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I've been talking to this guy i meet for like 3 monthsalready we live like 30m away and he comes to see me like every weekend and we talk everyday things are getting veryserious we are both 18 now he is a virgin and im not
i never told him before cause we were just friends but now that things are gettiing serious i need him to knw i have try to bring up the conversetion saying" so have you sleept with any bode are you a virgin" hoping that when he answers me he ask me the same but it dosent happen so i have also tried this "is there anything you want to know about me like my past or someting but he never askes me if im a virginn so how do i tell him i am afraid we stop talking when he finds out im not.so whats teh best way tosay it and how?i really need help on this people please.i love him and i dont want to lose him and it was my past i was 14 so i was stupid back then i had no idea what i was doing the guy was even older than me help

i have been check i dont have anything (std's)or nothing else
remember this was like 3 years ago

i dont want to sleep with him now i want that the next person i sleep with i want it to be the last one i want to be married before sleeping with someone again and i need him to know i dont want to lie and pretend his my first one.it wont be fair for him he loves me alot and he csres for me i dont want to lie

2007-11-03 12:06:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation Other - Cars & Transportation

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Whether you checked for STD's or not use protection. First maybe it was too recent for a STD to show up, second you can't take the chance that he doesn't have one. Remember herpes is forever, and aids is for a SHORT lifetime.pp

2007-11-03 12:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0 0

STOP. First, discard all your hang-ups and societal impulses. These are bullshit conventions imposed on you. Sex= Love and vice versa. This is CRAP. What do YOU feel? Think past what you have been taught. Think about YOUR desires, your needs. Tell the guy about your past, be honest with him, he'll appreciate it. It's easier to swallow the bitter truth than a candy-coated lie. And then follow your heart, marriage is a piece of paper, and love is a fantasy invented by people so that they can take advantage of each other. You know in your heart that what I am saying is true, love and all that goes with it is a lie. All that exists, is now. Right now. What do you want? Whatever it is, YOU have to take it, that's all there is to it.

2007-11-03 12:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 1 · 0 0

I dont agree with you at all. You shouldnt be thinking about marriage at 18. Its just that your still really inmature and you will realize that when you get older. You need to play the field a little and not get to serious. Your gonna do what you want but I think I'v got the best advice on this one. You shouldnt even bring it up with him. When the time is right he will bring it up. He wont understand what you want him to say when you start the conversation. He will know your poking for something but he wont know what and it wont end up the way you want it to and then you'll get mad. Trust Me.

2007-11-03 12:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by bob hoskins 2 · 0 0

This sounds more like a personal moral dilemma than a relationship issue. If you feel the need to breech the topic just say you made a regrettably poor decision earlier in your life. The reality is that it is more important how well you get along together than what you had done two or three years prior to meeting.

2007-11-03 12:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 0 0

Don't worry so much about it! If he asks, be honest, but I wouldn't look for a way to volunteer the information since he's obviously not worried about it (or else he'd have asked you when you brought it up before). If he finds out later and changes his opinion of you, then you don't need him anyway. Just stop thinking about it so much, and enjoy being with him (not in a physical way. . .)

2007-11-03 12:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by dave_g_28 2 · 0 0

Tell him the truth--just as you've told it to us.
If he's worth keeping he'll understand. If he's so shallow to think this is a serious issue, he might not stand up to the things that happen to all couples over time.

2007-11-03 12:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

*sigh* me being a bloke this'll probably be wrong but,

I suggest that if you like him, and he likes you, you should be able to tell him what you feel without him being angry/upset. just ask him for a "serious talk" and explain if it bugs you... you would also be better telling him first as most guys are overconfident. So, if he's as you think, you should explain before it all goes wrong...

2007-11-03 12:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just be serious and tell him what happened, I doubt he'd mind that since virginity isn't physical but more of a mind state.

2007-11-03 12:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by SoulSeeker 2 · 0 0

well sit him down over a nice dinner and just tell him the truth alease you know that you try to keep it real with himand if he loves you than he will live with that and remain you man

2007-11-03 12:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by snoop d 1 · 0 0

i think the kind of relationship you intend,honesty is the best policy.if he likes you in the 21st century ,these attitudes are mraningless.it is the person her charms,love affection and understanding which is important

2007-11-03 12:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by zee k 1 · 0 0

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