I had a married man stare at me all the time, make excuses to be around me, etc......for over a year. Obviously, I wasn't into having an affair.....So, why is he still trying? Does he want out of his marriage? Or is he just looking for an affair? Why would he still keep trying to get with me?
2007-11-03 13:57:52 · 10 answers · asked by bbwena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they forgot why they said "I do"
2007-11-03 17:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with most men who don't have a basic respect for women, he sees you as only a target. A focal point to fill his fantasies till he can entice you into making it become a reality. Then when that happens, you will no longer be his focus, and he will start looking for a new conquest. I have a brother who is like this. He boasts he could have any woman he wants, and he's not only married, but, a pastor. It's all perspective. His perspective is that you will cave into his subtle hints, that is until you jump all over him and threaten him with legal attacks. That's the only way to get rid of this sort of perversion!
2007-11-03 14:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably wants someone at the side. They thinks they can get into affair and get away easily by saying they are married. So just ignores him. Or just act like you have a boyfriend. Don't trust him. If he is not faithful to his wife then he is not be the one who you can trust.
2007-11-03 14:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of men are like that. Maybe he just wants to feel wanted by someone other than his wife. There isn't anything wrong with harmless flirting but if he crosses the line than he's a scumbag. Oh just read the lastbit of your question yeah he's a scumbag stay away.
2007-11-03 14:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men's sex drives don't stop when they are married. He is obviously looking for attention and you are most likely flattered by this on some level. If you weren't it wouldn't be that hard to keep your distance. I guarantee it will lead to heartache and trouble if you want to get involved, but you have to follow your heart; it's more powerful then your brain most times.
Most likely: wants to have sex with you on a short term basis
Somewhat likely: wants to just continue being your friend
Not likely: Is ready to leave wife and build a new life with you.
2007-11-03 14:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by wrestleben 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was a bartender and experienced the same. I was attracted to the guy who was married and was around me all the time. He seperated with his wife and we went out and now we are getting married in Dec. So........just go with your heart!
2007-11-04 06:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you have not been blunt enough in thwarting his advances. You may have to tell him to get lost in no uncertain terms and make sure he understands. Don't do or say anything to lead him on, he will get the hint if he isn't socially retarded.
2007-11-03 14:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you must be drop dead beautiful, you shou;dn't be angry, its nice to know that you are still appealin!! He prob just wants an affair, too scared to leave wifey, Just keep smiling, girl, because you've still got it!!!
2007-11-03 14:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because alot of men are like that. they don't cherish what they have at home. what they take for granted someone is wishing they has a family and someone to love. when they lose it then it's too late. i guess go figure
2007-11-03 16:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by jeannieboop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants some extra on the side - tell him to leave you alone and get lost. Don't give him any hope.
Run run run!!!
Joy to you.
2007-11-03 14:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋