Options for when you're not enjoying college?

Question

i'm in my second semester at college and my social life is really not going well. the people suck. it seems as if everybody is so fake. what do i do?

Ray C- yeah that's pretty easy to say but what about those nights and weekends when u are in your dorm room bored to death with no one to talk to? it's horrible

Answer 1

I totally know how you feel. This is my 3rd sememster and I have officially declared that I don't belong here and I am going to get done as soon as possible by taking classes in the summer...

I would suggest joining a club or 2, that way you find someone who already has 1 thing in common with you.

If that doesnt work, your just going to have to make your own fun. Go for walks, draw or color, surf the net, watch movies, work out every other day(that would also get you in shape), read a book, meet friends online (that saved my life)..

Good luck

Answer 2

I went to one of the top universities in the country and had time to balance an active social life, clubs and academics. You need to work on developing better study skills and time management if it's taking you so long to get through all of your work. Look at what's taking so long, Are you doing readings you don't really need to do or are you having difficulty with the work so you are spending hours on the same question? Make sure to give yourself time off so you don't burn out. Evaluate what you want to do and if you are taking the right classes for you that balance what you are interested in with, what you need to take and something that will payoff in terms of career opportunities in the end. College is meant to be harder then high school, and it does take some time to adjust and learn to do it properly.

Answer 3

You have to make things happen in your life...you can't wait for them to happen to you. Start introducing yourself to people, start study groups for classes. Don't alienate yourself by just hanging out in your dorm. Everyone gets wrapped up in their own little worlds at college. There are a lot of people and a lot of things to do. Start joining some of the intramural sports groups or something to do with volunteer work.

The point is you have to get involved. You can't sit back and wait to be invited.

Hang in there.

Answer 4

This is how exactly I feel: you feel like they are just "fake", Do you also feel left out? Well, don't worry about it . If you have a goal in front of you that you really want to accomplish, you just put your education in the first place and go for it. Never give it up for the public surrounding you. That's what I did and later it all starts changing to the best. Trust me just give it some time and you'll see.

Answer 5

Consider finding a club or group for something you're interested in. Maybe you would meet people more like you in that kind of setting.
Many schools offer free counseling services. Those counselors hear this kind of thing a lot, and would probably be able to give you some specific advice about how to find friends.

Answer 6

Just hang in there. What to do depends on if you're in a dorm, at home, or an apt.
Just search out the kind of people you like and invite yourself to hang with them.
It often takes time and a bit of energy to make new friends.
Best wishes........... You'll get there.

Answer 7

As much as people say college is a time to party, it's not. You don't have time to have friends, if you're studying as much as you should. But I agree with everyone else - get a job or join groups to meet people. It sucks, but it's the way it is.

Answer 8

Ray C is right

You either concentrate on your studies OR you find out where all the parties are and go there!

Answer 9

well find out why your not enjoying and then go change it, ie get away from the so called fake people and find people who keep it real

change your social life,

Answer 10

Concentrate on your studies.