They were fighting in the car, she hit him and demanded to be let out of the car. He told her the area was not safe. She told him off and he said screw it and left her. Two guys in a car pick her up and gang raped her for two hours. She blames him. I think it was her own stupid fault. The D.A. asked questions and let him know that his ex wants him charged as an participating suspect for leaving her in a bad neigborhood. Who is right?
2007-11-03 15:19:39 · 16 answers · asked by Snappy Answers 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
He left her, he gave her a warning, she did not heed the warning, how can he be charged? He didn't force her out of the car and call the guys over.... it's all a misfortune and she paid a price for it.
2007-11-03 15:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
The problem here is the same problem in all of these types of cases. You are only getting one side of the story. How do you KNOW he didn't put her out? You weren't there. It's he-said, she-said. I have to agree that a real man would not leave his woman in a bad area, no matter what. You are supposed to protect the ones you love, even from themselves if necessary. During arguments people are often irrational and say or do stupid things. I was in a car once with my ex (someone else was driving; I was in front passenger, he was in the back) and he actually opened the door and jumped out of the car while it was moving. My friend who was driving was like, "What should I do?! Should I go back and get him??" And I said, "Of course! We can't just leave him, he might be hurt." If he got hurt, it'd be his own fault but I'd blame myself, too for leaving him there when I could have helped him or gotten him to a hospital. If your friend is a real man, he should feel a certain amount of guilt also, whether it's warranted or not. Is the D.A. considering charging him? If they are then there is more to this story than what you know. People often retouch events to shade themselves as more noble than they really are.
2007-11-03 17:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guys who raped her are responsible for the rape.
The boy friend was given a choice, let her out or be guilty of kidnapping. She was an adult demanding to be "let go" of his company and he had no legal right to refuse her demand. He possible could have gotten out of the car and given it to her so she could drive to a safe area but then maybe he would have been raped.
He did leave her in an area he knew was dangerous. He could have stayed in the area following her until she found a cab. Then again, she was pretty stupid getting into a car with two strangers.
But the rape was the fault of the two guys who did it. She has no right to blame the boy friend for doing as she demanded. While his choices were kind of stupid, they are not the cause of the rape. As far as the cops charging him that is stupid. It may be that they have not a clue of who to arrest and are using him as a way of prosecuting someone. A scape goat.
A foil. A pawn.
Seems pretty much everyone in this situation is stupid.
2007-11-03 15:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has no criminal liability.
Something is not kosher about the DA (an attorney) telling hiim that she wants him charged. Under every concept I can think of (as an attorney) there is nothing you can charge him with. He is not a principal actor (didn't commit the crime, didn't conspire in the commission of the crime, and did not encourage the crime by others). Had the DA thought he was a suspect, he would have Mirandized your friend. DA probably talked to him to make sure he didn't set her up is my guess.
Despite there being no criminal liability, she may also believe he has civil liability, but don't see much success in that considering the circumstances. He had no duty to her as she acted voluntarily to get out of his car in that neighborhood despite his warnings/protestations not to. Thus, he did not put her in peril, which would create a duty that may make him potentially liable.
Obviously, she wants your buddy to feel responsible, but at best it would be moral/emotional resonsibility and that's it.
I feel her pain, but it's her pain alone.
2007-11-03 15:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by ironjag 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He gave her a fair warning, it's her own fault for not listening (regardless of the circumstances of the argument or their relationship).
She has no right to blame him, as he is should not be liable or responsible for the actions of the rapists. It was HER decision to leave the car and go. As unfortunate as it is, she payed the consequence for her decision. He tried to get her to stay in the car, didn't he? Your buddy can say that he would've allowed to let her go in a more safer area.
I repeat: YES he did let her go with A FAIR WARNING. But it was HER DECISION to not take it into consideration and LEFT.
Hope this helps.
2007-11-03 15:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The rape is not your buddy's fault. Sounds like she is trying to blame someone else for her stupidity. Getting out of your friend's car, and into a stranger's car doesn't sound very bright. Advise your friend to not walk away from this female, run, very very fast.
2007-11-03 15:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Cecil n 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wow a real man would never let his girlfriend out of the car in a bad area. no matter how much of a drama queen she may be. i doubt he can be charged but next time maybe he should think first. and she was just as stupid for getting into a car with strangers. just a horrible situation.
2007-11-03 15:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is a very unfortunate situation. However, he can not be charged because he did not criminally do anything wrong.
Maybe people should give the drama queen act a rest.
2007-11-03 15:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rumpy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to blame him for her own stupidity.
He told her it was a bad area.
What she's wanting her boyfriend charged with won't stand up in court.
I'm sorry she got raped, but.....
She should be charged with stupidity.
2007-11-03 15:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I AM A FEMALE AND HAVE TO SAY IT IS HER FAULT. I HAVE TALKED $H!T TO A MANY OF BOYFRIENDS I WAS AGRUING WITH IN THEIR CAR, BUT MY MOMMA DIDN'T RAISE NO FOOL. I DID NOT START TALKING $H!T UNTIL I WAS CLOSE ENOUGH TO MY HOUSE WHERE IF HE PUT ME OUT I WAS SAFE. THIS GUY DIDN'T EVEN PUT HER OUT--SHE GOT OUT. IF SHE FELT SHE HAD THE BALLS TO LEAVE AND BE ON HER OWN THEN SHE ACCEPTED ALL THE DANGERS THAT CAME WITH THAT DECISION.
2007-11-03 15:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋