How can being an introvert harm a persons social life?

Question

Has anyone got usefull info about this matter? even from their own experience.

I am an introvert, just wondering what I can do to make the most of myself, I often find my self giving up too quickly in most things that are of social matter. One other thing, for those who know a good website about this can you please give me the links to it.
Thank you.

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. It just means that you prefer having a few close friends to lots of friends that you don't know so well. Introverts still like to socialise. They just need time on their own, to recharge (whereas extroverts recharge by being around people, and struggle to be on their own).

Being introverted shouldn't harm your social life, since you would not want the same kind of social life as extroverts in any case. Being painfully shy might, but that's another matter.

I like introverts. I feel like when they talk to me, they mean what they say, whereas an extrovert might say the same things to everyone.

Answer 2

The problem with being an introvert is that some of us guys never manage to get ourselves a girlfriend. I'm about 30 years old, and such is my story.

With girls -- they don't tend to ask guys out. They don't tend to ask for your number. Usually, they expect the guy to make the first move. Which is a challenge in and of itself for even non-introverted guys.

For the normal guy, usually there is some conversation that connects the guy and a girl together. But for the introvert; even that much cannot be taken for granted. So asking a girl out becomes more like asking out a total stranger.

Moreover, often times when a girl sees a guy with another girl, they are attracted to the guy more, which is nice deal for the extrovert. But the converse is also true. If a girl sees you all alone, they think there is a reason for that -- perhaps you are some kind of creep; and so they keep their distance.

Which is often the case for the introvert; because he doesn't normally talk--He doesn't usually carry a lot of friends.

Granted, women are over half of the world's population, but in your distorted world they soon become very rare. Over time, you start to put these rarities on a pedestal. To value them greatly. Soon, women become like true goddesses. You may develop an inferiority complex; perhaps you don't feel worthy to even speak to them. And the problem only gets worse from there.

And then... with no women in your life; you sort of self-implode. You feel as if you were in an endless ocean...constantly drifting, only to discover more ocean.
You may turn to pornography as a substitute for your emptiness and lonliness. You may also develop strange and embarrassing fetishes. It soon becomes unhealthy and addictive, and you may even become so addicted that you carry it into the secrecy of your workplace.

In short, it is a serious problem that only seems to aggravate itself. Obviously, not all forms of introversion lead to these severe consequences; this only is to show what might become under extreme circumstances.

Answer 3

Some friendships require a certain amout of openess that introverted people are less likely to be comfortable with. Less openess, less ability to relate, less friends. That's the way my psychology professor explained it anyway. Long time ago....

Answer 4

you sulk most of the time.. and so you eventually lose what's left of your social life... try being in the middle of being an intro and extrovert.. it's much better.