I am a class 12th gal (that makes it more embarrassing). I have a boyfriend in my class who is also the son of our principal. Unfortunately our principal came to know about our affair. He called an assembly of all students( both gals &guys ), stated the reason for assembling as to witness my punishment. He pulled me on to stage and straight away lifted the front portion of my skirt and caned me everywhere. I was made to stand skirt-lifted showing my underwear to whole school for the rest of the day. I cried my heart out that day. I was extremely embarrassed & humiliated. All our school guys watched me like that! everybody saw everything. 2 weeks past now i haven't gone to school. I too ashamed to tell my parents... somebody plz help with suggestions. Is this sexual harassment or does these kind of punishments occur often in your schools...
2007-11-03 09:56:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
My boyfriend has stopped speaking to me. He is thinking very low of me now
2007-11-03 10:15:01 · update #1
I am in Srilanka
2007-11-03 10:32:07 · update #2
I hope you're making this up. I know there was a big news story of an American student in Singapore who was sentenced to be caned for littering in the street. After some major news hullabaloo, he actually was caned; and there were no further news stories about him (which would seem to indicate that he recovered okay). The disturbing parts of your story (not to discount the pain factor) are the requirement that you show your underwear all day and the fact that the principal who caned you was your boyfriend's father. In the U.S., this would have constituted a conflict of interest (where public duty [maintaining decorum in the school] conflicted with private interest [keeping his son away from you]). Unless you were fornicating openly on the tanbark during recess, it is hard to see how your punishment served anything but the principal's private interest.
I'm not sure how these things work in Sri Lanka, but in the United States it would be conflict of interest to use your capacity as school principal to express your disapproval of your son's girlfriend by beating her. I believe in the U.S., your family would be able to sue him for damages (personal-injury lawsuit, which if you are a minor would have to be initiated by your parents).
Again, I hope you're making this up. If you're not making this up, consider yourself lucky to be rid of a boyfriend who is being raised by a man who would beat and humiliate you in public.
2007-11-03 16:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by amy02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't told your parents? Haven't they even asked why you aren't going to school? They have to know -- IMMEDIATELY.
Civil rights in Sri Lanka may be different than in other parts of the western world, but what happened to you would qualify as assault, and that person would be charged and tried - and very likely jailed for doing what he did.
It is interesting that you were the one who was humiliated and punished - and your boyfriend got off scott free, as though he had nothing to do with the situation.
But his reaction - not talking to you - shows that he wasn't a very good boyfriend in any case. He certainly isn't showing much backbone, or compassion. You are well rid of him.
But that question aside, talk to your parents and lodge a complaint. That is cruel punishment and if it isn't unlawful where you live, it certainly should be.
2007-11-03 11:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take 10% of everything you have, sell it, and give the money to the Poor. . . Repent all your Sins individually, since you were born. You will need the help of a co-confessor, who will tell you about their sins, as you do about yours'. . . Calculate by how many pounds you are overweight, or underweight (use negative integern if necessary), and add that figure to the number 40. Go without eating for 50-100% THAT number of days, BUT be very sure to drink at least TWO LITRES of Fresh Water every day. (Be sure to follow the EXACT regimen for resuming eating again, so as to retain all the benefits of your fasts.) . . This will totally punish that nasty (*Bleep!*)ard you once were.
2016-04-02 02:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with the people who don't think this really happened. Also, being in the United States, I only know the laws and acceptable behaviors of my own country. It may be that this is a common practice in other countries. Who knows? Just like we don't know whether this is a true account of an incident or some twisted little story maker.
2007-11-04 02:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by REM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing like that would occur in any school, even in countries that allow caning as a form of punishment.
i am not sure if that can be filed as sexual harassment since he didn't molest you but that is not acceptable. and if you ask me i would consider it as sexual harassment. caning is fine but humiliating you in front of people and especially with your skin bared is not acceptable at all, not even with the biggest crime you could ever commit in school. i am from a country that allows caning in schools but no one would allow such thing to happen. i can understand boys being caned on the back and butt for whatever things they do but girls are not supposed to be treated like you did.
tell your parents about the incident and submit a report to the ministry/board of education (or whatever you're calling that in your country). he deserves something for doing that to you. get help. if you're traumatized by the incident get someone to help you go through it.
p/s - i don't believe you're a school girl from sri lanka. i happen to chat with some past your age and their english were damn crappy i can hardly understand anything. but someone might need the answer for something like this
2007-11-03 13:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by butterflower 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, then you need to speak to your parents, the police, and social services. This is awful. No it is not right, it is totally wrong and is considered abuse and not discipline. Yes, it is sexual harassment and you need to let someone know in authority. I know this is scary if what you are saying is true, but these people need to be punished, any adults who let it go on and especially the principle. Good Luck. You need to stand up for yourself. Please get help with this situation. No one, no matter what, should have to go through that.
2007-11-03 10:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start calling the media; this was inappropriate. I dont care if you live in Utah, Iowa or Wisconsin. I wouldnt have stood there all day but tell your parents now and let them see this posting or email it to them and ask them what they think about this situation.
NOW THAT THEY KNOW TAKE ACTION. Find someone who is willing to admit that this took place. go to your schools code of conduct for students and for staff-there should be something there that addresses this
God Bless
2007-11-03 10:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by msijg 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds relatively unlikely to be true, but if it is true, then yes, that most certainly is sexual harassment. Tell your parents right away, and let your school board know, anyone higher up than your principal.
2007-11-03 10:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If what you say happened is true, it is TOTALLY unacceptable behaviour and, as it was the Principal who did it, you must tell your parents and they in turn should report it to the Board of Governors of your school.
2007-11-03 10:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Michael B 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell somebody!! That is totally unacceptable!! You need to let your parents know, and the principal should be fired!
2007-11-03 10:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by ishtar_hecate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋