how often do you argue? I am purposely not putting qualifiers like the topic of the disagreement. Also do you think that it is healthy to argue as much as you do?
2007-11-03 12:50:10 · 12 answers · asked by Vacious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, it is healthy to argue as long as you fight fair, not to "win" and not to humiliate the other person. And physical violence is NEVER okay. My first husband and I never argued, but divorced after 8 years. My second marriage has lasted 27 years so far. Early on, we had some horrendous arguments. We learned to tone it down and be more respectful to each other. We probably have 3 or 4 nasty arguments a year now, but we make an effort to make up before the day is over.
2007-11-03 13:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rainbow Connection 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a great question. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we argue about once a month and it's usually over something lame.
His son was living with us for the last 8 years. As the child got older and more disrespectful, it caused a lot of friction between us. We argued daily. As a stepmom, those were some of other most difficult of my life. Since he turned 18 and moved in May, arguing is a rarity. Circumstances have so much to do with arguing.
2007-11-03 20:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never. We have only ever had one big blow up and that was in the beginning of our relationship and it was over where we were going to move. We have disagreements, but I respect his opinion and he respects mine. We communicate which is why we don't argue. There isn't anything in this world that is worth arguing over. Life is too short and time is too precious to spend it being mad at anyone.
We have been married for almost 15 years.
2007-11-03 20:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband and I have been married for 13 years, we barely argue. Sometimes little nitpicky things, but I don't really consider that arguing. I would say we have a big argument probably a few times a year and it usually has to do with stress, or disciplining the kids' or money.
2007-11-03 20:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We argue all the time we are totally different so we are constantly going at it about it about all sorts of things and it is not healthy it is very stressful and not good for the kids
2007-11-04 01:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by free 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We argue about once a year. I'm talking argue and not a little misunderstanding that can be glossed over. I think we are pretty healthy as couples go.
2007-11-03 19:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not very often. Twice a month, max. We fight fairly (no name-calling, no low blows). We went through some horribly agonizing fights before we set ground rules out of respect for each other. Arguing can still suck, but at least less hurtful things are said.
2007-11-03 20:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by smt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We do not argue very often but when we do they are good ones, the stupid thing is they are never about us, we seem to have most of our arguments about other people, we both have our say and NEVER go to bed unless it is sorted.
2007-11-03 20:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We argue way too much about anything and everything.
No, it isn't healthy at all. For me, or our marriage.
2007-11-03 19:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by delanabobana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We don't argue at all..both of us were married before and got all that crap outta the way YEARS ago with spouses who liked to fight.
Time is too precious, as is our relationship.
2007-11-03 19:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by that judi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋