2007-11-03 14:36:15 · 13 answers · asked by masonv80 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am a bit of a push over, i think if its in you it wont change, just be who you are. If something has happened and its bothered you, tackle that problem approach who ever is in the wrong and tell them how you feel.
I always think people who are 'push overs' are just really nice and want to help people, its other people who have it wrong.
2007-11-03 14:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by °º© r u b y l i g h t s ©º° 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to stand up for yourself. Think about what you want to happen in your life and judge your actions and reactions from that standpoint.
It is one thing to be a helpful and loving and supportive friend or family member, it is quite another to be used as a doormat, put yourself last and constantly feel disgusted at yourself for it.
There have been many books published about assertiveness, the local library or bookstore could help you find a few that you would find useful.
I have found it helpful to make actual lists of the things that I want to happen, and I can base my decisions on that.
Good luck and have a good day.
2007-11-03 22:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will learn yourself. One day you will decide that you've had enough of being pushed around and you'll surprise yourself by standing up to arrogant people and speaking up when you are being put on. It will happen naturally. You don't have to change your personality and you don't have to be aggressive. just respect yourself and others around you and speak up when you think something is wrong.
2007-11-03 21:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by ????????? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all about confidence and self belief being a pushover means your lacking in those departments if someone is taking advantage of you say so but if you get a kick out of helping someone then your not a pushover it's knowing the difference that matters
2007-11-03 21:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sally 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, and don't expect to do it all in one day. Start by sticking up for yourself in little things with low stakes, then move on to bigger stuff. It helps if you have a good friend that will stand by your side when the going gets tough.
2007-11-03 21:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Poet G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust and believe in yourself who you are what you are and also what you believe in and stick to it.
Once you have said no once it will be hard but after you will feel so good next time will be easier.
Once you have self belief so will others and they will then see you are no push over.
I hope that helps you.
2007-11-04 06:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you stop? I enjoy helping others and doing what they ask. I love to make people smile. I love to feel needed.
2007-11-03 21:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by mel s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be assertive. Tell a few people off from time to time. I have just given someone a right blasting (i.e. telling off) and occassionally you need to do that.
2007-11-03 21:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Zheia 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stand up for yourself
2007-11-03 21:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by ipod 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stand up for yourself, question what others are saying about you and stand up for yourself, either that or carry a 12bore round with you
2007-11-03 21:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋