... I finally had to convince my mom to let my grandmother move to an ambulatory adult home.... she just wanted to be around people her own AGE......moving a parent in kind of isolates the elder... all they see is people their CHILDREN's age....and as adult as these children may be, they are ALWAYS looked on as children by their parents. Since my mother and I really never talked much and still don't so I suspect she won't be moving in with ME at all.... besides, I have an older brother that is VERY close to her...who is single...

Answer 8

first and foremost, it depends on the person's health. If the person has issues such as Alzheimers or severe dementia, then a specialized home may be best for them. Also, one must consider the care-taker and how they and their families are equipped to care for the elderly family member. It's a team effort, but it seems they (the elderly) do thrive best in their own home, or with their families (with support care). There's a lot to this, so be sure to check with your local community to see what's available.

Answer 9

A good old age home with frequent visits from family and friends is a good option. Being home among loved ones is the ideal way, but this is typically not possible or effective these days due to disjoint families, workloads, busy schedules and a general lack of time.

Answer 10

Home if they can handle it in the family. My uncle has been having strokes now can't walk or talk or get to the bathroom. His wife has had cancer twice and shoulder surgery so can't lift him. Two kids out of state and two local but one local is handicapped. The healthy local daughter has a job and family including a handicapped son so can't spend all day with her parents. Now the uncle had to be taken to the hospital and they want him to go to a nursing home. His wife is saying he can come home as soon as he can walk. He won't be able to walk again so after 61 years of marriage she might have to let him stay in a nursing home. Of course she wants him home and he would like to be home but he wouldn't get good care at home.
My mom is 81 and in her own home we talked her into hiring work done when she can't do it herself. She had people come do all her flowerbeds and a boy come clean for her even her light fixture over the table. I would rather see her spend down assets to stay at home than move to assisted living. She is used to a 3 bedroom house with a yard and cat so to go to an apartment would make her unhappy. Family drops in about once a week but we are getting too old to do our own yard work without taking on hers too.

Answer 11

If someone in the family can stay home and take care of their loved one that's wonderful. However, there are circumstances, where the choice is taken away from them.

Sometimes people who have Dementia/Alzheimer's need the safety of a special unit at a nursing home, to keep them from wandering, or walking away from home and getting lost, and possibly injured.

Sometimes a family member cannot afford to stay home, they must work to support themselves / family.

It takes a lot of dedication to keep someone in your home, irregardless of how much you care about them.