we have dealt with my wifes son trying to kill himself for 7 years. she could not deal with it or anything. i ended taking care of her sons problems, docs councilers insurance and all the running while having a 55 hour a week job.i have ended up making a very good wife for her. she is on 8 meds for dep. angxiety. she wants to goup north to a friends to get away from everything. this is running away from her problems and not dealing with them. right? i am also dealing with empty nest syndrome. didnt think there was such a thing. i am lost on what to do?
2007-11-03 13:58:52 · 12 answers · asked by tinytim alone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Write back in a month and tell us how you are. I bet you will feel 200% better ..
Good Luck!
2007-11-03 15:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long she wants to be up north or if you are invited to go along. If she wants to go for indefinate period of time without you, that would be a problem. I would not see anything wrong with her going for a week or so with or without you. She was lucky to have you to take care of things when she couldn't. I'm sure you know that depression is an illness and the pills may help, but they don't always cure.
How about suggesting to her that you both get away for a nice vacation.
2007-11-03 21:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by Halley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do it all by yourself , although it sounds like you have . I took care of my wife's mom at the nursing home for 3 years until the end of her life . My wife and daughter have had lots of problems with their health , after so many DR. appointments , prescriptions , this , that , when does it stop ? I once asked GOD if he could get his foot off my throat . I am not particularly religious , but it does help to pray in times of great despair. Also to make time for yourself , even if it is an hour at the library or 9 holes of golf somewhere .
2007-11-03 21:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mark H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a wonderful man, let her go and she herself will find out how good of man you are. Maybe she is running away from her problem, but sometimes one needs to get away for a while, maybe she needs some space. Let her go, when she comes back, then you take off for a while too. You both need some time out, apart it will do you and her some good.
2007-11-03 21:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say you have a lot of company. Many families deal with mental illness.
Secondly, YOU need some care as well. I hope you find time for YOU. Perhaps a counselor to help you deal with pent up emotions.
Good luck.
Peace.
2007-11-03 21:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have been through alot. Have you any friends or family to turn too? Do you still love this woman? It sounds like YOU are the one that needs a break. Hang in there, you will be rewarded with all your good deeds.
2007-11-03 22:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by SweetSurrender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude sounds like your the one who needs to get away. talk to your wifes doc she needs a medication review and probably a kick in the *** sometimes tough love is the only alternative and i would be telling the son if you really want out do it properly otherwise get some dambed help
2007-11-03 21:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by chickybabe1371 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pop some corn, tune in the football game, call an old friend. Get up and go to church tomorrow. Change the locks, change the phone.
Your life is about to get better.
2007-11-03 21:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by gabluesmanxlt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL, 20 YEARS IS A LONG TIME TO BE DOING EVERYTHING, SO ITS ABOUT TIME YOU LOOKED AFTER YOURSELF FOR A CHANGE, I AGREE UR WIFE IS RUNNING AWAY FROM HER PROBLEMS, BUT I THINK ITS TIME SHE GOT HELP & TRYED STANDING ON HER FEET YOU HAVE TO FACE THINGS TO SORT THEM OUT NOT RUN, BUT AS FOR YOU, START LOOKING TO HELPING RELAX YOU NEED A BREAK AFTER ALL THAT TIME, GOOD LUCK,
2007-11-03 21:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby you enjoy and seek the companionship of friends.
2007-11-03 21:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋