My Mum died nearly three years ago when I was 13, since then I've been living with my aunt, havn't seen my little brothers for months at a time, and have had a lot of problems going on.
I look forward to nights when I'm in alone, because I can cry without someone saying i need bereavment. I mean its normal for me to cry right?
But a lot of people have been saying I'm depressed, I can be fine one moment then the next I'm either sitting in silence staring at nothing at all; or I'm crying my eyes out. I'm almost always in a bad mood, so I take it out on who ever I'm talking to at the time. Which is really starting to p*ss people off tbh. I think about doing silly things a lot but I know I could never bring myself to do them.
My family keeps saying things; like when something falls in the kitchen someone will say 'Its your Mum', and I look to see if it is, then I just normally go upstairs and cry. A lot.
I cant talk to my family, but hate talking to strangers.
Help.. please.
2007-11-03 11:45:09 · 4 answers · asked by Littlen♥ 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I strongly agree with the other answerer. Bereavement counseling can be very helpful if you find a therapist with whom you are comfortable. Ask your favorite teacher if he or she can help you with the process. Good luck, and know that you are not alone.
2007-11-03 11:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by One Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is a difference between being sad and being depressed. I think you are just really sad that your mother isn't with you. I think you also miss your brothers. I think you need to spend more time with your brothers, I am sure they miss your mom too. I was 10 when my mom died. I was number 3 in a family of 8 kids. My older sister was your age when mom died. She ended up taking care of the little kids. My family was Catholic and having the priest to talk to really helped.
I know you hate talking to strangers but if there is a psychologist at your school it might help if you talk to them. Losing a loved one is hard but losing a parent at your age is the hardest of all. I am 48 now and I still think about my mom. You do need to talk to someone. Maybe you can talk to your grandmother. Brothers and sisters might help but they miss her too. I think talking to someone in confidence like a psychologist is you best choice. You can tell them anything you want and they won't tell anyone.
Good Luck
2007-11-03 19:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dave G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should seek therapy. I am sure you will miss your mother your whole life and I would not talk you out of it. Your mother was a gift to you. You should treasure her memory. I am sure she taught you to be kind and to bring joy to others. That is how you can honor her memory and keep her alive. And one of the people she would want to be happy is you. She had such plans for you. Know that she can still share in that if you make the most of the opportunities available to you and act in in way she would be proud of. She wanted you to live a better life than she did. Honor this wish and honor her memory.
2007-11-03 19:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a toughy. I dont really know what to say to make you feel better. I know you dont like talking to strangers, but have you thought about a counsellor? I was in a similar predicament and I brought myself to see a therapist, even though I hated the idea of it, and it really did help.
I hope for the best for you,
Take care of yourself!
2007-11-03 18:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by krisindeed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋