I'm up-to-date on child support, was a good bio. father, just haven't visited in a year due to my ex- & her husband being across the country(but I do call& send gifts).
My ex- has had sole custody for a year now and I want to move on with my life. My ex- & her husband ( he makes 100k per year, I make $40k) agreed to let me terminate my parental rights and let him adopt the kids. We are all for this even the kids. Of course, money does play into this somewhat but I can't tell the judge this (child support is $972 plus$368 medical per mo.) Me, my ex-, and her new husband have always communicated easily and they say that I can stay at their house anytime after this is all over to visit the kids. However, even if this were not the case I would be okay with this. The kids are 11 and 13.
What reasons can I write to the judge to make this go through? I'm willing to lie to get this over with.
2007-11-03 07:56:27 · 7 answers · asked by wow 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
One problem is that the judge talked to the kids and they admit they still love me. And when he asked when I spoke to her last...she said two weeks ago.
2007-11-03 08:05:33 · update #1
I think you are all missing the point. A judge will not just grant a step-parent adoption because everyone agrees to it. He has to follow guidelines as to what circumstances are in the child's best interest. I feel I need to stop paying support and ignore the kids for a year to be understood by this judge.
2007-11-03 08:20:36 · update #2
You tell the judge that all of you feel that it is in the best interest of the children. That while they love you they have a strong bond with their stepfather, and he is the one whom is there day to day taking care of them. They can be carried on his health insurance if he adopts them, they will be entitled to inheritance from him if he dies, and they will have a more stable life not having to deal with mom's house and dad's house and the issues that go with that situation.
I would be honest and say that you do not wish to willfully abandon your children just to have to get this done, that voluntarily terminating your rights is something that you have thought over for quite some time, and feel that it truly is what is in the best interest of the children and that is all you have ever wanted for them...the best possible life.
I would also share your plans for an open stepparent adoption. Open adoptions are when there is still contact between the relinquishing parent (you) and the adoptive family and child(ren). The children are not going to lose you out of their lives completely, you are stepping back as their legal parent so that they can have the stability and normalcy of a nuclear family, as well as the financial stability that goes along with an intact family.
You can also tell the truth about your financial situation, you simply can't afford to keep this up, so instead of eventually falling behind on child support and facing the legal ramifications of that, as well as knowing that your children are not receiving the money that they depend on for day to day life, you are willing to sign over your rights so that they will have the love, financial stability, and normalcy that they deserve, and that you are at peace with the decision because you know that you can still see them and have a relationship with them, in your eyes the children will then receive the best of both worlds.
"best interest of the children" is a buzz word/prase it's a good thing to use. Judges must make their decisions based on the best interest of the children.
check out the link for more info on stepparent adoption
2007-11-05 00:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Julie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually with a step parent adoption, you should be able to "simply" sign the paperwork - essentially that you do not object to the adoption.
May I suggest they contact to the county attorney where they are at? I know where I used to live, the county atty did all the paperwork for almost nothing - IF the biological parent agreed to the adoption.
Good Luck to you all.
2007-11-03 08:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My understanding is that it's pretty much just a matter of saying that you want to...if the mother is on board, I don't see a problem.
Most states have a website where you can find out most things like this. Do a search for your state's website and include the words "terminate parental rights" in quotes like you see here.
2007-11-03 08:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Graham M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That last sentence speaks volumes.
The standard for this application is the best interests of the child.
You do not love the children. They are just an economic burden. You would even lie to be rid of the burdens, economic, emotional and social, that the children represent.
The children would be better in foster care than having to be around a father who wants to be free from them.
That should do the trick.
Now I gotta go wash my hands a few dozen times.
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2007-11-03 08:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie. The judge has probably seen it all before. You should talk to an attorney.
However, I think all you need to do is agree to the adoption for it to go through.
2007-11-03 08:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Brian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you get a courtroom order to alter your son's call, you do no longer want the adoptive mothers and dads' permission. Bio mom signed over her rights whilst the ladies legally observed your baby, she isn't any longer interior the image different than that her call is on the baby's delivery certifiate. Your husband now has custody. Petition the courtroom to alter the baby's final call. solid success
2016-10-03 06:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to lie. They need to make an application for adoption and you need to consent to it. Bingo Bango done and done.
2007-11-03 08:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by elysialaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋