i, as an adult was browsing certain chat rooms. I was totally gobsmacked to find my daughter on the same site when at the time she registerered was only 12 years old! I have the PC in the front room, its protectected by passwords how on earth can she still be accessing sites like this...btw I dont think bebo, utube etc help at all in this.
2007-11-03 13:55:42 · 46 answers · asked by hazeyg76 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Although I agree she should not be posted on adult sites because it is not acceptable this day and time, be aware she is probably sexually active with others in her group of peers. You should sit down with her and explain...NOT ARGUE you wish she wouldn't do such things on the internet. She could get someone in a lot of trouble and they go to jail if she met any of them. Or she could end up very hurt, kidnapped or killed.
Remember when you start talking to her she will become very defensive of her actions but please stay calm about it. It is estimated that 70 ot 80% of children under the age of 12 now participate in some form of sexual activity on a regular basis. Many do not consider oral or anal as being sexual.
Only by being calm and not arguing will you have any sucess. You must not yell or threaten. She will only hide from you her actions more carefully. Assure her of your love and try to understand from her point of view...you will win much easier in the end. Young girls are very savy these days and receive information from a number of places. Assure her that she can come to you and ask or tell you anything and you will talk but not argue with her. And for goodness sake don't be shocked by anything she may ask or devuldge. And always give her honest and straight forward answers...even if you have to tell her you will find out the correct answer first.
2007-11-03 14:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take the computer away until she is able to understand how dangerous that is. There are so many online predators just waiting to attack young girls (and boys even).....It's a scary thought and I've seen a few movies on Lifetime where this has happened.....If your daughter is a computer whiz, then there isn't any stopping her in figuring out how to get around the passwords and such...and trust me, I had no idea what I was doing when I first got my computer at the age of 12. I am now 20 and I know way too much about computers in that aspect.... I'd take her PC privalages away for awhile and talk to her about why you did.
2007-11-03 14:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by I ♥ my irish twins! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she is doing is wrong and dangerous, but I don't think that making an acount ad taling t her is the right idea at all!
She will have no trust in you when you tel her that its you and it culd scar your realationship! I would advise that you blcoked the site and had a long talk with herabout the dangers of online posting of pictures!
I read in a magazine a girl who had done a similar thing people had uteout pictures of her in a bikini removed the bikini with a program and made her look naked! Warn her o the horrible people who do this things and if she doesn't change her ways ban her from the computer.
2007-11-04 01:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be using the internet at her friends' houses or the library or anywhere. Even most schools have internet access now. Talk to her about it. Block the sites from your computer. You can also get a specific kid account with certain internet services. It lets you control which websites she goes to. But it also allows you to see every thing she has seen and all the websites she's been to. It records everything. You might want to invest in something like that.
2007-11-03 14:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by jerrri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a pretty horrifying thing for a parent to discover!
Certainly, contact the internet police but definatley sit down with her and ask her why she would want to do this. Explain truthfully what the dangers are in what she did. We as parents need to arm our children against the dangers that the internet can sometimes expose them to. Make sure she understands you. Dont get angry just be calm. She may have been just messing around with her friends and not realised what the repercussions can be when young girls do this sort of thing. The internet can never 100% gaurantee your childrens safety, kids are smart! Just talk to her openly about why she would want to do this.
Good luck and take care x
2007-11-03 14:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by superduper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the computer for a minute and realize that the pc is just a symptom of a bigger problem. the fact that she has the inclination to go to these sites, thats the problem. she needs some guidance about relationships. if she is flitting about in adult chat rooms, what is she doing when she is out with her friends? While I do not know your situation, I still would be very worried for her.
2007-11-03 17:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by C B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. It's possible that someone has used her pictures & she has no idea about being on websites.
Really have a big talk about it & explain the dangers etc & ask her why she would want to do that. Tell her it's wrong but don't get angry with her or she will ignore what your saying. You are going to have to talk to her like she is an adult & hopefully you will get through to her.
Otherwise, monitor her time on the computer much more closely & change the passwords.
2007-11-03 14:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by Meeeee! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She could be sneaking on computers at school. (The blocks they put on them are basically useless if the kids now how to use a proxy server). She could also be logging on from a friends house. My kids are only allowed on at home when I can supervise. If they get busted logging on at school or a friends they know they won't be allowed out of the house for a good long time. They also know any sites I haven't approved are off limits and will get them some big time punishment if they get caught.
2007-11-03 14:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wont like this but id suggest showing her some hardcore porn... ask is she readdy for this . possibly with somone bigger then her who wont take no for an answer as she is too small to stop them.
This is why mum says stay out of these till older.
Or get somone she does not know to respond and arranged a meet up... and scare the **** out of her... ie she gets taken in a car some where. And 'nearly raped' till you turn up to 'save her' and point out had this been for real and not mums friend. it may not have been nearly.
Oh and get hold of a mini series called Human Traffic about sex salve trafficing.
Its best to show why mum is concerned
2007-11-04 12:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a good talk to her and explain the dangers very carefully. She can access sites from any internet cafe, friends house, etc. She needs to understand that it's not a sensible thing to do.
We had a similar problem recently with my son. Luckily he'd left himself logged into his email account and I noticed lots of emails from one website, so I went on there and found he'd set himself up with a profile listing himself as 10 years older than he was. Women were sending him naked pictures of themselves. We disabled his account and had a good talk with him.
I know his email password, and I'm not ashamed to say I log in there every so often to check he's not doing something like that again.
2007-11-04 07:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋