So say a couple has two kids, both of them are biological. Then they decide to adopt a third kid who is say 12...
Would it be fair to the adopted kid if the parents naturally love their biological children more?
Would it be fair to the biological children if the parents love all the children equally, and the attention was distributed equally even though the adopted child has been part of the family for a shorter period of time?
Do you think it is possible, if you have kids already to love an adopted child that old equally to your own children?
Just needing some ideas...
Thanks.
2007-11-03 12:13:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When I had my first child I didn't think I could love another as much as I did him. But I do. Along came my second child and I love him just as much.
Why would an additional child whether she/he is adopted diminish my love for the first two children?
It's not like a human being has a limited supply of love.
So, yes, it is possible to love an adopted child with equal love and no, I don't think it's unfair to the biological children to love an adopted child as much.
If all the children are receiving lots of love and attention they will feel secure in their parents love and not resent each other.
2007-11-03 13:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People with children adopt all the time. It wouldn't be fair if they loved the biological children more. The biological children should not, but may feel resentment at first. This is true in blended families as well. I could adopt a child of any age, but in fact, my husband would prefer to adopt an older boy.
2007-11-03 12:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you the boundaries of love. I think adopting older children can lead to loving them just as much and I have seen it. I have met many people who have adopted. I just came from a culture camp today. Some people had adult children and adopted other children. Time is no limiter of one's love. I also met someone who adopted two children approaching their teens and they loved them even before they came - of course, they were in contact with them and went to see them. There are communities of people who have adopted in list serves on the internet. Feel free to explore this option. The agency I used was Wide Horizons for Children, www.whfc.org or com. They have information, too, and offer a wide range of pre-adopt, adoption, and post-adopt services.
2007-11-03 12:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask Angela Jolie....
2007-11-03 13:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by gannoway 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋