how can i stop beeing paranoid and shy?

Question

i m a really shy person and paraniod what can i do to stop the shyness and stop being paraniod.. cause i hate it

Answer 1

Take an acting or speach class. You will force yourself to get up with your peers and act that will help you reduce the anxiety of being exposed to people.

Answer 2

Why are you paranoid? Find that question out, then invalidate it.
You probably feel like less of a person then others, but it's not true. We all have our insecurities and problems but you can either let your insecurites run your life, or you can. The worst thing that will happen is that someone will not talk to you. If that is the case then who needs em... because that means they are more messed up then you. See it's all a perception.

Just smile... it's amazing how people react to a smile. You don't even have to say a word. People will come to you.

Also, to be more comfortable making conversation, look up conversation starters...other then the weather. ;O)

Answer 3

I would suggest talking to a therapist. You haven't stated what the reason is that you are paranoid. Do you think the government is after you? Are you afraid of strangers? Maybe you have social anxiety. To get a better insight into this problem, maybe you should visit www.anxietycoach.com.
There is nothing wrong with being shy. Not everyone is a life-of-the-party or a shining star. The world is usually kept going by quiet people going about their business who are not seeking the limelight. Try to accept yourself for who you are.
Try to remember that all those people you see out in the world are more concerned about how people perceive them than they are seeking to judge other people. They want to fit in and judge how well they are doing by looking at others. Those people we call judgmental are people who choose the offensive - they want to judge other people before other people judge them so no one will talk about them - in their hearing anyway.

Answer 4

This is difficult to answer. I was paranoid and also shy and to be honest I was always so defencive . Sometimes I think it is because of low self-esteem. I am older now and I would like to think a bit wiser.. Just think dose it really matter what people think of you. You would be surprised how many people feel the same as you. You only have one life so.

Try your best be a nice person and don't worry about people because you can bet your bottom dollar they are not worrying about you. Have fun be happy and don't you worry about other peeps its not worth it . xx

Answer 5

I'm the same! Everytime when I'm around boys I get so shy and just stay quiet, I wait for them to talk to me. But now and then I like to start with something simple and maybe try to find something that we have incommon. I like to start with " you got any pets?" or " why type of movies you like?" So for example if he likes reptiles (I too like) then I'd say what type of snake I like and I've had pet snakes before.../ Or If he says he likes horror I'd ask him if he's seen the grudge and I'd talk about it. Easiest thing to talk about if you have something in common. Hope I helped! Xx

Answer 6

Well, I will assume you do not live in a country where you will persecuted for speaking your mind. This being the case then stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself right in your eyes.

Next, say this to yourself as many times as needed to discover how wonderful and powerful you are. Say it outloud.
Say it until it becomes a song in your mind!!!

"I am a gift to this world!"

Keep saying it, never forget it and never give up!!!

Answer 7

I am the same. I always feel like everyone is staring at me and judging me.

I get anxious just doing everyday things. Right now i have to take my daughter to a friends house, i am panicking as i am thinking i will have to talk to the other parents and what will they think of me etc...

Need to build self esteem. Need someone who is like minded to do it together? I live in FNQ. don't suppose you live near?

Answer 8

you and me both ..
i found two ways to combat it
1) force yourself to do things alone where you normally worry that you can't do alone even if simple things like shopping or going to a pub for a drink alone.
what this does in time is stops you feeling like you being watched by everyone and builds confidence but i be honest its horrible to start with but i just had to convince myself that no one is bothered what im doing lol
2) this i havent tried but i would like too.....
find someone who thinks the same and do things together that you hate doing alone so you help each other out and boost each others confidence...
only problem is finding ssomeone willing to admit they are like you...

where do you live lol ?

x

Answer 9

I feel the same. When i swas a kid is was bullied alot so tended to stay alone. I now find it hard to trust people when they say there my friend or try to get close i expect them to turn on me like before. I just try to suppres that feeling now and take them at face value. Still find it hard to open up though.

Answer 10

Q,,,How do you stop a car?
A,,,By putting on the brakes.

That's what you must do with your mind. It's running away with you.