Well as my hubby has sat infront of the tv staring at football and ignored me all day .. I decided to actually start watching the tv and the guys talking about the sports have these little pins on their coats and they looked like tomatoes to me. And I asked "what are those? Tomatoes?"
All the sudden my husband jumps up and starts yelling at me about how they are poppy flowers that are meant to be in memory of all the soldier thats died in the war and I should show some f'ig respect and not be such a rude b*tch
I'd really like to know how I was suppose to know this ... I'm from the US we don't have pins like that and I've never seen them before. I tried explaining this and got told to shut up because I was just being stupid
I really don't understand what I said that was wrong ...
2007-11-03 12:07:57 · 37 answers · asked by ♥Holly Cookie Starr™♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love how most of you seem to care more about the damn pins than him yelling at me. I was far away and it looked like a tomato to me and it still does. I have NEVER seen thm before in my life and who really cares ...
2007-11-03 12:53:45 · update #1
No- you're not wrong to ask about something you didn't know about! So what...you didn't know...big freakin' deal! He's a jerk for talking to you like that! Goodness! He could have just explained it to you like any other "normal" person would explain things.... I hope he doesn't talk to you all the time like this....I'd be walking out the door!
2007-11-03 12:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about why they were wearing the pins and what they represented.... seems like your husband has absolutely no respect for you. Yelling at you and making you feel like an idiot is abusive, not even taking into consideration that he didn't give a you know what about doing it in front of his friends.
You need to talk to him about his behavior and explain to him that you decicded to talk to him in private because it is the way it should be done, not in front of everyone. Tell him how he made you feel, if it starts becoming an argument, tell him that you will address him when he is calm. Do not tolerate that type of behavior from him. If you let him get away with it now, he will feel that he can do it and get away with it whenever he wants... which gives room for it to get worse.
If you feel you cannot talk to him, then write him a letter, that way he will read it and won't be able to interrupt you. This way you'll be able to get your thoughts together carefully.
Please don't allow him to do this to you again. It is demeaning and it is a form of abuse.
2007-11-03 12:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship and a guy, my girlfriend and I try not to go into disputes. Did he say it in a mean tone or sarcastic tone. The subject about the soldiers is serious and probably means alot, I know some people in the military but are still alive. But in a way he doesn't have to tell you to shut up and call you stupid. He's probably controlling isn't he, just a thought. The soldiers in the war, do this because they chose to fight against terrorism and want us to feel safe and go on with our lives. They would never want us to treat our spouses like that. It must be a sensitive subject to him.
Hope this helped.
2007-11-03 12:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Joe S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Important lesson you learned here . the guy has a anger problem My father is like that to a t and then some. I would not stay with this man. if this is how he is now with something like this can you imagine later its only going to get worse.
and in future yes its a poppy many soldiers died for our freedom and its nice that the men are wearing them to many foreigners who come into this country dont' even observe less where one of them yet they enjoy the freedom they have here.
2007-11-03 16:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 17:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by laducer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm that's crazy, getting so worked up about poppies!
yes they are meant in respect for people who died in wars but still it's hardly a big deal that you said they look like tomatoes!
are you sure there isn't some kind of underlying issue here, because it seems really strange for him to fly off the handle about just that?....
2007-11-03 13:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he be so mean to you about something so silly? Had you guys had an argument earlier in the day and maybe he was reacting to something else that you'd talked about then? I can't imagine why anything would lose it over something so small, let alone tear into you in such a nasty way.
2007-11-03 12:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by †®€Åç∫€ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband that he really hurt your feelings and that you had no idea what they were or what they were for. He needs to apologize for yelling at you and making a spectacle of the whole situation.
Sounds to me as if he has some real issues and needs to learn how to respect women. Where are you? What country are you in and where is he from?
2007-11-03 13:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you are from the US, then you should have seen the Veterans selling paper poppies outside of stores, etc.. If you meant you are not from the US, then I can understand how you would be hurt and shocked by your husband's rude reaction. Even if you are from the US and don't know what they are, he should be more patient and kind to his wife. You'd better set him straight now on how to treat his wife!!
2007-11-03 12:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by gma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is all jacked up on a football, adrenaline rush and is being a complete jerk. Sounds like you really didn't do anything to provoke it, so I would be a little worried about his anger issues. Does he do this a lot, just bust into anger, rampages for no reason?
2007-11-03 12:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋