Men: What would you do if your wife hit you?

Question

Gnu: So how does it make one feel after a woman does that?

Steve: It happens more than you think by non-violent women because it's often taken as a joke or/and there are no consequences. All one has to do is to compare the responses between the 2 questions. You probably think I'm naive to have just realized this double standard but I guess I had never bumped into it until now. I just can't believe the disrespectful/belittling aspect of it would be so unequally judged and treated. What is more interesting to me is how a man feels after this happens...but I bet I can't find out because men rarely open up about these things.

Eternal: Geez with all the instructions of how to block hitting from a woman LOL

Steve: I'm not trying to change the world, I just dedicated a day to it on YA... and I'm pretty much getting it out of my system after having vented for all day LOL

Mackie: awwww

Gnu: THAT is wild!

Answer 1

I wouldn't be married but given the hypothetical...

I would immediately extricate myself from the situation before it escalated.

I would notify her by telephone that such behavior was absolutely unacceptable and inquire as to her reasons for her behavior, whether she intended to persist in it, and what else she had to say for herself.

If that didn't lead to a suitable resolution, I'd leave her and probably end up losing half of my money and not being able to see any kids we might have, but that's better than ending up in jail which is what would happen if the situation were allowed to escalate and I defended myself.

EDIT

Well, one incident comes to mind.

Waking up to being whacked in the groin with a broom handle... disorientation, dismay, confusion, then gathering my wits as the pain quickly made me lucid and getting dressed to get out of there as she yelled at me and threw things. I kept my arms at my side because I knew if I raised them I'd be too tempted to hit and I used my shoulders to push her aside as she kept trying to block my path.

We ended up staying together but later she broke up but still stayed in my spare bedroom until she could save up for first and last on a new place.

Basically, you go sort of numb and feel like a robot because if you let yourself feel enraged, you aren't sure if you'll be able to stop.

(Incidentally, I had agreed to go with her on a job interview and she decided that since I didn't spontaneously wake up early to do so, I obviously didn't care about her. Hence the broom handle.)

EDIT

She was definitely a piece of work. And not to sound sexist, but I believe she did have some serious hormonal issues, perhaps linked in some way with her endometriosis, because her moods could fluctuate wildly.

Answer 2

"I don't mean to brag, I don't mean to boast, but" my answer is highly hypothetical since I don't even associate with people with that potential let alone marry someone that has the propensity for violence.

However, it is possible for a non violently disposed person to momentarily "lose it" under very extreme duress.

That being said, I would restrain her until she calmed down, and talk through whatever it was that she thinks/thought I did. (assuming it was a hit not a stab in the kidneys with a steak knife!)

I have advised other men to call 9-1-1 immediately so that the situation is legally documented in the event of an escalation or recurrence and, more importantly, to prevent an escalation or recurrence - even if that means she's gotta get locked up.

That scenario is unthinkable to me, though. Not part of my world.

EDIT: Oh yeah, I'm sure it does and I know about the double standard, but what can you do?

I guess my point is if you marry a person, you would be wise to, beforehand, insure that s/he is not non-violent only because they're just non-violent, but because they are a good upright person all around, and being violent (and other mean stuff) is simply not thinkable.

You (we) ain't changin' the world. Leave the crazies to themselves.

Answer 3

Take it. No REAL man will touch a woman in anger. No matter how bad we go crazy over you mental cases, that's something that is forbidden among gentlemen. Handle it with class, and tell her to let me know when she's done so we could talk. The laws on us hitting women are there for a reason. Now it's the same way for you women. Because of the other type of coward, the rat. If she's beating your *** in front of the children, THEN it's time for restraints, but handle the situation your damn selves without anyone getting killed.

Answer 4

you are able to desire to realize this till now this is going to become worse and deadly. maximum guy does not hit their spouse in any respect, if he has an anger situation then he should be faraway from you till now he % his subject. lower back, guy do no longer hit their spouse in marriage. Its constantly those loopy guy with psychological-subjects that does. you are able to desire to get help precise away till now it escalates to the subsequent point. it may be merely bruise and hits, yet later on this is going to likely be come greater existence-threatening and you'd be in hazard too. you are able to desire to bypass to the wellness center to deal jointly with your injury, it is not suitable what form of harm you have. The wellness center will rfile the incident and you will have it in checklist. tell the nurse or the healthcare expert that this is simply by kin violence, that your husband hit you and its no longer the 1st time it ensue. they are going to likely touch the authority to return in to take a solid look at you and shield the placement. in the event that they do no longer touch the police, you are able to desire to bypass to the police youself and seek for their help. you're able to desire to rfile this to the authority to have some style of risk-free practices out of your husband. No guy of their precise techniques could or could desire to apply violence against their important different, you are able to desire to realize this as we talk. bypass on your chum or mom's place and bypass to wellness center precise away, its the only element which will preclude and your infant's existence.

Answer 5

If it were out of anger, I would have to defend myself in a manner that would stop her from continuing, meaning just overpower her and hold her down until she calms down. I wouldn't strike back, it's too easy and I know it would end ugly.
However, after that, I would have to threaten her that I wouldn't hold back if she were to do it a second time; she's been warned, and I won't be a punching bag out of chivalry.

Answer 6

If she tries to go for your face, you should use the forearm side block or overhead block, depending on the angle of her incoming strike. Then restrain her arms and gently inquire as to the state of her mind.

Answer 7

That would depend entirely on her state of mind and her intent. If she were expressing an inconsolable pain, like the loss of a loved one, and she were simply lashing out at God so to speak, my reaction would be completely different than if she were explicitly intent on my demise, and I had no other means of intervention to ensure my safety.

Shingoshi Dao

Answer 8

not a man but i'll give u the answer my husband always says about women hitting men..

No man should ever raise his fist to a "LADY", a lady may slap you or maybe even punch u in the arm but thats no reason to hit a "LADY", but if a Female comes at you with her fists balled , chest puffed out, trying to hit like a man and wanting to fight like a man, then he'll knock her out like a man.

Answer 9

I'm a wife and wow that feeling I've had lol

Answer 10

WOW, we don't argue,fight,or even queall, but if she were to hit me, I'd probly laugh laugh, casue she would hit like a girl, and I'm a pro-boxer!!!