What are the effects on a child when that happens?
And we all know that it doesn't happen often but we know that it does.
My mom died and that was bad enough.
2007-11-03 07:55:45 · 6 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
it's just as bad as when a father bails. but i have to ask myself, as a mother who loves her son and would never "bail" no matter how hard it got, are these kids better off without these "selfish" moms in their lives?
or
maybe these women were not meant to be mothers and wanted to spare their kids the burden of having a negative force in their life? i would rather have no parents than have two that didn't want me. i would rather be motherless than know she was sad and depressed about having me. i don't know what kind of person i would be if my mother wasn't loving and well, motherly.
either way, yeah it's hard. i love my mother and cannot imagine life without her. i love my son and i would never leave him. parenthood isn't for everyone and some make choices for themselves, some for others...we really should judge on an individual basis.
2007-11-03 09:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a mom I just have a hard time understanding why another women would do that to your kids. It has so much effect on children, there need that connection with their mothers that is where they learn there identity from how they learn how to bound with another person, how to feel when to feel what to feel. As mothers we are the teachers of so much and if it is not shown by the mother someone must teach it. the childs emotional well being is at risk. What you learn from your mom can sometimes not be show by anyone other then the mom
2007-11-05 00:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by kdhsalb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of one woman who bailed on her daughter, moved hundreds of miles away to attend graduate school. The daughter was left with her father who is wealthy, but still...the mother pays no child support, never sends a gift or a card and when she comes to visit, she hardly spends any time with the girl. She's kind of nuts, high strung, and complains constantly. If you can't be a parent that's one thing, but I just can't understand completely disconnecting yourself. If you need to do that then just stay away completely.
The child is a little strange and too mature for a 6 year old, but I shudder to think how things would be for her if the mom was around. I can only imagine the pain the girl is going to have to sort through later in life. Her dad is a good dad, but the kid spends entirely too much time with caretakers. It's very sad.
2007-11-03 17:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whenever a parent leaves it is hard on the children. How the remaining parent copes and deals with the children is how the children are affected. Some fathers can take on the role of mother and father but some cannot. As long as there is a female figure that the children are close to such as an aunt or grandmother the children will have someone to relate to.
2007-11-03 15:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't think off a worst fate for a child, then to imagine the reasons , why their mother would not want them and would leave them.
2007-11-03 19:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to trust that people will stick around. and the lack of a mothers unconditional love sucks.
2007-11-03 15:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by smarternow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋